MY ex husband as not seen his son for 8 mos now SHould he be able to see him?

Question

During this 8 mo I have been dealing with my son asking were is the park guy he doesnt even call him dad. About 2 weeks ago my son was setermed to go to the park were he always mets his dad when he got there he no more park guy ok and he played for hours at the park laughing I am afraid letting his dad back in live will mentally break him help what should I do o also he droped paying health ins and is trying to get out of paying his 500 a mo for child support

he does not ask to see his real father infact my brother and my dad are more of father to him infact he calls my dad dad

Answer 1

Look for women's help groups in your area to help you prepare for court because you need to get your son back on the ex's health insurance. Please document any contact you have with your ex including the 8 month absence from his life.

As for "letting" him see his son. Please remember you son has the RIGHT to see both parents. Unless he is abusive, and as long as the kid enjoys his time with "the park guy" he should have some contact with him....
It is (still) hard for me to understand why dads step in and out of their kid's lives and it sounds like your son will have a lot of disappointments with dad not showing up and all but he won't break..he'll figure it out

Answer 2

The best thing you can give your son is a relationship with his dad. Since the two of you are in the same area, do whatever you have to do to encourage visitation. A boy needs a role model, and generally the best role model is his own father. The fact that your son is asking for him should tell you that he needs his dad.

Even if it makes you sick, you need to be polite to the dad. Never ever say anything negative about dad in front of your son. In fact, try not to say anything negative at all, so you're in the habit and you don't slip in front of your son.

Eventually dad will become the father he should be, but you have to make it easy for him.

Part of being a good father, however, is stepping up to your responsibilities. If you have a court order that says he pays health insurance and child support, contact your local Child Support Enforcement office. You don't even have to go through your attorney. The CSE office will take care of it for you. They'll garnish his wages and require proof of insurance. By doing it this way, you don't look like the bad guy. It's CSE, not you, even though they're acting on your behalf.

It'll be hard, but the fact that the dad is willing to be in your son's life is a great beginning. Be the bigger person and help him become the best dad he can be.

Answer 3

About the health insurance and the child support - talk to your lawyer about the next step.
Your son is still young and will remember good times mixed with some bad. Don't cut him off from his dad - simply because his dad can turn around and walk away anytime he wants. And he will. He does.
If you try to 'punish' your ex by witholding contact with your son, the first thing that your ex will always say about you is that you came between him and his child. No matter how stupid that sounds, he will do it and the blame will be on you.
Don't let your ex back in if it endangers your son. However, supervised visitation is probably the best you can hope for to keep that thin thread of a relationship between them.
Your ex is bitter and he's trying to shirk his responsibilities to hurt you. It doesn't matter who else he happens to hurt, too. He probably doesn't even think of your son.
It's a challenge to remain positive and not just bad-mouth your ex. You have plenty of company in the ranks of wives with ex-husbands who do exactly this sort of thing. So try not to take it too personally. He's just an ***.

Answer 4

There are many things you have to look at in the situation.It all depends on the reasons he wants to come back if it's because of his child then slowly work it out......take your time.If its just trying to get out of child support and paying health insurance......tell him to bugger off.Then nail his *** if he doesnt pay.