Mom- I know you love and care for me...but it feels to me you don't show it. You act so much different to Jeff and Marianne...You also always call me names and critizie me. You say I act weird around my friends but everyone is a little more hyper/crazy around there friends. But could you try acting like you care. Say you love me first insted of waiting for me too...ask me how my day was....and just make an effort to talk to me?
Does that sound okay? I'm saying that in a nice voice. my dad is gone tomorrow and some of Sunday.I want to spend time with her.Does that sound like it will fix things?
You can tell me stuff to add and take out or your own way of saying it =]
2007-06-22 13:08:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How about...........Mum I know you love and care for me, but at times I feel so alone and hurt by the names you call me and the way you criticise me. I wish you could give me alot more cuddles as I really love my cuddles. As for my friends, well things are different these days growing up with your friends, compared to how you went about it in your days mum. Sure we may come across alittle bit crazy, but we are just having fun.
Have I done something really bad or hurt you, to make you not love me?, If no then why can't you ever tell me you love me?.
P.S. Do you ever tell your mum that you love her? or give her a cuddle first?, as its a two way street. Cheers and good luck.
2007-06-22 13:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds good if not a little too involved how about trying to just talk about everyday things to break the ice and then maybe after you have been actually conversing for a while bring a few of your points up. Take your time and remember your mom loves you and your siblings alike its just harder to deal with several different personalities and what works for one may not work for another. Don't give up you only have one Mom and she will be one of the biggest influences in your life and will always be there to support and love you or even criticize when you need a wake up call. Good luck.
2007-06-22 21:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by tinkswings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, things are not quite the proportion that we see them. This is not to defend your mother's actions or lack of action. But, it can be part of human nature to hold a magnifier over a situation.
In time, as you grow and change, your mother will see how you settle down. For now, she is concerned about how you behave, which to her, appears different than the way you usually behave. She just does not understand, for now.
I would not recommend the whole speech thing. Your mother does care, I'd bet on it - she may not show it the way you would like to see it. I would also say that she loves you - but, if it takes you to say it first, then it is good for her to hear it from you. I wouldn't worry about your speech - just spend time with her and enjoy each other.
2007-06-22 20:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by TroothBTold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is wow. That sounds great. That's way better than what I could ever say... Never the less, come up with. I think it sounds so sincere. Good luck and make sure that you're understanding. Your mom may not even realize that she is being that way. Once again, good luck!
2007-06-23 00:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by craziiboutsingin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are on the right track ..
this is how I would say it to my mom and see if this sounds any better or give you more ideas
Mom,I know you love me and care about me but I feel that you show it more to Jeff and Marianne than you do to me I may or may not be right about this but ...could you show it a little more to me like you do the others ...I love you mom and I would just like to hear it more from you too...
Mom, can I ask you about a few things that have been bugging me lately...
Mom,why do you treat me differently than jeff and Marianne
it justs seems like you talk to them a little more than you do with me...
Mom,I realize that you may or may not realize that when you call me those names you do the name calling hurts me even if I don't show how it effects me all the time as well as your criticisms you may feel that they mean well but some of them even hurt ..
Mom,I realize that around my friends I act crazy you tell me and I'm sorry I didn't seem to realize just how much I do around my friends I will try to do better ..
Mom, I would really like it if you would ask me how my day was like you do to the others as well ..I guess what I really am asking is for you to spend a little more time talking to me ..
Mom I realize each of us are different but I would like the samethings you give to them given to me too...
Mom thank you for listening and helping me to understand and for helping me see it the way you see it may be we can work on this together you and I ..I love you Mom..
What you need to do is listen,seriously listen to what your Mom says to you and even though this may be ruff for the 2 of you to talk she will be listening to you she may not hear everything but try and be a good listener as well even if it hurts ..Good Luck...Be understanding too...
2007-06-22 20:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Pooh Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that's great. i wish i could say that to my mom but my mom really just doesnt understand how i feel. she treats my sibling a lot differently and she yells at me so much more and acts like she doesnt love me. but maybe she'll realize shes been doing that and shes been making you feel that way and maybe she'll fix it. my moms just not caring enough to be like that- even my friends think shes gonna kill them or something :'( and my life is being ruined (can you please answer my question?)
2007-06-22 20:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if this is how you feel then go for it!
Family will e family no getting rid of them so you have to say what you think is best or deal with things never changing!
Just tell her! itll be ok!
2007-06-23 02:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think what your going to say is just perfect it shows what you feel inside. but incase she has something to disagree have something to back it up dont say "yes you do" or "no im not" have something else planed and say it when nobody is at home or in their room because if your brother/sister might hear you they might make a comment and your mom would look for them for support.
hope i helped :]
-Klaudia
2007-06-23 02:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by Klaudia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds good to me but, if you think she may interupt you and disagree with your version of things or try to defend herself, put it in a letter. she can't interupt that. after she's read it you two can discuss it and the problems you're having. it's hard to take the initiative with something like this. i applaud your willingness to try. good luck.
2007-06-22 20:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very sincere...I'm sure she will be touched or may not even realize she was acting that way towards you. I say go for it.
2007-06-22 20:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋