Why I hate my mother so much....?

Question

OMG, I have a very simular parent problem just like you do. My name is Ron and I just turned 23 in May. I can stand my mother and I hate her presence. I dont talk to her at all and to avoid her, I always stay in my room. My mother has the same type of crazy problems. She's in her 40's. She's too overbarring, overprotective, paranoid, and has a huge problem with always yelling to the top of her lungs when she gets mad. Its like she doesn't know how to control her herself! She loves me so much but she treats me like a child and doesn't respect me at all as a adult. I'm the first male in my family to graudate from high school and I have a job and been working for 5 to 6 years. I dont have any kids, I never had sex and I'm still a vergin (I cant believe that I am....). She always picks fights with my stepfather and loves to start drama for no reason at all. She hasn't worked in years and doesn't do anything now these days except sit in the living room and watch t.v. and knit blankets and eat sunflower seeds and candy. She's a Diabetic and has Authoritis and other problems that I cant even get into. I dont have a driver's liscence because I never applied for one. I know how to drive, I just cant pass the Written Test at the DMV. I failed it twice and I haven't went back since because I feel like I might fail again. So my parents takes me to work instead and picks me up. I never cause either of them any trouble and always pay for everything on my own wither it's gas, groceries, clothes or anything else. I buy my own things and never ask anyone for a dime. I dont believe in asking people or borrowing money from people cause its pathetic. But the main issue I really have is my mother. I just plain hate her. I dont talk to her and I'm sick of her always telling me that she loves me and that I'm all that she has when thatz not true. I have a half older sister that has 2 children of her own and lives on her own. I dont get along with my sister either. I dont like God at all and blame him for giving me such a mother and such a lonely and depressive life in the country. I wish so much that my mother's life would just end so that I wouldn't have to worry about her anymore. It wouldn't fully make me happy but it would be a start.....
If anyone thinks they have some advice for me then go right ahead, cause no one on here would want a crazy mother and life like mine.....

Answer 1

get a bicycle, move out and live by yourself.

Answer 2

First of all, I truly believe your mother is sick. I mean she has physical conditions, but I also believe she has mental conditions too. Maybe you can look at her & feel sorry for her because she is just plain ill. She really needs to be in a Dr. care. She can get medications for her illnesses. Did you study for your driver's test? IF you were given the questions orally do you think you could pass? There are people who can't read who have gotten their drivers licenses. Call the DMV, don't tell them your name, but see if there's a way you can take a test w/o it being a written one. You mother DOES love you in her own way. Remember, she is sick. Also, you don't know if she's in pain or not. IF she is, that may be another big part of her problem & she doesn't know how to handle her emotions. It's called displaced anger. Don't blame God for this. Maybe if you prayed to Him, asked Him for help, you'd get help from Him instead of being mad at him. God is a good God, a loving God. If we don't have anyone to turn to, God is ALWAYS there for us. Why don't you try looking at your mother in a different way & feel sorry for her & try to understand she has her health & mind problems. You can't be mad at someone for being sick. Maybe look at your life in different ways & your way of thinking w/change for you. You'll see things differently & maybe understand things a little better. Think about what I suggested, and also about calling the DMV re your license. You just might find a way to get it & that w/help you at least get out of the house...Give them a call, what do you have to loose?! I certainly wish you the very best....

Answer 3

Just a guess but could you be just a wee bit resentful of your mom??? I think you're confusing your resentfulness with hate. First of all, your mom sounds like she may be pretty needy. You need to find a way to be supporive of her but not feel responsible. There is something very abnormal about someone your age not wanting to have their license and own independents. I'm willing to bet that of you got out on your own, got a license and maybe some friends, you would feel a whole lot better about everything...mom included. I hope you have some good friends. If not- it's time to get serious about finding some. Live life...this should be one of the best times of your life! Good luck

Answer 4

You quit being a quitter and keep taking that driver's test until you PASS IT!If you graduated high school you can get a driver's license.I know this old hill billy woman the kind you see in horror stories.Thats right .She drives.If SHE can do it I know YOU can.Ask your step dad if he will give you driving lessons (hide it from your mom) then work at it until you get it right!You CAN do it,Quitters never win and winners never quit.Then move out on your own.

Answer 5

It sounds like you are just a loser still living with his mom and are taking all your feelings out on someone who is trying to help you. If she really bothers you that much, move out. You aren't 12 anymore. Your mom shouldn't have to take care of an aging virgin when she has her own problems and health issues. If anything, you should be helping her.

Answer 6

First off wow! The feelings you are experiencing toward you mother are actually outward projections of yourself.
You are unsatisfied with your life and you find fault in other people to make yourself feel better.

Yes granted your mother may have some type of mental issue. Can be related to menopause, or Bio polarity...etc.

Perhaps you should consider moving out and distancing yourself from you family. Find out who you really are before judging others. You don't hate your mother, you hate your situation.

My mother is the same, I moved out it made the world of difference. Once I was out of that box, I took the time to really find the root of her issue. My mom was going through menopause and was also battling depression.

Seek therapy it would be very helpful to you, I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 7

If you're 23 and have been working and living at home and hate your mother - wouldn't you think it is time to move out! At least for the safety of your mother. If she makes you that mad you need to get away from her and she needs to be protected from you. I certainly hope a family member see all of your anger and intervenes...

Answer 8

First find someone to tutor you in getting your drivers license. Then buy a car.

Next move out of your parent's home. You are old enough to be living on our own.

Then you will not have to put up with your mother's behavior

Answer 9

the thing is when she said she loves you...that mean she cares bout you...i dont get why u hate ur family member...and plus u are not soppose to hate anyone but the devil...god gave u a perfect mom and a perfect dad...so live with it...dont hate anyone....that is just wrong just hating ur mother...maybe go to the therapy...that will help alot...cuz seems to me u got the big problem

Answer 10

You have the nerve to say you hate your mother and God. You are a fool. 23 years old? it seem as though you have the problem. Get out of her house and get your own house. You are the problem not your mother.

Answer 11

this seems like a desperate cry for help. first off. move out, if you don't like the rules, move out... secondly, you need to study for that test.... then apply it. and if you think that asking people for help is pathetic... allow me to ask you...do you have any credit cards? gas cards? this is a form of barrowing. no one would want a crazy mother like yours, huh? I would be happy to have any form of mother. i haven't had a mother since I was 9. she walked out on me and my younger brother at this time. consider yourself lucky to have a "crazy" mother.