2 years ago I had a baby with this guy that I dated for 6 months. After the baby came he decided that being at the bar or hanging out with his friends are more important. I have 2 other kids from a previous marriage. When the baby came he did not want anything to do or let me see my other 2 children(as I do not have custody of them) When the baby was about 3 months old he was telling everyone that he was sterile and could not have kids.(the baby looks just like him, and I know for a fact he is his) Well our problems just got worse and I could not take them anymore so I left around thanksgiving.
I started dating a guy I have not seen in 10 years. In the begining it was all great. then 4 weeks into it the problems started. He was afraid to get attached and decided to break up with me. I fought hard and got him to stay. About 2 months ago he lost his job and we started living with my parents. I have been the sole money maker and supporting my parents and us. I can't decide between the 2
2007-06-22 14:44:46 · 10 answers · asked by lilprinces7869 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My ex now tells me that he misses me and the kids and I miss him. My bf now just stresses me out cause we fight all the time. He has always loved my kids from the begining. I feel like I don't have a choice but to go back with my ex with the way things are going where I'm at. I just don't know what to do
2007-06-22 14:47:02 · update #1
You have to many things going on with too many people leaning on you. First of all I know you don't want to be alone but your children need to come first. This must be very confusing to them, I say keep working but take some time and find out what you really want, don't be so afraid that one or the other wont stay in your life because if they want you and the kids they will understand. Sit down make a list of the qualities you look for in a man then make a list of the qualities each man posses, believe me you will start to see the things you think you want are not always whats best for you. I wish you the best (think of your kids)
2007-06-30 12:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by blackpearl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you hae a choice. and you say you want to be with the x and hes the one that didn't want the baby and all that? you are stupid. i would throw the guy out of your folks house and then decide take time and decide. you dnt' need either of them if you cask me. you can make it on your own and have some down time. this is time to relfect. The first one was very mean to you and dont' forget it its not going to change and the other one well hes letting you support him i think not. why can't you just get yourself together and find someone new and nice that could love you and the kids that is best bet. aren't you tired of being the turn around shoe and the one working all the time for hitting the head against the wall? hey it would work better to be alone and enjoy those kids. they are precious and don't forget it.
2007-06-30 21:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey girl you need to say goodbye to both of these guys and learn to live without a man for a while. That would be the best thing for you and your children. Your children are going to end up being the ones neglected if you stress out over men. Take care and best wishes.
2007-06-30 13:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from both men. Get on your feet and take care of your 3 kids. I hope you are after the dads for child support! If not get that ball rolling. The 3rd baby's daddy needs to prove he's worthy yet if you date him before you know he's worhty your going to hurt your kids and yourself more.
2007-06-29 14:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by sillylittlemonkee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of these is doing you any good. The deadbeat needs to go, and if you aren't getting child support for the baby you'll have to explain to me why this moron is not in jail. You are being sucked dry, girl, while the person you really need is getting away. And the person who really needs you is drifting away, (the child). Kick them both to the curb, get your support started, and start liking you instead of them.
2007-06-30 02:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave both of them and find a man who is good in all aspects of a relationship... not one or the other!!! Good Luck!!!
2007-06-22 21:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lovely Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back with your ex- he understands you more than anyone, but you better put some rules before going back
2007-06-22 21:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by yoyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's tough....i'd get with the baby's father...for the kid's sake
2007-06-30 21:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by nycgirl123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what feels rights
2007-06-22 22:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry
2007-06-30 21:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋