The day I asked him for one month of not seeing eachother to clear our heads, he shows up with an engagement ring. I asked him not to buy me one for I could get it at cost and I didn't even want a diamond ring. Since I've been in the jewelry business for 22 years and I just had to look at it with a lens...it's what I do! It was a fake, scratches in the gold, fithy like it had been worn for a long time, also lazar cut so it wasn't his mothers ring and this man claims to be a millionair plus. He said " you're not a wholesale woman", and lead me to believe he had bought the ring from a jewelry store in another town. So if he has money and wants to marry me...why did he do this? Why the deception? I would have been happy with a simple twenty dollar ring and why can't he respect my wishes? And on top of all of this he's a psychologist.
2007-06-22 19:29:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Since you had already discussed the ring before and he knew what you wanted and could easily have afforded it, then he should not have bought the one he did. I am not one of those women who has anything against real diamonds, in fact I prefer cz cuz I think they shine more and it doesnt sound like you are materialistic either. Obviously this man is afraid of losing you since after asking for some time to clear your head he decides instead to propose. The ring doesnt matter and normally I would have replied that he bought what he could afford, but it is his deception that is concerning. I definitely think you should take the time to think and decide if this is the kind of man you want as he doesnt seem to care what you want and doesnt appear to be honest. I do think you should talk to him and ask him why he did this.
2007-06-23 10:52:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...I would be most concern about the relationship that he's lying saying that you are not engaged. That is not something you play about if you are his fiancee he should be proud to introduce you as that. On the other hand, I would most certainly be upset that he gave me a fake ring I'm not materialistic either but either it could have been 10 carats that's not too expensive or no ring at all, It seem to me he could have waited until he could have afforded one, don't give me a dam fake ring. No I don't think that you are crazy and there should be valid concern if you start out this way he will continue when married lying and being fake.
2016-04-01 00:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a lazar-cut imitation, it wasn't that cheap. It also was probably true that he bought the ring from a jewelry store in another town. Jewelry stores (as you know) do sell imitations. But, the fact that it had scratches on it suggests that it was worn by someone else (his prior fiance or ex-wife perhaps?). Maybe he broke up with a prior fiance, who removed the stone and had it replaced with a fake. You need to talk to him about this pronto and see what his story sounds like. Be careful that he doesn't accuse you of wrongdoing. He sounds like a cheapskate so if you do decide to marry up with this dude, get a prenup for your own protection.
2007-06-23 06:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you asked for time apart and he showed up with a fake engagement ring? It sounds like he was just trying to buy some time. Give back the ring and tell him that you want a break from him for a month. Your problems can't be solved by a ring, real or otherwise.
2007-06-23 08:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by emmajane06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at it this way, you didn't want him to buy a ring since you get it at wholesale. He gets you a ring and it turned out to be fake. You then say you would have been happy with a 20 ring so what is the problem. He spent at least that on the fake ring. The real question is not about the ring its, Do you love him and want to marry him. The ring is just jewelry and that can be replaced.
2007-06-22 19:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by maverick29 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe somebody hussled him. Don't think he would intentionally give you a cheap ring knowing you know jewelry really well. Try and bring it up in the conversation. Be like, I was cleaning the ring and I noticed some stuff about it. Say you don't wanna be rude, but tell him you hope he didn't pay a lot of money for the ring. He might be confused and tell him it's a fake. Then you will be able to tell by his reaction if he did it intentionally or if somebody fooled him.
2007-06-22 19:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by for_keeps8 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. I wouldn't marry someone who had lied to me.
If he could not afford the real thing and intended to give you a fake ring, he should have discussed it with you first. Or if he couldn't afford a ring right now, he could have asked you to marry without one. As you say, a $20 ring would have been fine. Lying to you is not fine.
I would guess that his finances are not in the wonderful condition that he wants you to believe they are. If so, what else has he lied about?
I advise dumping him now. Don't waste any more time on him.
2007-06-23 01:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Suz123 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow what an a%$hole he was for doing that.
first, WHY O WHY would he give you that KNOWING the type of work you do? is he doing some subliminal b.s.? by giving you that ring to mess with your head.
did he claim it was his mother's?
do you really think he is a millionare or is it smoke and mirrors?
you said it yourself, he did not respect your wishes anyhow. forget ALL OF THE ABOVE..
most importantly, he said you were not a WHOLESOME WOMAN?
i have a feeling this is a cultural thing cause i'd be damned if he was still on mind enough to be even considering him being my husband lol
JUST IMAGINE how controlling he would be or degradeing? ANYONE deserves better than that, ESPECIALLY YOU! remember that!
2007-06-22 19:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said you didn't want a diamond, so he got you a fake. You say you didn't want him to waste money, and he gets a cheap ring.
Sounds to me like he was trying to find something that was inexpensive, but still looked nice. And just because he bought at a jewelry store, that doesn't mean it was new. The store could have had something used in stock. Also, if you popped him an "I need space" speech that day, he may have bought the ring in a hurry.
2007-06-22 19:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
First of all if a man can lie to you about something so small he can lie to you about something major. Also he must not think much of your intelligence if he tried to pass off a fake engagement ring to you knowing full well that you are a jewelery appraiser. Don't allow him to get away what he did. Tell him how you feel and then proceed with however you feel as though is just desert for him. I would however just take a break from him for a while so that he can understand how hurt and disgusted you are with his behavior.
I wish you luck!
Charlie
2007-06-22 19:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋