Boyfriend Dilemma?

Question

My boyfriend & I have been together for 2 1/2 years. I am the only person that has been with him, but I have been with other guys as well. Now he is wondering what it would be like to be with another female & I think that if he loves me as much as he says he does, he shouldn't be wanting to be with anybody else. I love him with all my heart. And I'm not delusional, but I can tell he loves me the same. But, what should I do? Should I let him have a one-night stand, or not and live in fear that he might cheat on me?

Answer 1

You shouldn't be worrying about this at all. What good is worrying going to get you? Nothing.
So quit worrying and start living your life the way you want to live it! Your boyfriend loves you but is still going to do what ever it is he wants to do. If he needs to go and do things that will end up breaking the two of you apart, then there is nothing you can do about it. And the more you try to sit down and figure this situation out, the more time you are going to sit there and fret and worry about something that you have no control over.
You can however get out there and start having fun with your boyfriend now and keep doing the things that make it great and fun. If he leaves you after you are being you and not a basket case, then that's his problem and his loss.

Answer 2

no do not let him have a one night stand. Breakup with each other if one or both of you feel like you need to be with someone else. You'll drive yourself crazy thinking if he is cheating on you or not. You would much rather have him be with other women if you broke up with each other, but if he is with other women at least you will have spoken about it beforehand. If your in a relantionship and he cheats on you that will hurt so much more. Realize you may want to start dating other people. See what it is to be with other guys. Your young. Every guy is different, you don't want to be in your late 20's and realize that you have only been with one guy. Just do it so you don't hurt each other.

Answer 3

This is the reason I would never have sex with a virgin. You could be the best lover in the world, but if your partner have no frame of reference, they might come up with a stupid idea like this...

To answer your question: Either he loves you and is then not interested in anybody else (even just for 'broadening his horizons'), or he does not love you and wants to sleep around. It is of course natural that he should be curious (refer to my initial comment) but either he is with you or not.

If you do have to discuss this, you might want to ask him if he would really like to share you in the way that he wants you to share him with other partners. If he says no, well, he can hardly expect you to put up with it either. If he is willing to share you with others, than you need to ask yourself if a sexually open relationship like that is what you really want.

Instead, show him some porn such that he understands that most people pretty much do it the same way, and then show him that you can do all the things that they are doing in the porn movies.

Answer 4

You dont say how old you are, so I am going to assume you are pretty young- no offense.

While he is with you, he should not be with anyone else. That is NOT to say he shouldnt have the desire- that is totally normal. But to ACT on that and cheat- no.

If you are going to live in fear that he might cheat on you- then this is not a healthy relationship. I married a man who had less experience than me and we discussed if he needed to sow some more wild oats before getting married to me. It turns out, he did not. Maybe I was lucky .

Answer 5

honey look what he's already doing to you! "should i let him have a one-night stand" Are you kidding me!!!?!?! 2 1/2 years is a long time, and if he's willing to give that up because he's pathetic and not to mention a huge perv, because he wants to know what its like to be with other women.....you need to let him go. read the last line you wrote. "should i let him have a one night stand, or not and live in fear that he might cheat on me?" you have a lose, lose situation here. cut him off, and save yourself the pain of him being the one to end it. you deserve so much more than that!

Answer 6

R u serious? a one nite stand? NOOOOOOO unless ya have an open relationship like a swingers type. Its not that you would have to live in fear thinking he'll cheat on you. But if hes curious you might want to try and make him snap out of it. try to keep your man happy (sexually) by doing different things with him is the only thing I could come up with.

Answer 7

Everyone fantasizes at times about having another partner, and some even say it aloud.

In his case, it is easy to understand. He wants to know how sex could be different from what you have, no matter how rewarding. Even regular Coke drinkers have a Pepsi once in a while.

Living in fear sounds like a bleak prospect. Talk to him about it and show that you understand that he may want to broaden his horizons, but that he should take your feelings in account too (and use a condom of course).

Answer 8

boys always think that we are not good enough for them and there's a lot of girls out there which is way better than us.. tell you what.. just let him try.. if he really loves you, he will get back to you.. or maybe if let say he still have doubt with his feelings to you, then he looks for other girls, then he realize that no one else can be compared to you and you are the only person for him, his love for you will gain.

if he doesn't get back to you, it means that he's not belong to you.. you and him are not meant to be.. better to know it now before it's too late right..

Answer 9

NO!!! you may desire to be mad at him, and you may desire to sell off him asap, he nonetheless needs that woman. not purely is the female a tramp for messing with a committed guy, your boyfriend is one too. He has no admire on your or the courting and you may desire to end it in the previous the area escalates. i be attentive to you're a particularly woman, you will locate a lot extra suitable than that trollop.

Answer 10

well since you know what its like being with someone else i would let him go for say amonth and see. if hes gone then it sgreat cause then you can go on your way you would not want someone to go like that. its best before you marry and find out like that. oh well if its really love he'll come back if not he'll be gone. so what.