Why do women like to be treated like crap?

Question

I always seem to meet these girls that have had guys that beat on them or treat them like crap and a nice guy like me comes along and tries to show them love and effection and they can't handle it. Why is this?

Answer 1

because that all they know .just keep been nice to them and show them how a real man treat a woman .

Answer 2

Some people want to be in a relationship so bad they will take anything, until its to late ...

Then when that GOOD person comes along - treating them they way they should be treated the feel as if it is a big joke, because it doesnt last forever... I am older here...

I had a real JERK -and he beat me and I kicked his ***-LOL.

That saying -once bitten twice shy (song actually) is true--
because it is NOT easy for forgive(yes) forget (NO)

I met a guy and we are still just the best of friends, I feel really good when he treats me good, that I think I push him away, WE ARE THE BEST OF FRIENDS. and it has been that way for 21 yrs. It really is hard to TRUST enough to believe that he will treat me really good and be that way for the rest of my life and i suppose one of these years I will be with him and I am missing a great person, but I have been content being single...

I hope you continue to treat the ladies nice if you are sincere . I hope that if you ever feel that you want to slap someone around you will just - walk away first -- To much hurt and resentment builds up... THAT IS WHY
and the one that is "STUCK staying in a relationship of abuse is NOT doing it because they want to its because they cant see their way out. Some ladies NEVER say one negative word about their partner because they know if they do they will get the S* beat out of them... I got lucky- My mom is one that "just knew" and helped me. I HAD SUPPORT where others dont know where to turn.

OK I WILL END HERE... I can go into a RANT and that is not what u asked... I think you get the picture.

Answer 3

I think that the guys don't actually all start off abusive and crappy. The girls fall in love with him then. Eventually he becomes abusive though but she's already in love with him and will love him no matter what, even if he does treat her horribly. I think that's why many girls stay with abusive husbands and boyfriends. Not because they like being treated badly, but because they still think the guy is the same guy she fell in love with.

Of course, there are a few weird ones out there that I know of, personally who enjoy being treated like crap. It's because they have very low self esteems themselves and truly believe that's how they should be treated and it makes them feel a little better when they're treated that way. Well, maybe "better" isn't the right word, or maybe it is? I don't know how exactly to explain it..I know that's strange, but it's what I think about the situation.

Answer 4

Some girls like having guys that they need to 'fix'. They think they can make them better people when the truth is that the men can't be changed, at least by a woman who lets them beat on her and treat her like ****.

Many women won't stand for that. Treat me with respect when I respect you. Hit me once and I'm gone. Some women DO want men who don't need fixing, the others are just looking to fill a void, and they look for love in all the wrong places.

Answer 5

It is a statistic that this particular group of "woman" has extremely low self-esteem. They are treated badly since childhood normally, they have a low self-worth usually brought on by the way their parents or boyfriend treats them. They are told they are worthless, no one would ever want them etc. They are told these things or feel this way for so long that they actually believe it! I've tried to reach out and help girls like this but unfortunately it is very hard to do. You can keep trying, but the bad news is they will probably not listen to you either!

Answer 6

Some females, including myself, go through a period of our lives that the crappier a guy treats us the more we want to be with them. However, most of of outgrow this and realize that the truly good guys are the ones to be with. But there are always a few out there that never get away from the abuse and are trapped forever.

Answer 7

Most girls who accept that kind of behavior from their boyfriend, or husband, or any companion have very low self-esteem. Nice guys like you are rare. I would rather be treated as a princess than be kicked around and abused.

Answer 8

Good question friend? Makes me think of that song that goes "That's OK because I like the abuse." They have little or no self-esteem and are afraid that no other man will give them the time of day and so they stay in the terrible relationship. Familiar people are a comfort no matter how bad they treat you.

Answer 9

They are attracted to "bad boys" often times. My wife (we've been together 11 years) probably would have left me like the other (expletive deleted)s did if I had kept behaving like a "nice guy".

At first, I acted like I didn't care deliberately and we've been in love ever since. (But, of course, you are never to "beat on them" etc).

Try being a little less of a "wimp"? Just at first?

Answer 10

Its because of the bastards we've been with in the past. When a nice guy comes along, for me personally, i dont feel like I deserve a guy like that. Its got nothing against you.

Answer 11

This may sound a bit twisted, but in some cases once you really get to know someone then you can't treat them too nice. They don't deserve it. So maybe the girls think you don't really know them or you're being fake.