I asked my guest book attendant ( a 16 yr old student of mine who I thought was responsible) about 6 weeks before the wedding to hand out programs at the wedding and do the guest book at the reception. I bought her a corsage, listed her in the program, and bought her a gift. At the reception, her parents came in late and told my husband she had to babysit instead. I am very frustrated with her (many people did not sign book) and don't know what to say. Any suggestions?
2007-06-22 20:07:52 · 14 answers · asked by musicchic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
keep your mouth shut.
For all you know she was punished by her parents and was made not to attend and they used babysitting as an excuse.
Things happen, it isn't that huge of a loss - you have pictures of everyone who was there...
signing a guest book is a choice - not an abligation...it isn't your non-showing attendant's fault if people didn't sign.
2007-06-22 20:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Consult etiquette. You need the correct professional way to handle this, with a note, etc. An acknowledgment of the incident and slight, or you may be advised to let it go. Try Judith Martin, :"Miss Manners", she will answer your question.
The girl is sixteen, old enough to be responsible, and didn't have the courtesy to inform you herself, you can't go after her parents. This was a major slight on her part, and could make you feel you missed an important aspect of your wedding. Keep the gift for someone you like, or return it for credit or cash.
I am looking for a cool conclusion as they give wisdom at the close of their advice. The photographs should provide a list of the guests in attendance, although she cost you a lot in memories at an important milestone in your life. Her parents didn't volunteer to take her place, and make sure your wedding was as planned. I wouldn't include the girl or her parents in future events in your married life.
2007-06-23 02:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shes 16. Its her parents who should be teaching her to take responsibility seriously. I think you should let it go.
And as for your guest book, I see you are upset, but it may be better to just laugh it off and salvage what you can (maybe add the cards you received to fill up the pages?). That way every time you look back on your wedding day, you dont have these negative thoughts.
Nothing is perfect in any wedding. We should look back on what did go right, and laugh at what didnt.
2007-06-23 07:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you can voice your opinion as to that you are very dissappointed and she let you down. But she is a teen and your gonna half to get over it and the adults showed know when you go to a wedding sign the BOOK, so you can't blame her for that. and if I were a teen, I would rather make some money to spend than sit at your wedding, maybe you should have paid her
2007-06-23 06:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by Hi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The student was 16 years old. However, babysitting is far from a good excuse. I would tell her I bought her a corsage and gift and feel disappointed she didn't show up and follow through with her promise. Explain that it's not okay to not show up and not give you some kind of advance warning. Tell her you really felt let down and you felt hurt and angry. There really isn't more you can do. I know an apology doesn't really cut it but that's probably all you will get. I would feel really mad too.
2007-06-22 20:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by amyaz_98 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It sucks that you're out the money for her gift and corsage, but trust me: you won't even look at the guest book again after your first anniversary. It's one of those stupid traditions that I wish I hadn't bothered with at my wedding because all it was was an added expense (even though it was small).
Forget about it and move on. You're married now. Don't you have better things to spend your time on?
2007-06-23 01:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-03 00:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by scheele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think since she is a student of yours, you should just let it go. It's a shame not everyone signed the book, but try to look on the bright side, she wasnt filling that important of a roll.
2007-06-23 10:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't say anything except " missed you at the wedding"
she is 16 and did not realize the importance of the task
her lack of knowledge and experience
of course, I wonder why her parents did not do better to guide her
2007-06-23 01:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unlike these other people answering, i would be MAD! you mad plans and she broke them. 16 is old enough to pick up a phone and let you know what is going on. she already had prior plans with you so she should have not took a babysitting job and her parents are to blame as well. you need to call this girl and ask what her problem is
2007-06-22 20:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋