Co-sleeping question...?

Question

I've been co-sleeping with my 3 year old since birth and also my 6 month old since birth and I was wondering at what age were your children when they went into their own beds, was it hard to get them to do so?

I breastfed too and am still breastfeeding my 6 month old. And by the way co-sleeping actually reduces the risk of SIDS most of the time.

Now that we have 2 children I make daddy sleep on the couch.

Answer 1

i'm a co-sleeping fanatic!! but my daughter was so clingy, i moved her to her crib at 12 months and she's been there ever since...i guess it helps that her crib is only two feet from my bed, but we have our space! plus, i'm the worrying type, so for me, my family should all be in the same room at night, in case of burglary, fire, etc. but that's just me.....

it would help to create a bed-time regimen for the child/children and make it fun. move them gradually...maybe sleeping in THEIR room for a while then weaning yourself back to your room, or putting them to sleep in your room,then moving them to theirs. warm milk helps....you might have to cut out naps to keep them tired enouph to 'not fight' you over the room change.

having them nap in their own beds during the day gets them used to the seperate sleeping arrangement faster!...hope this helps...

-hbb

Answer 2

My son slept with my until 3. The move was easy. He picked out a new bed and blanket set. He was very excited about it. I laid down with him until he feel asleep for a few weeks until he became comfortable.
My son is five now and still comes to bed sometimes. My bed is always open to him. I want my son to feel secure and know that if is scared, he can always crawl in bed with mommy and daddy.

Edit: It really surprises me how many people are against co-sleeping. It has been done for thousands of years, children sleeping alone is a relatively new cultural concept. There are also many studies that support that co-sleeping reduces the risk of SIDS. Many people seemed also concerned about sex. Sex can be done anywhere, the bed gets boring anyway.

Answer 3

My daughter slept in her own bed as an infant. She loved her crib, and was very happy and comfortable in it. She also slept through the night completely at about five weeks of age. I didn't want to have any sleep issues or problems with her, and I never did.

I had a good friend who slept with her children, and I always thought it was a bad idea. I have a bed, and my daughter has a bed. We both sleep better that way.

Answer 4

We seem to have a child every 3 1/2 years, so the baby takes the bed with Mommy over. Then Daddy reads books to the bigger ones and falls asleep.
We have a revolving bed policy. Wherever anyone feels comfortable on any given night. That goes for the cats too.

Answer 5

I dont' object to it at all! I slept with my mom until I was 12; not every night but most.

My son started sleeping with me because they messed the epiderual up and put me in a wheelchair...and I was breastfeeding so it was easier.

I have friends that did and do the same most of their kids still sleep with them at 7-8 years of age...a few their kids deceided they were too grown up for it at 5 years.

My 5 year still sleeps with me.

But if you want them to sleep without you you need to start moving them out of your bed at about 1 year after that it is a real battle and an emotional disattachment for the child. Because they really don't understand why the rejection which is bascially how they see it.

If it doesn't bother you let them sleep with you.

Answer 6

My son stayed in our bed until he was 3 almost 4. The older they are the harder it gets to get them out. My son also would not go to sleep unless we laid with him even his own bed that took almost 6 months to ween him off of. Switching to a stuffed animal helped. My son was very sick as a baby the only reason I had him sleep with us I needed to hear him breathe. If I was able to have another one I would probably let it sleep with us. It helps with bonding and I think the babies sleep better. Some say it is bad but as with any parenting thing it is an opinion.
Good luck.

Answer 7

Other than an occasional "sleep with mommy night," my children have always slept in their own beds. They were in our room but in the bassinet for the first 6-8 weeks, then I moved them into their own cribs in their own rooms, even though I breastfed. Getting up and feeding them did not become a big task just because they weren't in the bed beside me. And because they never got used to sleeping in my bed, the transition was very, very easy. They are now 12, 7 and 5 and on the occasion they do sleep with me, its a really big deal for them.

Answer 8

yes it was hard. when i was little i stopped sleeping in the bed with my parents till i was 12 and i made sure that i was never ever going to let my kids get a way with that so i start right when they turn two and it works. well it is hard to get them off but try stuff like sleeping in their bed and then leave when they begin to fall asleep. then try it for at least a week or two maybe more and after that explain ot them more briefly on why they have to sleep in there own bed. Trust me it was hard for me to break the habbit so it would be better to start at a young age

Answer 9

my 2 sons still sleep in our bed, my 18 month old still nurses doesn't want to stop.if I put him in his crib he eventually would wake up in the middle of the night and start crying. We have just not gotten around to buying the 5 yr old his own bed yet, but he's excited to get one of those beds in the shape of a car. Our bed is huge, a king cal and my husband works nights, so its not much of an issue.

Answer 10

With my first 2, I just started putting them into their cribs at night and then bringing them into our bed when they woke up in the night at around 6-9months. They gradually stopped waking in the night (between 11 & 15 months) and would be all night in their beds. Then we moved. We'd put them in their toddler beds at night and wake up with 2 more in our bed. Once baby #3 came along, the older 2 stopped coming in. I don't know why, he was a really quiet baby, but they just stopped.

Now with #3, we had to convince him to try out the racecar bed (marketing, marketing, marketing) and he'd still end up in our bed by morning. He's 4 now and about half the time we wake with him snuggling right between my husband and me. About once or twice a month son #2 joins us and once every great while, we get #1 son. We always leave our bed open to them if they need it, but I'm starting to enjoy sleeping with just my husband.

My sister, got a special mat and had her 3-year old daughter sleep on the mat in their room. She had to lay down with her at first and often she'd end up with Mom and Dad later. Eventually, she'd stay on the mat all night. Then they moved the mat to the hall. Then she went right into her own bed. That took awhile. Like 3-4 months.

I loved sleeping with my babies, but as they get older they become bed hogs. I think you have to figure out what's right for your family.

Answer 11

Each time, we sent ours to their own toddler bed around 2-3 yrs old. It's easier to do it in one big bandaid rip and put them in their own room at that time rather than weaning them to the toddler bed next to yours. We did that with our first and we just got rid of her at 5 yrs old! By 3 yrs old, if you play up how cool the bed is and let them pick the sheets and stuff they will go willingly...mostly. Expect a few night visits for awhile, but eventually if you don't cave and let them sleep in your bed, they will adjust.