I know it sounds stupid cuz its MY wedding but I dont want there to be tension. I used to work with this doctor from December 2005 to Juned 2006 and him and I did not get along. He is very arrogant but plays a very good part in front of others. In June of 2006 I was transferred to a different location to help out with the staff there but now I have been transferred back to my old location to run the show. I want to invite my coworkers cuz they are good people and I really like them. I just dont' want to invite the doctor. I just feel that he isn't the caliber of person I want around. Any suggestions?
2007-06-22 15:37:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you really don't like him, he may feel the same way or at least sense you don't like him. To avoid tension, invite him anyway. Even if he shows, it's your special day and you don't have to spend it with him, but just the gesture may help ease a lot of tension at work. Who knows, it may improve other things as well. There have been many people over the years that I thought I did not really like, but when I ran into them on a personal level away from work they were totally different. Bottom line is, like you say, it's your day, but if it were me, I would invite him, knowing in the end that, whether he showed up or not, I was the better, bigger person.
2007-06-22 15:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by uscitizen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't invite everyone from the office and exclude the doctor. But, if you are only inviting a few co-workers, you shouldn't feel like you must invite him too.
If this doctor is one of your bosses, you probably should invite him. It's up to him if he would be able to attend, but, at least there won't be any hard feelings at work. Many doctors are arrogant in the workplace, but when they are with their patients or in a social environment, they know how to turn on the charm. He will most likely be seated with your co-workers so you will not have to interact with him on your big day other than introducing him in the Receiving Line and thanking him for coming when you and your spouse visit each table and thank your guests for coming on your special day.
2007-06-23 00:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by chansenfam@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe an invite could lesson the friction between the two of you. if everyone else is invited and he is not,no matter how much he may dislike you his feelings would still be hurt. anyones would if they were they only one left out, maybe an invite could be the needed truce. he might be a totally different person outside the office.
however it is your wedding and you are in no way obligated or expected to invite someone you dislike. if you don't want him there and can see no good coming of it then don't invite him. you don't need or want trouble on your day.
good luck and congrats
your indecision to invite him gives me the impression that you do have some compassion for him and are considerate of his feelings. i think there is hope for a truce.
2007-06-22 22:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your wedding. You should invite whoever you want. If you don't feel comfortable inviting the Evil Doctor, then don't.
The last thing you need on your Big Day is a lot of stress.
2007-06-22 22:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by miri-miri-off-the-wall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him there, don't invite him. However, it sounds like you're having a crowd. Believe me, if you "assign" a couple of your old co-workers to keep the guy busy, they'll do it and it'll be no big deal to have him there. Of course, this is assuming you get a good gift from him. (Just kidding.) I ended up having a beoch at my wedding. No one knew it was going to be a big deal. My husband had gone out with her about 25 years prior for a few months. They had been friends since then. She was attached and had her fiance with her. Due to her parents, uninviting her wasn't an option. A couple of our friends simply went and sat themselves with her during the reception. I saw her when she walked through the reception line and just to see her at the reception. It worked out for us.
2007-06-23 03:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically if you don't invite him there will be tension. But then again, its YOUR wedding. So you can swing either way. The most passive thing to do is invite him and just let it be. You don't have to personally entertain him. He can mingle with your co workers. Otherwise when you go back to work if you don't invite him things may get sticky. Good luck =)
2007-06-22 22:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by danni_is_bored 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I wouldn't invite this doctor. It seems that people always are inviting a bunch of co-workers to their weddings, then a year or two later, jobs change and you never hear from these people again.
If the doctor is miffed, he will get over it. In a couple of years he probably wouldn't remember if he went or not.
2007-06-22 22:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tim 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it doesn't sound stupid. if you will see this dr often i would suggest you invite him. you said he plays a good part in front of others and on your wedding day you'll be surprised how little other people bother you. it would be worth your sanity in the long run to probably invite the pompous ***
2007-06-22 22:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not obligated to invite someone who works with you to your wedding! Certainly NOT someone you dislike! Just don't invite him. No one's going to lose out.
2007-06-22 23:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by nolajazzyguide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to invite anyone you don't want there.
However you know about office politics....and to keep the peace it maybe better just to invite him.
You'll be so busy you won't know he's there anyway.
2007-06-22 22:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋