What ideas do you have to help a mature woman have a successful Christmas wedding?

Question

I am a mature Black woman who will be marrying my much younger fiance' for Christmas. I have been checking David's Bridal and other sources for suggestions. I have not been successful. This is my third and his second. This is it for both of us. I am not concerned about huge bridal parties, elaborate clothing, etc. We just want somethin simple and tasteful. I would prefer wearing a nice cream colored tailored suit with veil and for him, a matching cream colored suit. ( I am leaning toward wine, cream (winter white) and gold.) with sprinkles of green (don't want to be too Christmasy) My daughter will be my bridesmaid, his son will be his groomsman. I have not decided on the "time". With it being Christmas Day - I was thinking, either late morning, or early afternoon. I could really use some unique ideas. I live in a lovely complex with a wonderful clubhouse that features a fireplace, kitchen (oven, sink, etc,) I would probably have someone play piano music or CD's. I'd also like .

or a selection of CD's of our favorite music. What would you suggest for food? I am inviting about 50 people or less. If you know any websites, I would be interested. I had also thought about having the wedding the Sunday prior to Christmas and surprise my church congregation and marry after the service. The funny part would be, they would know something was up because I play the piano and would have to get up and change clothes....I want to do something special and nice for us. We have had many challenges in our 7 year relationship and we have come a long way. We have defied all laws to this point (illnesses, surgeries, death of my parents, my daughter going away to college, sobriety) and we still have joy, love and respect of our relationship in spite of those who did not think we would last this long because of our age. (me 54, him 32). I still believe that God's love can conquer all evil, challenges and produce faith in people. Thank you for your help.

Thank you Christina for your input. I do believe in Jesus very much, but my faith in Him and the love He has for me is way beyond the commercialism that the "world" has placed on this day. While we celebrate the birth of Christ on this day, my studies have shown that He was not born during the winter season. Additionally, I celebrate Christs' birth, life, death and resurrection each and everyday of my life through the love I show to all mankind.

I just wanted to thank those who have responded so far and to hopefully clear up any misconceptions about the choice made for our wedding. I know Christmas is a family day and also the day that we have been taught Christ was born. I wasn't selfish enough to expect people to loose sight of their own convictions and celebration to spend with us. We are talking about twho hours at most of less than 50 people. Additionally, since it was also during my birthday, my friends, sister and several other people were the ones who put the idea of Christmas Day in my head. I'm not rude and I do consider and recognize our Lord and Savior and family. But thanks to all of you who respond. I do appreciate your input. (smile)

Answer 1

You won't be able to avoid the whole Christmas theme, so why not embrace it? Play carols along with your favorite romantic music. Ask the minister to talk about new life and family and how wonderful it is that you chose to declare your love and intentions on the day we remember God loving us so much as to become one of us.

If you do it in late morning, you can serve a light lunch... or if you do early afternoon, you can stick with finger foods and dessert. I love your color scheme! Maybe use holly and pine and all sorts of seasonal greenery as accents.

EDIT - in response to the whole timing issue... I'm sure you already realize that if you do get married on Christmas day, some people might feel like they have to choose between you and their family. Hopefully that won't be a problem, but you never know. I personally don't see it as taking away from Jesus. (Now if you got married on Easter, I might balk.)

Answer 2

While Christmas Day would not have been my first choice, I firmly beleive there is no bad day for a wedding of 2 people who love each other.

Here's a thought for a dress for you. It's a variation on a suit, and instead of cream it's a soft gold color.
http://www.chadwicks.com/clothing/Shirred-Beaded-Jacket-Dress.aspx?PfId=99892&DeptId=8248&ProductTypeId=1&PurchaseType=0

This gown, while it's shown in black, comes in ivory and may be a good dress for your daughter. It's your same colors, just switched.
http://www.chadwicks.com/clothing/Halter-Gown-with-Scarf.aspx?PfId=61047&DeptId=8247&ProductTypeId=1&PurchaseType=0


If you still want your fiance and his son in cream tux's with gold vests and ties. The flowers could be dark, dark red wine colored roses.

Menu: Keep it simple. Are there any foods that either of your families traditionally serve at the holiday? Would you rather have a wine and cheese cocktail hour? A small variety of wines, cheeses, crackers, fruit, a meat or two. Have some sparkling grape juice for those who prefer non-alcoholic.

Enjoy Your Day and Good Luck

Answer 3

First of all..Let me say CONGRATULATIONS and good for you!
Why don't you have a party in the clubhouse..If it's allowed..I think that would be beautiful!
Your choice of a tailored suit..sounds elegant
For the groom though why not a black tux with a white shirt and gold tie..(Just a thought)
In the morning people would be attending Christmas Mass..would you be able to get permission for the wedding during or directly after the mass..Only because people will probably be with their family and friends visiting Christmas day in the early afternoon..Whatever you decide..I'm sure everything will be absolutely beautiful! My Congratulations to you again! Juanna

Answer 4

Congratulations! Your question brought a smile to my face. Thanks for sharing and asking. My suggestion would be a nice late afternoon, early evening dinner time wedding. I would definitely take advantage of use of the club house. A wedding done by candle light. Not as difficult as it sounds. With the fire and a few special close friends and family. Some simple menu items (your favorites and his). I would go with someone playing the piano. Your color choices sound beautiful. It is your day, do what makes you happy. I Wish you the best God bless****

Answer 5

Do NOT get married on Christmas Day!!! People spend this day with their families and in church. How rude can you be to expect people to spend the day on you??

Whether or not Christ was "officially" born on Christmas Day or not, it is still a family holiday! Can you image telling you kids that they have to wait to open presents because we have to go to so-and-so's wedding? Most people will probably choose not to attend.

Answer 6

Sounds to me that you have it all together. Good luck to you

Answer 7

getting married christmas day is rude. it is Jesus's day, celebrate him and make him important that day.

if you are not religious, other people are, i would not be there if i was invited.