My inlaws don't like me b/c i agree w/ my my husband giving them money or buy expensive gifts. he does by gifts (but gifts) not salaries ...for instance if ibuy a $700 pocketbook they feel they should get the same kind of gift! which he did prior to us dating or getting married (12 year later lol) they call me selfish because i shop alot (just bought a new house) but we have 3 children. we make less money than all the couples we just manage differntly.. why should i buy for them when they all work or feel bad
my reasoning no one ever helps ...WE pay for sitters, paid for our wedding..i am cool with it why can't they be?
i want to buy a (ie: a grill) is this rude when iknow they've asked for things.. idon';t care but of course my husband does...make sense sound familiar...
annoying but please be trueful??
2007-06-22 17:31:44 · 6 answers · asked by Beautiful had a BOY on 3.7.09!!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
should read DO NOT "AGREE"
2007-06-22 17:36:39 · update #1
i work alot of overtime so ifeel ican treat myself once and a while and yes I PAY CHURCH TITHES!
2007-06-22 18:09:02 · update #2
I would thank you all for you input........Honestly...You have helped a very serious situation. Thank you all so much. I have tears today but tears of JOY because I thought I was selfish! This is what true family is about............signed yahoo sister-appreciated
2007-06-23 01:59:16 · update #3
sounds like they are just JEALOUS & FULL OF DRAMA. I say you IGNORE THEM & buy whatever you want, whenever you want, anywhere you want. You got your your kids, your husband & yourself to worry about, why worry about the in-laws? I agree, they sound terrible from what you describe, but your better off IGNORING THEM.
2007-06-22 18:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband he has a new family now....he can still shop for his old one. But be realistic.
Now with that said. If you guys have the money and you are both okay with it...I say go for it. Obviously you are not.
But that is not really the issue here, is it? You like being able to buy $700 pocketbooks. Buying another one for another family member might curtail your next purchase.
$700 pocket books, tell me that you guys making less than "other" couples isn't the issue either. Ordinary people do not spend $700 on a pocketbook.
One of the greatest gifts about having money. Is giving that money away...most people help needy and church first though.
I get as much or more joy out of buying something for a family member, as I do myself. I haven't forgotten where I come from.
The best thing I have been told by my mother....she recently told a friend, she did not worry about bills. We had nothing growing up....We made something....now we care for my mother, like she was never able to care for herself.
2007-06-22 17:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
So, if I am understanding this right, you are saying they feel that every time you and your husband and the kids get something, they should get something too? Not get it for themselves but from you guys?
I am a little lost on this one, I have never heard that one before, ever! I could see if they were in dire straights and needed help, but if they are working and such and you guys are providing for yourselves and I am not sure what their problem is?
Why in the world would they think that you guys owe them anything? I would not really worry to much about what they say or what they think as long as you guys are happy and looking out for yourselves and your family and not asking them to do it for you!
2007-06-22 17:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl ,my in laws can't stand me because my husband spends all his money on me and I'll son and they want him to give them money and so now there mad at him because he takes care of us first ,then if anything is left he'll give to them ..he's mom has so much money and we don't have a lot and we do everything I'll self's also, she has never even gave I'll son a gift in the four years he has been living..so I know want u mean now on holidays I do think he's mom should get a nice gift but other than that please !!..make sense to me.
2007-06-22 17:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by ladytee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all fairness, I feel they should not be still expecting this much from your husband anymore, after all, he's got his own life to lead now.
2007-06-22 17:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by PikC 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your money is your money. Do with it what you will. Ignore everyone else.
2007-06-22 18:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋