does the number of people you've slept with really matter?

Question

some people i know really care about having only a few partners who they've shared their bodies with. however, some other people i know have been safe and have had many partners. they just see it as recreational. what do you think?

Answer 1

it does not bug me to know how many my mate has been with, it just says they were not the right one for him, and hopefully i can satisfy him better then the rest of the girls did, but it is true alot care about how many you been with, if your a free person and don't matter how many partners they been with then i would suggest finding one like that as well, or simply say what happened in my past is my past and i would rather not tell you that, it can put a strain on the relationship asap, then there gonna have the hamster wheel turning in there head big time. But in all to me its no big deal, and i don't think anyone should now how many partners you each had thats your past, it made you a better and wiser person today.

Answer 2

By the time I was your age I had only been with 4 men. Your number is quite excessive for your age. Since you doubting what you have been doing and the perception that you are giving out then I strongly suggest that you start taking a different approach to sex. From what I have learned women with a high number of sexual partners do have a more difficult time finding a good solid relationship. I am not going to judge you because I don't know your situation and I was a little wild when I was younger. I will give you a piece of advice though slow down now you still have time you will regret what you have done later on once you have finally found the one. Good luck.

Answer 3

Not really, depending on your own morals, but after saying that, I wish I had of waited and not been bullied into it in my teens, guys have a way of making you feel like you arent worth anything unless you sleep with them, but the total opposite is true, they tell their mates that they have even if they havent, so you cant win either way, but you'll know the truth, the idea of keeping yourself until marriage, is very romantic but not always practical, unless you are totally dedicated, all I can say is follow your head not your heart and when you say no mean no, you are not a piece of meat just for their amusement, there are guys out there that are decent and mean what they say, you just have to distinguish between the two and thats hard, goodluck to you, listen to your head not your heart and you cant go wrong. Also be very careful of stds, so dont just use condoms, use the pill or some other device, discuss it with your doctor what suits you best, be careful though as I said there are diseases that can sterilise a woman and there are no symptoms, so you have to think about whether or not you want a family as well, be very very careful, I wish you well, you sound very sensible!

Answer 4

I think that the ones with many partners don't really care about their own apperance. I mean come on, when you hear of a person sleeping with a lot of people, what do you assume first? "Wow she's a skank", right. Sex isn't somthing that i just want to do with someone off the street. It's something very special and i only want to share that with someone who i truely love. I personaly don't want the whole town knowing what i do with other people and thats exactly what happens when you give it away like that. Just always be safe and respect yourself enough to keep certain things for that really special someone.

Answer 5

Everyone is different. Take porn stars. You have to have a certain mentality to do that kind of work. They have many partners but don't think it is wrong at all. While religious people will send you to hell for having more than 1 partner in a lifetime. Be careful Be safe and Be yourself!

Answer 6

I am in my forties, never married and have had sex with over 100 women. Luckily I have never had a sexually transmitted disease( always use a condom). I have a lot of great memories and am in some ways glad I have led the life I have led sexually but on the other hand I can't tell you how jealous I am of my friend who married his high school sweet heart ( they were each others first and only) and they are still together and have three great kids. I say go down the path that makes you feel good. It's your life but just remember your the one who has to live with the choices you make, good or bad

Answer 7

Does it matter to you?
I once slept with 7 different people, at 7 different times in one day...but the most I think was at an orgy in Boston
Hmmm lets see, last year I added at least 2 a day x 365 x about 5 years,, is that a lot?
Why are you concerned, would it matter to you if I was your boyfriend, if it does , then I guess it MATTTER mostly to you.
Have FUN and play safe!
I am like the energiser bunny on Red Bull and Stoli!

Answer 8

honestly it does sorta make me uncomfortable...im 21 and only been w/ 4..and my bf who is 25 has been w/ like 17 partners. When i found that out i was really uncomfortable with it...but all in all im glad i know ya know...cuz if i didnt then i would always be wondering if he was a hoe or not.That is the past though..and all that matters is that that person is with you for all the right reasons and not trying to use you. If they are...stay away.

Answer 9

Its not so much a matter of experiance for me, its a matter of safety. However when it comes to having some thing or finding out you have some thing but dont know where you got it...... how many people to you want to say to "I have this thing, and you might have it" and than they tell their partners and before you know it its all over town.

Answer 10

i dont think it matters.. as long as it has been safe sex.. the number does not matter.. and yes some people use sex as aa recreational thing.. or they are just really horny all the time and they find a partner that feels the same way.. good for them...