Ladies- If your boyfriend proposed to you without a diamond ring, what would you think?

Question

Instead he gives you a simple ring. What would you think. Why?

Answer 1

I would take that as at least he tried to get me somthing. He might not have been able to aford the world but he did what he could. Now if the guy was well off and could afford a ring like that then thats a different story.

Answer 2

Okay I know that marriage is about more than just the ring, the ring is a symbol of commitment and love that you share. You should love your partner regardless even if he can’t afford to give you a really expensive ring; it’s the fact that you are going to be together and share your life that is important. Saying that however I also have to admit that even though a ring is not that important in the overall scheme of things it is the most important piece of jewelry that you are going to own. The ring is something that you will be wearing every day and it wouldn’t hurt if you looked and it and really loved it. There are some rings that are very affordable and that are very nice, you just have to shop around and save. She will be wearing it for a long time and a bit of waiting and saving so that you could buy her a great ring is not a bad thing. Maybe you could even ask her what styles she likes, some women such as myself already have an idea of what they would like their ring to look like. There are also places that let you design your own ring so you can choose a nice style but an affordable diamond. When my boyfriend and I spoke about marriage I went ring shopping and looked around learned a lot about the different cuts and styles and grades of diamonds. I found what I wanted and went to see it with him and he saved up for it, but it was worth the wait.
Good Luck.

Answer 3

Well, if she knows that money is tight then she won't mind. This is something you two should discuss beforehand...knowing the money situation.

Sometimes a simple ring is 'worse' than no ring...if it's a long engagement especially..because everyone will say "Let's see the ring!" and they always expect a diamond.

By the way, you can get a fake diamond on a real gold band from places like QVC where you could tell her it's fake but her friends will never, ever know. EVER. Call them!

Answer 4

Well I guess it would depend on the guy. I know that most would think that it means he's cheap, but not always. I think if it was a guy that really loved this girl and she wasnt one to always want material things, and the heart is what mattered, then I dont think its bad. But if it is a guy that just doesnt want to spend the money, and is playing that it is all the heart, then I think she should decline his offer, because that is a sign in the future. I know I am going out on a edge here but let me tell ya a story:
I was in a hospital waiting room one time about 10 yrs ago. I sat next to this old man. He was there waiting on the doc to give him word on his wife which he believed had suffered a heart attack. We got to talkin and he told about how he loved his wife so much that he couldnt wait to ask her. But everytime he tried to save the money something in life kept spending it. So he decided to ask her without a ring. She indeed said yes. After proposing he wondered how he would buy her a wedding ring either. Well time went on and they did get married, but with again no ring. He promised her that he would someday buy her a ring. Well as you expect kids came, bills grew, so on and so on. Well for there 25th Annerversary he finally gave her the ring he had promised. He had for 3 years secretly taken a quarter and a spoon and shaped it into a ring. Believe it, I seen it myself. He was able to save the date which was the most important part, the year of their marriage. Well as of that day they had been married 36 years!! He explained that yeah he couldve bought her a real, nice one, but why? She loved him anyway,and she had already proven that. But he did say that if they made it to their 50 (given what she was in hosp for) then he would buy her one for that, and he said it will be to say thank you for a wonderful 50 years.
I know that sounds corny, but its true. So I dont think love and commintment is about money or what you have, it comes from the heart. And if you love eachother, she will understand.

Answer 5

I guess it would depend if I was sure he loved me and I loved him. My first husband proposed with no ring at all! I said yes because I was crazy about him and I knew he was about me, we share a wonderful son 24 years later. The ring is not the important thing, anyone can buy or even finance a piece of jewelery, what matters is the heart, is his in it? is Yours?
My second husband sold his truck to buy me a one karat diamond, antique, set in platinum and worth a small fortune still, he made me unhappy for 15 years and then he died on our anniversary, I have a box full of diamonds and jewels and years of bad memories. I was young enough and foolish enough back then to think the ring mattered, trust me, it's the least important consideration when you are looking at a lifetime shared. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

I'd say yes if I was ready to get married. I don't give a rat's as$ what he gives me. The meaning is still there, the love is still there. Many men don't have the money for expensive rings anyways and it's not fair that they're expected to have a diamond handy.

A rich man could give his woman the biggest diamond in the world and not love her at all.

A poor man could give his woman a plastic ring and love her more than anything else in the world.

Answer 7

That a diamond is beyond his means at the time. Maybe he could explain that it's a temporary ring and that there'll be better to come when his financial prospects improve. Not all women are motivated by showy signs of affection - if the girl is any way decent, she'll just be happy she was proposed to.

Answer 8

I'd be pleased as punch. I'm not a big fan of diamonds, so not having a diamond ring wouldn't bother me at all. I really wouldn't even mind if he didn't have any ring at all. All I'd be concerned about was that he loved me enough to want to spend the rest of his life with me.

Answer 9

Why give any ring at all?
My first wife and I had matching wedding rings and no engagement ring(s) because we simply could not afford them. We were married before a JP and had a "reception" at a friends house where they baked a lovely cake in the form of two interlinked rings.
I normally do not wear rings and my second wife does not, so we discussed the situation and don't have wedding rings at all.

Answer 10

I would think that he must love me and that a "simple" ring is all that he could afford. If I loved him, the ring, diamond or not would make no difference.