I need your respond, will you answer?

Question

I'm a male, 25 years old, and I need your help.

I do not want cheers or nice words that intentionally make me feel better; I need a honest response.

I'm disabled. I am very weak. I can walk, but not for long. I can drive. In fact, I have my driver License. I am deaf, but speak naturally. I do not know sign language, and I wish not to learn, because my fingers suck. I can't use a pen to write; that's why I use a computer. I'm not ugly, I am very cute. At least I was told so by many. However, no one wants to date me. I am straight and I wish to date a straight person, too. People, especially healthy females, told me to try date disabled girls. Unfortunately, I do not want to, and I have a good reason.

My reason: I am disabled, I need someone to help me. If my Partner is unable to take care of herself while I'm also unable, what sense does it make? I've been trying since age 15. That's 10 years without success. I've been kissed, but that's all. What a life

Answer 1

What you're looking for is a nurse... no young woman looking for romance is going to respond to a young man wanting a nurse... when you start looking for a *partner*, things might change for you.

Just giving you the honest response you asked for...

Answer 2

Hmmm...this is a tough situation...Your reason for wanting to date healthy females makes sense. As I see it, you have multiple options:

-You could continue dating healthy females, I know the perfect female for you is out there waiting to be discovered. Don't be discouraged by those females, I'm sure they had good intentions. They most likely thought that perhaps dating a woman with a disablity would be helpful your relationship, since it would be something you both would have in common.

It couldn't hurt to be open to the idea of dating a diabled girl, after all its just dating. I'm sure someone else can take care of you both...She could be minorly disabled and still be capable of taking care of you.

I'm not sure of your disability, but maybe you can do something to improve your condition. For the physical weakness, you can see a physical therapist to strenghten your muscles. I've heard of people that have similar conditions like yours getting stronger and overcoming their former limitations. (If you choose this, don't give up. Remember: Getting stronger is hard for everybody, don't let the physical world discourage you.) I'm sure it can be done.

As for the deafness, perhaps you can get one of those transplants. I can't recall what they are called right now, but they function like a hearing aid. There is (definitely in the future, if not now) a type of nanochip transplant that I heard of, although I am not sure if it is available yet (It is quite new). Supposedly, it can restore (some, if not all) the hearing of those who are completely deaf. I believe the chip is placed on the eardrum and somehow connected to the brain. As for your fingers, I'm sure the physical therapist can solve that as well, with some exercises. (My physical therapist corrected my poor posture, which cured my constant backaches and headaches.)

I'm sure there are other options that I haven't mentioned that will make themselves clear in the future.

No matter what you do, don't ever get discouraged. Keep at it! Don't get down on yourself ever. A positive attitude makes all the difference. Best of luck!

Answer 3

I'm guessing your question is 'Why won't a healthy female date me?' There's a few things that you've missed when describing your situation. Can you read lips? How do you communicate with others normally without the computer? There is no mention of your personality, you may be cute but are you lovable? Are you the type of person people like to be around? The most important question is are you able to be affectionate and of course be sexual? This kind of thing is probably at the top every healthy women's mind. Anyway I can only think of one solution to your problem and that is have a female fall in love with you sight unseen (via on-line dating) let her know your disabled physically but not mentally.

Answer 4

I can't give you much advice but I had a friend in high school who fell off a trampoline at a charity event and broke his neck. He had a beautiful girlfriend but they split at both their insistence. He's now paralyzed from the neck down. He finished college with me. He took notes holding a pencil with his teeth. He is also a happy guy. I don't know how he does it. He has a man hired to be with him 24 hours a day.

My point is to concentrate on what you do well instead of the things you can't do. I think it would be good to date a disabled girl. I imagine someone out there feels the same way you do about themselves and would love a date with you. I wouldn't rule out any girl but 10 years of the same ole thing? Why not try something different?

Answer 5

My only advice in the love department is not to try too hard. What I mean is that you have to keep an open mind, try dating all different types of women, but don't give yourself a time line of when you should find the "right" woman. You sound like you really want a companion, but it's not something you can force, just like friendships.

My Uncle is handicapped, he has cerebral palsy, and he married a woman who is also handicapped, she is hearing impaired. They still manage to take care of each other, despite their many challenges. It's still easier to do it with someone than to do it alone, right?

Don't judge the women just based on whether they are physically handicapped or not, just as I'm sure you hate being judged because of your handicap.

There are many women, and all people in general, who may look "whole" or not flawed on the outside, but they could be seriously sick on the inside, if you know what I mean. Ya' know...unstable!

Your life could be worse, always remember that. You said you're not ugly, so you have that going for you...right?

Answer 6

I agree with the comments that what you need is a nurse or care provider and that should have nothing to do with your romantic life.
25 is still young work on establishing your life and developing interest that can be shared with a life partner.
That being said;
If you insist on dating able bodied women then consider classified ads. I don't reccomend them for most people but you have a very specific criteria. Your chances of finding a mate through the usual social venues are low. The classifieds might make the chances greater. Online dating sites also.

Answer 7

After a few relationships that didn't work out, I've decided that the best thing to do is wait. I know that might not sound like the best advice, but it works for me - and it might work for you too. I also made a list of ideal characteristics. No matter how much we want to be with someone, the important thing to remember is to never settle. You will meet someone, one day, with all of these characteristics that you want, and they will be perfect for you. Don't lose hope, because no matter how long it may seem - how far away that day is - it will come.

If you're looking for an online friend, I'd be more than happy to be one.

Answer 8

It may or may not happen and that is the best answer you're going to find. If you want to be happy you are going to have to come to terms with your life and the circumstances of it. It sounds like you are putting the condition of finding a 'healthy' woman to date on you finding happiness.

I wouldn't rule out dating a disabled woman........not all disabilities are debilitating and when you ask what sense it makes........ It make sense in the context of finding someone to share your life with. If all you are looking for is a woman to take care of you, not to share your life with then you will always find it more difficult than it should be to make a connection with someone.

Good luck with your search. I honestly hope you find what you are looking for.

Answer 9

As said before, just keep living and some one will come along. Don't be afraid to ask girls out, either.

If bars and book clubs aren't doing it for ya, you could try a dating site. I know you might not want to have to find somebody online, but, people do it all the time. Good luck!

Answer 10

Many disabled people have found true love, married and had a family. Check out David Ring's biography (evangelist). David has cerebral palsy and they said he would never marry or have children. He is married and has four children and travels all over the country to tell about others about Jesus. Nothing is impossible with God.

Answer 11

Well, no "atta boy" here. Everyone has problems, you may be disabled, I may have lost my daughter to cancer. Now which life is easier to deal with?....

You just have to accept the fact that things happen, to good people more so than bad people, and realize that how you view your life is how others will view YOU.

That doesn't help you much, I know -but at least you know there's ALWAYS someone else worse off. Ever try wheelchair basketball?