Why does this make me feel bad?

Question

We live in my grandmas old house but its not in the best shape and it seems that while she lived here spiders were a big problem and are now. I saw one with legs longer than my fingers and I killed it. Then I saw a crack where it came in at and told my dad. Hes going through alot now with his health and I guess he had something on his mind worrying him. I told him and he said now you talkin about my house and suprised me by saying it. I feel bad because f it but I dont realy get why. We have money onthe way to buy a double wide trailer but we have to stay in this house for three more months.
Why do I worry so much when they are the ones with the problems? The house isnt that bad except for one crack that just big enough to put a pen in and isnt that wide. I just want things to change quick so bad but I dont want them to feel bad about me feeling this way.

He didnt say it aggresively but he said it like I just made things a lot worse on top of everything else.

Answer 1

When you love someone their problems are also your problems. If you didn't love them you wouldn't care.

You are probably feeling negative about the house because you feel the negativity in it. This can account for your feeling. An old house carries many memories within it, besides this your parents are also feeling down right now, and you are feeling their negativity also.

Try to be as happy as possible. Try to find something that makes you feel good, even a little sun coming through the window can lift your mood if you focus on it. Listen for birds etc. It will only be a little while longer and then things will change. Hang in there.

Answer 2

You feel bad becuase there really isn't anything any of you can do right now to fix everything that is bad. It's normal to feel this way. Your dad probably didn't mean anything by what he said, I'm sure he just has a lot on his mind right now. Things do get better. You worry because you can't help any other way and it's hurting you inside. I know that feeling. It's horrible to feel that way. My best advice I can give is write a prayer to God and stick it under ur pillow or mattress tonight. Tell Him what you need and explain your reasons. He answer in His own way, you just have to trust that He knows best. I know it's hard because I've been there many times. Trust me God is always there for you.

Answer 3

Victoria, i'm sorry to hearken to that there is particularly disrespect on your place---yet a 33 year previous won't in any respect flow out if mom is dottering and spoiling him---why could he flow?? hardship is he won't in any respect study a thank you to peacefully co-exist with a woman on a mature point...what a disgrace. you're additionally witnessing particularly crude disrespectful habit that comes from being kinfolk and residing at the same time a majority of those years. To an interloper this all sounds poor--to you and your brother it rather is basically prevalent residing. So say no in case you could--he won't explode or turn blue. relax, be cool, be wonderful, and robust success-----SMILE

Answer 4

Most pple worry about one thing or another. And only the dead dont have to worry. However what you do about it is what matters. Instead of complaining you could do something about it if you could look around hard enough. At least while engaged you wont have time to worry. Again great pple are usually those who see something wrong and cant sit down. All the best

Answer 5

IS IT THE HOUSE THATS BOTHERING EVERYONE?

OR IS IT THE GRIEF AND SAD MEMORIES?

YOU ALL COULD TRY TO SPRUCE THINGS UP AND THAT WOULD KEEP YOU BUSY AND YOU MIGHT FEEL BETTER ABOUT THE HOUSE FOR AWHILE.

GET SOME HOT SHOT BUG SPRAY AND MAYBE THAT WOULD HELP THE SPIDER SITUATION. I BUY UNCENTED AND AIR THE PLACE OUT FOR AWHILE.

READ AND STAY BUSY SO THE TIME WILL GO FASTER.

IF YOUR DAD FEELS SAD, MAYBE YOU COULD SAY "DAD, IF YOU WANT TO TALK, I'LL LISTEN, OR IF YOU NEED TO TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL, THEN SAY HEY DAD, I NEED TO TALK A LITTLE OR WHATEVER. EVERYONE GOES THROUGH THEIR OWN THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS. BEST WISHES

Answer 6

Matthew 6:28-32
"And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.

Answer 7

Please do not kill spiders. They are not harmful and have good spirits. They are moms and dads themselves, just trying to make a life.

Besides that, some caulking and close up the hole.

Sweetie, you are worrying about things that you cannot change. I am going to give you a prayer and I want you to write it down and memorize it.

GOD, GREANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE

COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN

AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.

This will serve you well now and the rest of your life.
Help your dad. Offer to help.

Don't waste time feeling 'bad'. Not good for you.

Answer 8

you feel bad because your father took what you said as in insult, and you didn't intend to insult him. If I were you, I would man up, and go and offer him an apology. He is obviously under a great deal of stress, and while what you said was fairly innocuous, and he shouldn't have taken offense, he did. So, make him feel better, do the gracious thing and apologize.

Answer 9

Because you have compassion and you care about your family, perfectly normal.

Answer 10

im sorry about your situation. i think that things will be okay. good luck!
p.s. its not bad that you dont feel happy.