Should I just break up with my girl friend before she finds out what I did?

Question

I live with my girlfriend and her sister and her best friend. My Girlfriend went out of town for work last week. I made an authentic mexican dinner for the sister and the friend and we were all drinking margiritas. We started talking about fantasys that we had and I like most guys have the fantasy of having two girls at the same time. They giggled and we kept talking about fantasys etc. A little while later and a few margiritas later they went back into one of the bedrooms. They called me back there and they were both naked on the bed. Well you know what happened next ( it was everything I thought it would be). The next day the sister was really feeling guilty about the whole thing. Since then I have had to constantly talk her out of coming clean to my girlfriend. I am afraid she is going to tell her and then all hell will break loose. Do I just ride it out and hope it all works out? Or do I get out while the gettings good?

Yikes I am getting beat up in here. This is why I don't plan on coming clean to my girlfriend. The girls in yahoo answers want to kick my *** and they don't even know me. I do feel sorry for what happened . Sort of. I feel like I didn't really do anything wrong. I could not pass up an opprotunity like that. There's no way I am ever going to have a chance to act out a fantasy like that. They were the ones that hit on me, not the other way around. If you ask me I am an innocent victim( mabey not vitim but you know what I mean)

Here is the thing. I love the house we live in and I am only paying $400 a month for my share. My girfriend is a serious cutie and her sister and friend are hella cool. I like my living arrangment and to be really honest thats what I am afraid of losing more than just losing my girlfriend.

Answer 1

Hmmm, presented with the same offer of sin, Im sure many men would of fallen where you have.... I only hope that it was completely awesome so as to make up for the loss you will inevitably incur. This one will come out, and it sounds as though the living arrangement you have was fairly convenient - is being with your girlfriend something you do, or something that means the world to you? If youre not in love with her, it may be best to organise somewhere else to live (plead with her sister for silence for that long) and tell your gfnd to her face, without pulling punches and then say youre sorry and go. Or, you could explain to your girlfriend what happened, plead, cry, tell her you love her (if you do), explain that alcohol and the lure of a menage a trois with two women was too much for you and you succumbed. Women have taken men back after having done even worse things than that - maybe (unlikely, admittedly) but maybe, you guys will be able to work through it. Obviously, whichever way you go, there will be a change in your living arrangements. Id say shell be more pissed at her sister, as blood is meant to be thicker than water. Im not gonna chastise you, like I said, hard to resist temptation sometimes however i dont envy your current position. Good luck, whatever is meant to be, will undoubtedly be. Next time, it might be best to be naughty, while you are single, or two involve your gfnd in the threeseome instead of doing it without her but hey, you live and you learn.

Answer 2

Man, you screwed up big time. The two cardinal rules of dating. Don't sleep with her sister, and don't sleep with her friends. And you did both. At the same time.

You may as well confess and get it over with. You're going to be singled out as the villain. The girls will stick together to a certain extent, even with their own actions being a problem. But the whole start to this will be: Why were you making a fancy dinner for my sister and friend? And why were you sharing your fantasies with them. If you don't confess, and the sister, or the friend breaks down and tells her, it will probably be worse. By the time your girlfriend confronts you, there will have been much "I'm so sorry" from the other girls and excuses about how romantic you were and how drunk you got them. So by the time you hear about it, you will have taken advantage of them.

I'm sorry that you're going to catch hell, actually no. You really messed up. Eventually this will catch up to you, so you might as well take the heat now instead of letting it fester.

Answer 3

Hell no. Stay with the girl. If her sister comes clean and the best friend, just keep claiming they are crazy. Say they are jealous of the relationship that the two of you have. The key thing here is deny, deny, deny. Never fess up to it. Say stuff like how you feel hurt that she would think that you would do something like that, etc. Just keep practicing when you are alone the denial and shock. You should be good then. Never admit to it, even if your girlfriend breaks up with you over it, that way she will never know truly if you did. Just keep cool and everything will work out to your advantage. Oh and congrats on the the threesome.

Answer 4

Well my advice is to neither "ride it out as you said" or "get out while the gettings good." What you have failed to say is that you are sorry about what has happened though, and that kind of disturbs me. If you even remotely care for your girlfriend, you would come clean about what happened and end the relationship right there and then.

You cheated, and that's not right. I hate to be blunt, but that's what happened. It sounds like you would rather just pretend like the entire thing never happened so far as it pertains to your girlfriend, and that's not fair to her. It's not fair to her, and it's not fair to her sister which you are pressuring to keep her mouth shut about what happened. It's time to man up, and end it all.

Answer 5

First i will say WAY TO GO!!! Second I think you and the Sister and Friend need to sit down and talk to you GF and tell her what happened and that the Alcohol took over and you know that is not an excuse. She will be pissed. But maybe she wants a Threesome. Best of Luck.

Answer 6

How could you do such a disgusting thing...your girlfriends sister must feel guilty and even you must guilty....I think before the sister tells your girlfriend everything you should yourself tell her the truth....I don`t guarantee that your girlfriend would forgive you but its better than someone else telling her the truth...she would feel even more bad to listen from someone else`s mouth.
Dont be scared just tell her....but please don`t expect an immidiate reaction, give her some time to think....and also you think about the situation carefully and act properly....

Answer 7

be a man and stand up to all you have done. Do you really think it will just go away? It will color your relations with all of these women going forward. Honesty may be painful in the short term but easier in the long term. Live with the decisions you make in life and don't hide from the consequences.

Unless you are a sociopath, but then you have bigger problems.

Answer 8

You're girlfriend will never forgive you.Can you imagine being betrayed by you're boyfriend,you're friend,and you're sister all at once?You also seem to have no regrets.Do you even love this girl?I think you should come clean,pack you're crap,and hope that she lets you leave ,...with you're balls intact.

Answer 9

Deny deny deny??? I dont know about that one. The truth always ends up coming up at the end...and sometimes to haunt us. I mean I'd love to say that its best if you come out clean and tell her what happened urself than she find out from another means..but ya, idk
Honesty is always the best policy anyways. Sounds cheesy..but soo true.

Answer 10

you sleezy azzhole. SHAME ON YOU. Not only do you need to tell her the truth and nothing but the truth, but you should feel like shittttt. Goes to show what type of lame guy you are.
Stop being a boy, and try acting like a man.