I need help, it's kinda serious.?

Question

I'm only a teen, and i just found out that my parents are getting a devorce, my grandpa has lung cancer, my great- grandpa has skin cancer, and one of my other relatives has some other kind of cancer. how do i get over all of this? please help!

Answer 1

It's normal to have cancer nowadays and I presume that your great-grandpa is over 90?I know it's hard to take so much serious thing that occured around you, but this 's life. Will it be better if your parents devorse? If not, tell your feeling to them and ask them to share their point of view.
Your relative need your comfort and empathy, care them more, your caring can help them and yourself.

Answer 2

My best advise to you is to seek God. If you don't want to go to church that's fine. Just really talk to Him and He will help you. I've been there before where I was so young and my whole world was turned completely upside down. But some how I was able to give God control of it all at such a young age and He gave me the strength and courage to help face my struggles. Read the bible and you'd be surprised that it will give you the comfort you need right now. If you need someone to pray with you I'm here. God bless!

Answer 3

Life bites sometimes, you just have to have faith that God will take care of everything. If possible try talking to another adult that you are close to. A family friend, teacher, your friends parent, youth minister, just someone. Do not tackle this alone. Reach out and they will help. Talk to your parents about the divorce and how you feel. Obviously, they are miserable with one another or they wouldn't be getting a divorce. Do you really want them to live in misery? Tell them how you feel and your fears. Whatever you do don''t eal with this alone. I will keep you in my prayers. I know a majority of people are not religious, but in times like these God may be your only hope. I hope you can find peace. Best wishes.

Answer 4

I'm sorry. Just stay strong. I have a friend who's grandfather died on Friday the Thirteenth of April, her rabbit died a week before that, her other grandfather is dead, her mother makes her act different then she is, her father raped her sister but no one but her knows, and on top of all that, her parents are divorced. One in Wisconsin, the other in California (I think).
How would you like that? She is going to get through it all, anyway. Have faith in God (if you're religious). You still HAVE your mom and dad. Would you rather be an orphan? Think of all the worse things that can happen. Again, I'm sorry. Just think of Avril Lavigne's song, Keep Holdin' On. Yeah, sappy, but still. Well, hope I helped.

Answer 5

Just roll with the punches and take it a day at a time; seriously.

Regarding the divorce, there isn't anything you can do about it, unfortunately. I was faced with a similar scenario about when I was eight, and I did a lot of pretty goofy things at the time (I tore down the "for sale" sign and marched it well out of the neighbourhood and across the city limits -- I was furious!). This is completely none to-do with you. You can't stop it, just as you never started it.

Regarding your relatives, it is the natural course of life that at an old age, things stop working as well as they used to. Enjoy their company while you can, and let them enjoy yours!

It is very unfortunate that this should all fall on you at once. You have my sincere condolensces on the matter.

Be brave and just keep marching on! Things will be brighter on the other end, and you will find that your parents will both be happier in the end, too.

EDIT: Anyone who posts anything so needless as "my life is worse than yours!" can stuff it.

Answer 6

I'm sorry that I really don't have any advice for you being that you have no control over any of what is happening in your life at this point. I just want to say that I am terribly sorry that you are going through so much and you are in my thoughts. You can come through it all as a beautiful strong person if you have enough support from others and enough love for yourself.

Hugs and Good Luck Sweetie

Answer 7

Wow that's a lot at once to choke down at your age. Just hang in there things will get better for you. As far as your parents getting divorced just don't let them drag you into the middle of things.

Answer 8

My parents are about to go through a divorce too and my uncle died of cancer last november so I know what you're going through. If you're a religious person, pray, if you're not a religious person(I'm sort of), then pray. Just know that God has a bigger plan for you and he only puts you through the stuff he knows you can handle.

Answer 9

That is a lot of things coming at you at once to get over really quickly. You have to realize that you are not in control of any of those actions. Then, you need to comfort all of the cancer victims in what ever way you can. Let them know that you love them and are there for them. You also need to let your parents know that you love them and try to keep your relationship good with both of them. Sometimes parents grow apart and it is the best thing for all concerned to divorce and go their separate ways. That should not change your relationship with either of them. Hopefully your parents won't play you against each other and they will let you get along with both of them.

Answer 10

sheesh you are really facing tough times. if your family goes to church regularly -- try to seek help guidance there. if you arent going to church, maybe look into it. spiritual guidance is maybe what you need right now and getting in touch with god. yeah some people dont want to hear about all that and i am not a big churchy person either, but it helps it really does.

also see if your parents will allow you to do some counseling with a professional counseler. not a expensive doctor but a local counseling center to help you sort thru things. yes, things will be difficult for you but work thru it as best you can. parents divorcing is bad on its own anyway but having so many grandparents and family members sick with cancer that's so tough on anyone. prayer can help, counseling can help, keeping a journal of your daily thoughts and fears, problems, etc. can help. you can work thru this and possible come out being a stronger person because of it. best of luck.