Do I have anything worth living for anymore?

Question

I have just lost my girlfriend whom i love like no other. I was going to ask her to marry me in two weeks. But she ended it. My mom wants me to die and has wanted me to die ever since i started thinking for myself because i cost her money. And even though i have two jobs and work my *** off she still wants me dead. I have an abusive/alchoholic stepfather that likes to get drunk and come home and beat me till i can barley breathe. I have no postivley suppportive friends and i am completly alone in life. I have nothing to live for plain and simple.

Answer 1

Don't let other people's problems and issues taint your life. I'm very sorry to hear about your problems with your girlfriend and your mom. I hope that you don't still live at home with your abusive, selfish mom and stepfather. I'd suggest you move, even if you have your own place. Move and don't tell these people where you are. Get some space and find out what you want from life. Everyone has something to live for. Even if it's just the simple pleasures in life. Enjoy a walk in the park, eat a really good meal, buy a motorcycle. Something, anything you enjoy. Eventually, you will find larger things to look forward to. I know it seems pretty bleak, I've been there. But the future is worth living for, because you can make it yours.

Answer 2

Call the police if he touches you again. You don't say how old you are. If you are over a certain age in some states you can move out. You have 2 jobs and long term hotels are less than $200 a week. Then all you have is food and getting to work. You can find a roommate to help. If you are in school, talk with a school couselor. They also have resources. If you are under 18 there is a children's home run by the Church Of God organization in Sevierville Tn. There are also boys homes and girls homes that take in kids. Talk to someone in authority to get you out of that situation. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Firstly, since you are working already, I think you should get a place of your own. You are living in a very negative environment with a mother who wants you dead and a abusive step-father. GET OUT of that house because it is seriously unhealthy for anyone who lives in such conditions. Even I would feel unloved. Try making some friends. Don't tell them about your predictment immediately. Just try to get to know them and maybe when they want to know more you can tell them someday. As for your girlfriend, they are many other woman in this world who could be smarter, more beautiful, more loving and so on and maybe even love you more than she ever that. I don't think you can be so unattractive if you had a girlfriend in the first place. Try to be happy and not think about whatever might make you unhappy. Live your life to the fullest cos you only have one life. Live it.((:

Answer 4

You didn't mention how old you are. If you're over eighteen, and can support yourself (you said you work two jobs), move out. Even if you have to share an apartment, it's got to be better than living in your parents' house.

If you're under eighteen, you can look into emancipation:

http://www.larcc.org/pamphlets/children_family/teen_emancipation.htm
http://www.jlc.org/index.php/factsheets/emancipationus


I know things seem awful right now but, if you deal with things one by one, you'll accomplish more than if you feel like you're buried under a mountain of problems.

Give your girlfriend time. She might just need a breather. If you've been under a lot of stress at home, that could have effected your relationship with her. Work on improving your life, in general. If you get back together with her, wonderful. If not, realize that it's better to have a relationship end before marriage than after years of unhappiness, and maybe even several children have come from it.

I know it's hard to see an end to the tunnel you feel like you're in, but things can improve if you give yourself a chance.

Answer 5

Hon just give it some time. True Love always returns. If it was meant to be she will come back to you. and I know right now it is hard to believe but you will find "The One" one day just give it some time, you will find someone who will love you like no other. I have been through diffrent times in my life where I thought that it couldn't get any worse, but I just alway keep in the back of my mind that things will get better but sometimes you have to give it a little kick start. If you are living with your mom and stepfather then you need to get out of there asap, move on with your life and as far as the man who is beating you, you really need to turn him in as hard as it may sound.
Just keep your head up and look forward, not backward. It will get better, just remember that.

Answer 6

How old are you? You're old enough to live to home with awful parents and get beaten, but also old enough to get married? I can't figure out your age, and knowing would make a huge difference in my answer.

If you're under 18, try and document your parents behavior somehow. Can you videotape your dad beating you? Take your documentation to the police. They'll get you out of the home if necessary. You'll receive counseling services as well, which will help you through this depression.

If you're over 18, take that money you make working your a*s off and move out. Please try and find some counseling as well.

You have a lot to live for, you just don't know it yet. You have a beautiful wife and kids waiting for you down the road. You have a career and a home... and happiness. Just wait it out, it'll happen for you.


(((Hugs)))

Answer 7

i know things seem down right now , i used to be in a similar situation. when your really at the end of your rope instead of doing anything rash you can go to your school counselor and they can help u. if your dad is really hitting u they will have officers go to your house and question him. You'll be okay. I think it's very admirable that you're working two jobs...you sound like a great catch for some girl out there in your near future, just hang in there, when your down there's no place to go but up. You can maybe try moving into your own place or find room mates.

Answer 8

OMG! don't do anything irrational! THERE'S ALWAYS A WAY OUT! your mom sounds like an unloving biatch....and step-dad should not lay a hand on you! if you're under 18 you need to try to get emancipated and get the hell outta there! see if there's UNABUSIVE relatives or friends you can stay with instead....that will be genuinely supportive of what you're going through....dont do drugs or alcohol or listen to sad music....it will only make you feel worse. above all....PRAY! you may not believe in God...but i too was feeling like you before....and I'm so glad i didnt die....because now things are okay. =) God is always there for you....even if you cant see him.

I'll say a prayer just for you tonite okay? xoxoxoxo =)

Answer 9

This really sounds almost too horrible to believe. I can't believe any mother would hate her child. If the situation is as bad as you say, then I think you should try to find another living arrangement. You say you have two jobs. If there is a non-emergency line where you live, I would call them and ask for assistance. I am sorry for what has happened to you.

Answer 10

Yes, you do. Living is the best thing you can do for yourself. Remember, this too, shall pass.

I don't know how old you are but as soon as you are able, leave. Nothing can ever be accomplished in an abusive environment. There are plenty of like-minded people out there...the trick is to find them. With the internet, that shouldn't be too hard. Look, there is always hope....hope is what keeps us all going....