I lost my eldest 3 years ago today and it just isnt getting any easier. Will it ever?
She was 16 and in a fatal car accident. I dont know if my heart will ever heal.
2007-06-22 15:27:39 · 10 answers · asked by kaisergirl 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
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2007-06-22 16:50:56 · update #1
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2007-06-22 16:57:04 · update #2
I'm so sorry to hear that.
My husband lost his eldest sister (of 8 kids) when she was 16 in a fatal car accident as well. At the time he was 7. His mother and father never got over it. His father's last words on his own deathbed (at age 75) was "I'm going to see my Denise". Then he passed.
Most recently, my husband's older brother's son committed suicide at age 21. He had everything to live for, but he just couldn't see it.
I don't know when and if it does get any "better" Just more live-able.
My brother's wife told me she hates it when people tell her "it'll get bettter" or "give it some time" or "i know how you feel". So i won't say any of those things.
just want to say that I feel for you and your family.
2007-06-22 15:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by I love my maltese 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok....first i will start out by saying i'm sorry. I am 15, and even though i do not know what it's like to lose a child (i don't have one and i'm not planning on having one netime soon) I do know how it feels to lose someone close. I'm not gunna lie, it will always hurt. but with each passing day, it gets only a smidge easier. some days are gunna be very tough. It would be a whole lot worse if it didn't hurt. b/c if u didn't, then u didn't luv her. and it's obvious that u do b/c u do feel hurt. But u have to be strong. u said ur "eldest" died, so that means you have other children. Be strong for them. And love them b/c u have them still. But u have to think about it, would she "16 yr. old" would have wanted you to be sad all the time? No. she wouldn't.
2007-06-22 15:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by omglikenoway 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, I lost a 4 year old son, my first born in 1999, so I will tell you this from experience dear, you will never forget what happened, but as the years go by, your heart will always remember the happy moments you spent with you daughter, making it a little bit easier to cope with the pain. The days that will always be the hardest will be on the day she died, the day she was buried and on her birthday, it has been 8 years and I still cry specially on those dates. My heart goes out to you and your family. God bless you, and if you need someone to talk email me I will be glad to make a new friend, and to help.
2007-06-22 16:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, first I'd like to say I am so sorry for your loss. Second I don't know if it will ever get easier. I just lost my baby boy 8 months ago and it doesn't seem to be getting any easier for me. Infact it just seems to get harder and harder, as I miss him more and more everyday. I go to the cemetery to visit him everyday, and have since the day he was layed to rest. It gives me a reason to get out of bed each day.And I've also cried for him everyday since he's been gone. So I really don't know if it ever gets easier, for as where I am now it doesn't seem like it ever will, but I still have hope. And by the way my baby was six and a half months old when he passed away. He had Biliary Atresia, it's a rare liver disease. Oh and he would of been 15 months old today. I miss him so much.
2007-06-22 16:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by eloclegin 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. How heartbreaking.
I know 2 parents who lost children and they said they don't believe their heart will ever heal. However, the wound gets smaller and they manage to go on with each day. Have you gone to bereavement counseling? Maybe a group to talk with?
2007-06-22 16:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by LC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I lost my 2-3 y/o daughter one nighttime. She grow to be not in her mattress when I checked. I lost my techniques, checked doorways and homestead windows, wakened pals, etc. merely in the previous calling the police I checked her room returned. She had fallen off the mattress and grow to be snoozing, wedged between the mattress and the wall. How might desire to she sleep like that? No clue. It surpassed off returned however so she did sleep via it. the 2nd time I purely panicked a 2nd. It sounds stupid now inspite of the undeniable fact that it grow to be terrifying.
2016-09-28 08:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it will get easier but you will not forget her. Try and remember the good times and good memories about her. Think positive and God Bless you.
2007-06-22 16:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have not. Just expressing my sympathies. I am very sorry.
I suggest your visit
babycenter.com - they have a board named bereaved parents, among many other loss boards.
2007-06-22 15:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Kel B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had a miscarriage 2 month ago and still cry till today
2007-06-22 15:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by niblzz 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you should meet my mom. and my sister - www.stacistory.com
email me to talk to my mom if u want
2007-06-22 16:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by foogusnot 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋