How many men would date a divorced mother of 3?

Question

just wondering how many guys would want to date a mother of 3? How many wouldn't? If yes tell me why? If no tell me why?
Let just say she got divorced because her husband was a control freak and did nothing to help out withthe kids and let just say never realy want to have sex with either. no touching no nothing. is th reason for the divorce. would you judge her for it?

Answer 1

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. The hard facts. Most want to sugar coat it or try to spin it, but the facts are the facts. There would be plenty of guys who would want to date a divorced mother of 3. Even more so if she don't look like the typical mom of 3. If she look more like the hot auntie or big sister, she get noticed quicker and he may try harder.

We have a woman with 3 kids. That presents certain road blocks. How much trouble is the father going to make when he see some other bloke starting to play daddy to HIS kids? what about the kids? Are they going to be civil to your new man? Or they will see him as the enemy trying to replace pop and keep you and he from getting back together(the hope of most divorced kids)? and even if the kids resign the fact that their real dad is not coming back, they may not want to take orders from some new guy. Specially if they are preteens or teens.

The question is not if he will date.....but, can he overcome the road blocks?

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It isn't a question of wether or not many men would date a divorced mother of 3 or not, many men would. It is a question of how many would stay with her after some time has passed. How many men would be willing to stay with a woman, indefinitely, get married and stay with someone who is a mother of three kids whom are not his. I know many men of have tried and even went on to marry women like this only to end up divorcing afterwards. Being with a woman who already has children is a big responsibility and can be financially, physically, mentally, and emotionally challenging for a number of reasons. In the end the fact that she already has children whom are not yours, who most likely already have established relationships with her and her ex (their father) can put a strain on even the best relationship. It can also prevent intimacy happening on a certain level. The kids may or may not accept you and the older they get, the worse it can get. Most situations regarding divorced mothers are much better off being short term or friends with benefits types of situations, at least until her children are old enough to move out of the house and are adults themselves. I'm not saying it can't be done, it is just very challenging.

Answer 4

First and foremost, I don't see any problem dating a mother of three. Secondly, stop attacking your ex husband. If a suitor wants to know why the marriage failed and you attack the ex husband, then the guy you're talking to will be pretty sure you'll be talking about him if it doesn't work out. The only answer you need to give was that you grew apart emotionally and eventually realized that you were better off without him. I know from your question that you still have some anger towards the ex husband, and maybe that will never be worked out, but it would be better if you could let go of that anger so you don't project it towards the next man in your life and sabotage a relationship. Good Luck

Answer 5

Wow this is a question for our times. I mean no disrespect at all. It just seems that more and more men, and to a lesser extent women, are being asked to date and even marry families. I know a number of men who wouldn't want to do this. However, I also know more that would be OK with this. The reason for this is simple. Some men, myself included, do not look at children as a burden. This being the case makes it easier to see why we wouldn't mind dating someone who has kids. I love kids, and though, depending on the woman, it may be a little weird with the children, it would be just as awesome to find the right woman with kids as it would be to find her without.

Answer 6

I think it would take a good man that was wanting to be there for the childern as much or more then the mother there plenty of guys like that but gettting to know a person like that takes alot of time befor you can actualy decide to commit not only yourself but the childern to him. If the childern are not comfortabel a true man would most likly not feel comfortabel being with childern that felt that way and would never feel at ease aroynd you. The main thing is the kids feelings of him.

Answer 7

I have been divorced for 15 years and raised two daughters with the typical divorce visitation agreement. I ve dated and had relationships with divorced moms since my own divorce and I learned a few things. One, you will never be a priority in her life. Two, you are disposable unless you provide something she needs to survive. Three, she has all the love and emotional connection she needs from her kids so she will never commit her heart to you. That is until her kids are grown and she s 50 and desperate as age and gravity thin out her mating choices. I m 50, attractive, in great shape and my kids are grown. I date 30-45 year old professionals who do not have children, are fit and truly wish to find a soul mate to enjoy life. They don t need me for anything, they just want to be with me for me. The reciprocal is true for myself. So to answer your question, absolutely, positively no way!

Answer 8

I would and have dated women with children. Some with as many as five. The more children the more expensive it is to do things. Usually you have to do things as a family from time to time.
It is hard for a guy to see a woman's needs with children. If he doesn't have children or custody of his.
Men thinks she should forget about her children and just devote all her time on him.
It would not matter if she has children or how many nor would the reason for the divorce.

Answer 9

I would definitely go out with her because I would be there for her inc ase she needed someone to talk to. And I would every now and then talk her and her kids out too. HAve a nice day out in the lake, park, or just going out for dinner and a movie. I don't judge people and Some guys can get offensive especially when they are controlling, jealous and cheat because if he hasn't touched you for a while he's cheating on you. But want to chat just e-mail me or IM me anytime.

Answer 10

Only the good, really really good ones. I grew up with a divorced mother of three. She dated a lot...but sometimes men were hesitant to get serious with her. My advice is to be careful about letting men come in and out of your children's lives, and take your time being friends and casually dating men before getting serious, so you know they're the real deal. And, treat yourself well!