ok i have picked my boys game read other question to know moere in my profile well anyway i asked her when i told her about the game i asked if it would be ok if i just made the reception and that's when she said why if i miss the most important part and she kept telling me that i should be there not at my boy tourement so do i go to the reception after his game i am very upset about some things and am not sure if she even wants me there if i am not there for the wedding so do i just forget it all or what i have offered to pay for my meals that would have been served but what else should be done
2007-06-22 14:43:56 · 12 answers · asked by LOLO 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
she is a mother to a girl my kids age and they have been togherfor years and have lived together for years tooo
2007-06-22 14:59:07 · update #1
I would send the gift to her now and include a note and just spend time with your boys. She may be over it by the reception but she may not be. Enjoy your family.
2007-06-22 14:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Professional Advice --- The reception is the party for the wedding guest. Some couples have small ceremonies and then have huge receptions. In that case they dont invite everyone to the ceremony but everyone is invited to the reception. However in your friends wedding this is not the case. You received an invitation for the ceremony and reception. It is very rude and tacky to attend only the reception and skip the ceremony. Especially when the reception follows the ceremony ( the most important part).
However you have known about her wedding for a long time. your sons game you have known abotu for at least 3 weeks. Is this really a game that he cant miss? Does he really have to be there? Will there not be other games after this one??? But since you ahve chosen your sons game I would urge you to NOT attend the reeption, espically when the BRIDE, herself, has told you NO, in so many words.
Personal Advice --- i would never dream of attending a friends reception if I did not attend the ceremony. regardless of how long i have known her and weither i've lived with her or not my children will come first. for someone to tell you that you are to pick them over your child is very very wrong. you have chosen your children and you stick by that. however in NO MEANS should you attend the reception. The bride has basically told you not to.
2007-06-23 01:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WELL I think that you need to make that desicion but if she is going to be so upset that you dont make it to the wedding itself them maybe you should be too upset to go to the reception after her wanting you to have someone else take your son to the game. She didnt come right out and say it but she moreless said that if you cant be there for the wedding she doesnt want you at the reception either...mmm sounds like a fairy tale friendship there doesnt it??/ LMAO sorry I had to get that dig in just once but you know like i said she made this mess by not understanding that you , unlike her, puts your kids first. Look how she puts her daughter last all the time and you dont do that with your kids and i should just come to your house and kick your butt for even thinking about what you should do skip out on MY nephews game tomorrow or go to her wedding!!! Well i know that you will still talk to her if you dont go to neither one but things will be different and you know how she rubs everything in like what she got what she did and how much fun she had etc etc etc. I will be here for you no matter what you decide.
2007-06-22 22:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by dede 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if you can have a copy of the video or if when she gets it if you two can watch it together so that she and you can feel like you are a part of her special day. She will have a good time explaining all of the important details to you! Go to the reception...at mine I was so happy and having sooooo much fun I would have forgiven almost anything! Besides, if she's that upset about you missing the ceremony, she will be crushed if you are a complete no show.
2007-06-22 22:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by MeMeMe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boy's tournament is more important to you than an acquaintances wedding ceremony/reception. Send a card.
2007-06-24 02:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send a gift. Go to the game and send your regrets about attending. It's nobody's business what the reasoning is.
2007-06-23 13:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
family comes first go to your boys game -someday she will be a mother too and their will not be any question as to where she will be.let her know that you would love to be their for her,and will be as soon as the game is over and share in her happiness.do not make it a-either-or -no .one will be happy this way everyone is happy
2007-06-22 21:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by needtoknow 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not go to either one. You have a perfectly legitimate reason for not going to the wedding, and if that is unacceptable to her, then too bad. Just explain that you have a responsibility to your children. If she does not understand, that is her fault and there is nothing you can do about it.
2007-06-22 21:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Go after the game...
2007-06-22 21:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by ShaH 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be the bigger person and go after the game.
2007-06-22 22:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by Des 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋