My mother has recently told me that she hates my personality and thinks I'm a loser. This was followed, quite abruptly, with her declaring she will NOT help me in any way whatsoever with college. She earns 190,000 a year, so financial aid is limited. I am sure that from an objective point-of-view, I am far from a failure. I have a 3.98 GPA, have consistently taken AP and Honors classes, am in NHS, am Editor-in-Chief of newspaper, am President of my high school’s Amnesty International, VP of Model UN, President of Lit. Club, Secretary of Key Club, play Varsity Lacrosse, and have continuously made trips back to China in order to promote awareness regarding the social stratification that exists there.
This whole thing was quite sudden and I just finished junior year. I don't have any means to really recover.
Any advice on how, exactly, to manage myself would be appreciated.
Btw, I have no contact w/my biological father, who is somewhere in China.
2007-06-22
18:44:59
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EDIT: I don't think this will simply "blow over". Our relationship has been rushing towards this for a very, very long time. She has blamed me for her several unhappy marriages and blames me still for eliciting within her a feeling of “confinement” and “repression”. She has blatantly stated within recent YEARS that she considers me a “loser” and that I will invariably “move back into the house” after receiving a college education. She has now declared that since I cannot comprehend or, for that matter, appreciate the strife she went through to come to this country, I do not deserve her help. She has refused to assist me with my tuition. My stepfather does not see it as his responsibility and, overall, would much rather stay on my mother’s good side. I do have a job working part-time at a restaurant on the weekends, but I only earn enough to pay for insurance and gas. If I had known I would be in this sort of situation right now, I would have gotten another job for support.
2007-06-22
18:57:18 ·
update #1
EDIT EDIT: I think you can understand how unprepared I was for my mother’s allegations, especially since there is no conflict of ideology, no conflict regarding priority, no conflict with crime/drug use. Only a conflict of perspective. She dislikes my personality, has told me so, and bemoans the fact that I think too much in “theory” and too little “in solvency”. Whenever I move to talk about literature or attempt to engage her in a conversation about politics and reform, things that are important to me, she dismisses it as “talking stupid”. Why? I have no idea. I have since ceased my efforts to have even a marginally profound discussion with her. She thinks I lack drive and that I don't "understand her".
2007-06-22
18:58:32 ·
update #2