now what ?

Question

ok . my gf and i were supposed to go to a party. but i wasnt feeling well so i didnt go. so alittle after she left i got up and went to the party. when i got there i hung out with some friends and stuff and one of them goes ''dude isnt that your girl'' and she is over there kissing on this other dude and leads him up stairs(in a house). so i follow them and when i get in there they are about to have sex ! so i yell her name (Andi) and pull him off of her im about to beat this dudes a$$ and my friends are pulling me back to stop me from hurting him. so i ask the dude what the hell did he know she had a bf ? and come to find out he did now im about to go mad and beat his a$$ so my friends calm me down and get me to my car so an the ride home my gf and i are arguing about the whole thing so when we get home i keep asking her what did i do wrong cause she didnt do that for nothing and shes like she needed something ''new''! so im really mad now and cursing and she throws a glass cup at me

and i had to remember she was a girl because i woulda did something i would regret so shes tring to talk to me and im like ignoring her still asking her why . so she calls a friend to ask for a ride to her house . now i havnt talked to her for 4 days i left her messages and went to her house but nothing so now what do i do ? do i wait? or keep trying to call her ? im misrerable without her and its effecting everything my job my life so please help !!!

shes my first love we have been together for 5 years i took her virginity and i love her sooo much. *if i didnt take it i dont think i would care*

ok she just called and said she wants to come over and talk so what do i say : i wanna break up,lets be friends or what *she is probally going to talk me into doing something*lol*

Answer 1

Dump her. Don't be mad at the guy...because since you are a guy...you know how they are. She's the one you should be mad at. There are just some ppl who can't commit. At least you found out now before you got some kind of disease. Consider yourself fortunate.

Answer 2

dude you can do so much better. If she didn't have the heart to tell you she was bored or wanted to experience new things, then she doesn't deserve you.
I know its hard because she was your first. But do you always want that fear of trying to make sure you are doing what SHE needs to be happy.
Are you even sure this is the first time she cheated on you?

take a deep breath, work on doing things that make you happy. What makes you feel good? You don't have to be in a relationship right away.

look the way i see it is this:

look at life as if it were a tree.
you are the trunk of the tree.
there are going to be people in and out of your life all the time

some people are like leaves, they are there for you for a little while, then the season changes they are gone. these are fake friends

some people are like branches on a tree. they are strong they are supportive, but be careful because if the wind blows to hard they break.

and then you have the roots. these are the strongest part of the tree. they nourish you, you can cut a trees branches and even part of the trunk, but if those roots are still in tact the tree will survive.
a tree that has a million leaves, thousands of branches, still only needs a few roots to support that tree

I guess what i am trying to say is find your root. Maybe you have learned everything you were supposed to learn from this girl. Don't hold on to something that was only supposed to be in your life for a season.
the person for you might be right around the corner.

good luck to you and i hope this helps.

if you need to email me.

Answer 3

Honey if you have been together and she does this after 5 years it will not be the last time. You need tell her that you are not gonna leave the door open for her to fly in and out of. Set it straight and move on with your life. It will hurt and be difficult at first but you will find out that there are a lot of girls out there that want a man who believes in fidelity.

Answer 4

You felt that since you were her first that she would be solely in to you but it looks like she wants to play the field. You should have not only been mad @ the guy but mainly at your girlfriend for being so easy. I understand that you love her but trust is important in a relationship & if she is going to be looking for something "new" then why are you wasting your time? She is not ready for what you are ready for obviously & you should know that you don't deserve to be cheated on..It's not for us to tell you to leave or stay it's what you're willing to accept & if you feel that you can work through this then go ahead but in all honesty..She has no respect for you or herself..

Answer 5

You are blaming yourself, and she's playing on that. She cheated, she's gone. You don't need that kind of relationship or you're going to send the message to every girl you date that you are cheatable. It's not a good rep to have. Kick her to the curb. The guy is a loser too, but hurting him won't solve anything.

Answer 6

Dude, get rid of her, and move on. If it wasn't this guy she would be with someone else. It's better that you found out now, then finding out after a wedding.

Answer 7

you already have enough problems in you life.
maybe getting rid of her could be a good thing.
so just think about it.
do you really want to keep this girl that cheats on you and probally will do it again?

Answer 8

aww im soory...but you need to dump her, leave a messege saying you cant do this anymore, that if she really wants something new, then give it to her...let her be like that...she new you wernt going to be at that party and she toook the oppurunity!!! im soory that that happended, but i think she might be looking for a little attention.

Answer 9

She's given you your answer already when she said she needed something new. Now it's up to you to get yourself together and make the effort to move on.

Answer 10

hmmm... maybe, 70% dump her & 30% give her another chance.. 'Cause maybe, she's not in the "right" mind when she did that.(you know what I mean?) But, even though you love her so much, & she's like.. doing those things to you, break up w/ her.. She's not worth it for you.