I have been friends with this guy for about 10 years since we started college together. He is mostly straight, I am mostly gay. One time like 5 years ago we were drunk and masturbated together while watching porn. We touched each other a little, never talked about it again. Neither of us were dating anyone at the time. Now, it happened yesterday. We had both been drinking a lot, being stupid, wrestling around, but we did play a little with each other. The problem is he has been dating this girl for about a year, and we're all close friends now. Today when I talked to him on the phone he didn't say one word about it, neither did it. Tomorrow we are all hanging out, and I don't know how to act around them. I will be VERY nervous and I feel bad about her not knowing. So, should I just forget it or what?
2007-06-22 15:04:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you should tell her. He's been with you only twice -five years apart - and he's been drunk. That's hardly an indication that he's into you. If you've been friends for 10 years, why would you want to mess up his relationship? If you want more with him (and it sounds like you do), then you should talk to him about it and see if he feels the same way. If he doesn't, then decide to either be his friend and keep quiet or remove yourself from the equation.
2007-06-22 16:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by Julianne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a short story however, let this one go. She sounds confused as to what she wnats. She has you up and down like a yo-yo. You deserve better. You sound like a real nice guy and she is playing with you. If she told you to get away, then do it. Find someone else. It will come around again.
2016-05-17 23:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some thing kinda like that happened to me, With my brothers wife. We would flirt and stuff nothing to bad, then when I got devorced My brother let me move in with them. Me and her got drunk one night when my brother was working 3rd shift. It only happened once. It was very weird being around her after, she wanted to do it again but I couldn't cuz well it's my brothers wife. After a few months we told him, he was mad that we didn't tell him sooner, but he still love's both of us. Me and his wife are still good friends. this might not help because we're girls and for some reason ppl think isn't not rong for us to do anything. I wouldn't tell the girl, if your friend wants to it's his place to tell her.
2007-06-22 15:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think YOU should tell her, but I think you should definitely try to talk to him privately before tomorrow and figure out a plan. HE should tell her. I guess it actually depends on how serious the two of them are. If they are just casually dating, then no need to be all worried. If they're serious, then it's crappy for her to not know.
2007-06-22 15:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Luna Maya 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Two events 5 years apart are hardly an indication that he is gay or even bi. He was drunk and horny. And you apparently were on the ready to lend him a hand...or whatever. I wouldn't mention it to his girlfriend.
If you think its a big deal (and you seem to), and if his girlfriend is such a good friend to you also, then what are you doing messing around with her boyfriend? And then you want to turn around and tell her about it? Don't be a drama queen!
2007-06-22 15:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
he's your friend. It sounds like you think he may be gay or bi. I would talk to him, not his gf about it. Why talk to the gf without discussing it with the guy?
2007-06-22 15:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by uz 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell herr!
2007-06-22 15:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by .. 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋