My brother is seriously in trouble with alcohol abuse, yet he is not capable of seeing it, do you think that videotaping his antics, and showing him what he is like when he is drinking would help him to seek help?
2007-06-22 15:49:45 · 9 answers · asked by Tim 47 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I know that he is way smarter than I am, yet he is continually making bad choices, has anyone else had success in this type of situation?
2007-06-22 15:50:56 · update #1
I am 42 and he is 41 now yet he has always been better in school, how do you breach the subject of this kind to someone who tests smarter than you?
2007-06-22 15:55:42 · update #2
I also have an alcoholic brother. Our family has tried everything from interventions and confrontations to loving, tolerating and videotaping. He was drunk at our parents funerals. Nothing has helped yet.
He is a christian. His faith as a "born again" seems to be used as a rationalization for drinking, since he is "forgiven."
2007-06-22 15:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is right to be in Religion and Spirituality because your brother's spirit is spiritually starved.
I have a friend with the same problem as your brother. Everyone walks around the subject as if walking on eggshells. Drinking is a part of her routine to have "fun". I've told her things she did when so plastered that she can't even remember but she just laughed, like "Oh, well!" For awhile it was funny to watch her get drunk, this was long before I was born again.
Maybe you should videotape the worst and wait until he is very sober and then show it to him.
2007-06-22 23:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your brother has any shame, yes. He might not be aware of the severity of the problem. I think if he were to see himself drunk, maybe he may feel ashamed by his behavior and seek help. You know how they say the first step is to admit and acknowledge you have a problem, and if the person doesn't want to admit it, there's really nothing you can do. So I do think your idea is a fabulous one and hopefully it works.
Good luck and I wish you the best!
2007-06-22 22:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by bella212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is in the hospital right now with chronic liver disease because of her drinking. I wish that video and still images would help. I have tried it.
This is her third time in ICU and she was bleeding all over the place. I took photos and video of that, and when (if) she gets out of the hospital, I will show her that - the mess that I had to clean up, I just wish that I could bottle the smell.
Different things work for different people. You can try the video and see what happens. You can take him to see my wife in ICU, to my house to see the images of her "mess". Maybe that will help.
Remember, that no matter what YOU want, he has to want if for himself.
Feel free to email me if you need someone to talk to.
Peace and best wishes to you.
2007-06-22 22:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Intelligence and commonsense do not always go together.
Albert Einstein apparently would always forget to tie his shoelaces.
And yet in the real world, for example on a mine site, this simple fact of boot/shoe laces being untied would bar a person from entry...on the basis of safety.
Yes!/ sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
Show him the video.
2007-06-22 23:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by pugjw9896 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do if you've already talked to him about it. He's addicted. The only way he's going to get help is if he realizes it. But most addicted people don't think they're doing anything nutty even when you show it to them.
I wish I had some comforting words to give, but I really don't. He'll either realize he's hit bottom and pull himself out (my father did) or he won't.
2007-06-22 23:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried getting in touch with Al-anon? They're a group geared to helping the families of substance abusers, and I'm sure they'll have much better suggestions than any I could share. Here's the link:
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
All the best to you.
2007-06-22 22:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by Let Me Think 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing with my brother. Actually, I suspect he is but he doesn't live with me so I can't be sure.'
Anyway, I think a video-tape is a great idea. I know when I see or hear a tape/picture of myself, it makes me see a few things I want to change :-)
Have you tried this question in the psychology section?
2007-06-22 22:58:59 · answer #8 · answered by strpenta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing you do will make him do anything.....he will simply remain in denial until and unless he wants to be more than he is. All I can say is that you must hold him responsible for his actions, and treat him as you would a complete stranger who did the same thing. Until such people are held accountable, they will never learn accountability.
2007-06-22 22:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋