How old are you? Curious just for the purpose of giving suggestions.
I disagree with a previous answerer. Looking at porn regularly is not typical and normal. For a lot of people, it goes against religious beliefs as well. A TON OF PEOPLE HAVE THIS PROBLEM-YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
I say that whenever you get the urge to look at porn-find something else to do.
Do you have any hobbies or interests outside of the internet? If you play sports and are athletic, go for a run, find someone to do something with. If you are more interested in being by yourself, find a good book to read. Maybe a self help book would be best at this point.
Most important-approach your addiction head on. Ask yourself why porn is so important to you at this point in your life? Do you have past experiences or present stress that is smothering you? When did it start? What was going on in your life when it did?
You have to find the underlying reason for what you are doing-be COMPLETELY honest with yourself about it. Find someone to confide in if you are comfortable with that idea.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-06-22 17:05:02
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answered by rikki_jo 3
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At one point, a couple of years ago, I spent like 10 plus hours a day reading pornographic stories. So I understand the problem really, I know how much it limits one and being porn it's hard to admit to others what it is that you're actually doing...
I'd like to say that I've gotten better so that I could give you a "this is how you should do it speech" but I both have, and I haven't. I don't spend nearly as much time with pornography anymore but in truth I just traded it for other equally as time consuming behaviors... Manged to switch the focus of it if you will so that I won't be as questioned, but the way I've done it means I'm still "wasting" time I could have spent doing better things.
I'm seeing a psychologist and it's not easy, and it doesn't always work the way I'd like but it does help.
So if you can manage it I'd suggest you seek professional help, mostly so that you'll get support from someone who'll try to understand without judging you for it .... An addiction is an addiction regardless of what it's about after all.
There are techniques that might be used to help you, but a lot of them pretty much hinges on the participation of someone else.
If not a psychologist? Then maybe you have a close friend, or family member of some sort you'd feel comfortable with?
Because really it's up to ourselves to do what's necessary to get rid of personal problems, but that doesn't mean you have to do it alone.
/EJ
2007-06-22 17:27:21
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answered by Anonymous
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Any man who is engaging in sexual immorality of any kind is a man in conflict. He is a man who believes one thing and yet his actions are not matching up with his beliefs. Often it starts by viewing pseudo-pornography--things like modeling sites, chat sites, personal homepages, and other sites that often contain seductive images, but may not be classified as pornography.
If your life is being controlled by your sexual desires and activities, instead of YOU being in control of them, then you have a sexual addiction.
If you sent a bottle of vodka to every home in America every week for a year, you would no doubt have a whole wave of alchoholics. The Internet has created a wave of pornography addicts with its pervasive porn delivery mechanism.
You won't finish something that you are afraid to start. Often the one thing that prevents a guy from getting help is that he has to tell someone he needs help. That process of disclosure is often perceived to be too painful, and so the problem just continues--and often escalates. So whatever you do, find a course of action that you are able to start quickly--and in a confidential setting. Just like any cancer, early treatment can often mean better, faster, more thorough recovery.
One common element that we believe must be present in any recovery program is a clear definition of the problem. This includes gaining an understanding of how sexual addiction starts, how it is fueled, and the impact it has on us and the people we love.
2007-06-22 16:57:31
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answered by justwonderingwhatever 5
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Your question sounds to be asked in earnest.
I know of a place you can find help to quit porn.
Call 1-800-NEWLIFE. This is a Christian counseling referral system - all across the country.
Newlife also offers Every Man's Battle Conference-Workshops an intensive program over a long week-end.
Other help available to men who want to face the power of porn over their life - and gain freedom
there is a book Every Man's Battle and a workbook
For support groups, try SA sexual addictions annonymous available in most communities.
Some professional counselors also deal with sexual addictions to help men.
2007-06-22 18:08:10
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answered by Hope 7
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The only way without getting professional help is cold-turkey, which means getting rid of the internet. Lose the net, or pay for therapy (or maybe both).
2007-06-22 16:53:00
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answered by Anonymous
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Put all of your spare time into the real world...... go jogging, play tennis, do something physical that will make you tired, and keep your mind off of everything else!
Kiddie porn is bad!!! Adult movies are somewhat normal.... but if you need a distraction..... do something to keep yourself busy OUTSIDE...... nowhere near a TV!
2007-06-22 16:55:33
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answered by crankyissues 6
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ok. don't go on the computer for a week or so,throw out any of your magazines, and try not to be alone, 'cause that's when it will happen. good luck bro!
2007-06-23 14:27:42
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answered by Anonymous
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porn is not an addiction. You're exploring your sexuality and this is healthy. If it's taking up too much of your time, limit yourself to a certain amount per day or week online.
Don't worry about it so much. Unless it's abusive to animals or children, it is ok.
2007-06-22 16:53:35
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answered by Cheryl W 4
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its hurting your computer.. throw the computer out.. or stop all together.. and get your mind on something else.
2007-06-22 17:11:44
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answered by Anonymous
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theirs to much to type, every one does it young, old. If you would like to chat, lets do so.
2007-06-22 16:56:21
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answered by mailbox_5 4
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