Right now at this time I am staying at my mom & step dads house. My 4 month old is with me, ok I'm 20 and her dad is 28. We Have been together for 2 1/2 years and we are having more problems than ever! I'm staying here because I think he is a very selfish person that does not want to grow up.He likes to goto friends houses and doesnt come home till 11-12 or sometime in the mourning.He doesnt help out like he should and that about sums that up.Remember we are still together! Now he hasn't worked in 1 whole month. So far for this whole month all he has bought my daughter was wipes and cold medicine because shes sick.My parents has gotten every thing else. Now the day before yesterday I asked him to come over he said he would. About 2 hours later he calls to tell me he was going to the dump. I said I thought u were comming over here. He said he changed his mind that when he gets back he's going to wait for this guy to call him about a job. Well I tried calling him up till 12am and he never came home. Today I asked him would he watch the baby today he said he would eat and call me back. Then he called back said he was going to the plasma bank. He came by at 4 to tell me he was going to his friends house to cut grass.I asked him would he come over when he was done to spend some time with me and the baby, He said he would call me,I havent heard a word from him.since then.I'm driving myself crazy, I'm staying depressed,I just dont know what to say to him anymore. Please just somebody help me and tell me something.I'm afraid to leave him all together because he says he's going to take my baby from me.I dont know what to do.Thanks
2007-06-22 16:02:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like he is trying to avoid you.excuse after excuse.omg he sounds like he isnt responsible at all.you shouldnt be afraid to leave him.you NEED to leave him.unless you are an unfit mother or in drugs,he cant take the baby.obviously he has you scared with that threat.its only a threat.he really cant take her unless you are unfit or using drugs.YOU need to take the baby from him until he can be responsible.you have been able to take care of the baby with the help of your parents,then what do you want him for?think about it he is going to knock you up again,and you wil then have to worry about two lil ones while he is running around with friends and making excuses to keep avoiding you. good luck
2007-06-22 16:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by fishin for answer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart he could not take that baby if he tried because the law will award you full custody. Do not worry yourself about any man that likes to go to the dump and cut grass by a friend but would not care for his own house and can't even keep a job, that's not a man my dear, that's a wimp and you certainly don't need that around with a baby to care for. Get rid of the excess baggage put him right where he deserves to be, in the dump.
2007-06-22 16:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a job? If not-- go find one.
Welcome to the single mommy world..... if he doesnt' have a job, and you're both living off of your parents, then where the hell is he gonna "take your baby" to???
No judge in any state would take a baby away from a "fit" mother to give it to a jobless father.... so I think it's just an excuse.
You need to forget about him and do it on your own like so many moms have been forced to do......
Not trying to be mean.... just don't sit around waiting on him to be a good dad! It may NEVER happen! In the meantime.... you need to be preparing yourself to take care of your baby and give it everything you have to be a good mommy!
You may be your child's only shot at a good life!!! Don't waste it waiting around on some guy to help you do it! Take control and do it yourself!
2007-06-22 16:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by crankyissues 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay..first of all i htink ur bf or ur baby daddy is either cheating on u or has another woman on the side his excuses are rlly ridiculous and its a hard situation since ur only 20 and u need some support with ur child. and u can go and fight for custody in the court because he cant just take ur baby away from u and u can bring up all the reasons why he shouldnt be taking care of the baby..like no steady job and hes always out. u need that baby and u dont need this man who wont take care of u there. good lukc and stay strong =)
2007-06-22 16:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by Daisy! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already have one baby you don't need to go take care of another one; a 28 big baby. He's threatening you with telling you he'll take the baby... okay.. let me ask you something.. if you where the judge, would you give a child to a guy that has no job, that doesn't spend time with her, who doesn't come home at night. He definetely is too imature to have a baby. Talk to your parents, ask them for their advice, they are helping you out right now and you just need to look forward and look out for your baby. your baby knows if you are sad and it will afect her, i'm not saying leave him because that is a desicion you need to take, but i do think you need to put the facts on the table and be the grown up. for your baby's sake!
2007-06-22 16:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by Ale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. He's a loser. And taking your baby away is idle talk...you've been caring for her, so you'd win any custody battle. He doesn't want her anyways, or he'd be there interacting with her all the time.
2007-06-22 16:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋