I think she is soon going to start her period. When I told my first daughter, (And she still laughs at me today for this) That wearing a pad was like a big bandaid for a boo boo. (She was only 10 years and 2 days when she started! Come on) LOL! So, how can I phrase it better for my next mother daughter talk! She just turned 11. She knows some from school, but being the parent, I have to talk to her.
2007-06-22 12:41:59 · 22 answers · asked by Shari 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
There is a great book called The Care And Keeping Of You that is wonderful for a girl her age. It explains everything from periods to acne to personal hygiene. I read it with my daughter and she still has the book and she's 14 now. She learned a lot from it.
2007-06-22 12:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dra 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that they are acting all bf/gf is cute. : ) But the fact that they are tying up phone lines is kinda wrong because what if there is an emergency and they don't let the adult know? I would tell them that they have to let you know when there is a call, when they are at home that they need to use the house phone where you can see them, etc. Or maybe buy them a prepaid phone and get a certain number of text messages or minutes and after they use all that up then it's done. I think in some areas you are right but in some you are wrong.
2016-05-17 23:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. Let her know why a girls body changes, what to expect and her options as far as products she can use. Let her know it might be kind of strange at first and she might feel awkward about it but it's going to happen no matter what and you want her prepared so when it does she isn't scared. Let her know she can ask you any questions then get her some products so she has them handy when she does start that way you don't have to run out and get anything or if she doesn't want to tell you right away she doesn't have too. The bandage this is cute but at their age it's better just to use the real terminology and explain it.
2007-06-23 06:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Orion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain it like this HUnny you will someday get a period do you know what that is If she says yes ask her what if not explain to her and tell her there might be cramps and etc also explain what a pad or tampon is and tell her if she ever has a question or anything about it she can talk to you! You could also Get The Care and Keeping Of You Body book for girls it explainds it all!!!
Hope this helps!!!
2007-06-23 09:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The book the Care and Keeping of you is the best! I seen that someone else had told you the same, I bought it for my daughters and it was a huge success....I also can bet that your girls have talked amongst each other about this as well , so buy the book and go over it together with both of them its a good starter to the conversation
2007-06-23 14:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local library and pick up the book "Ready, Set, Grow" and read it. Then talk to your daughter, and then let her read it. It's a fabulous book written FOR 8-12 year olds.
There is an author out there who has written some wonderful books for parents on talking about sex. Be truthful, be honest, and don't try to use weird comparisons.
This all perfectly normal and natural. There's no reason to be embarassed.
2007-06-22 16:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly at 11, she probably already knows alot, probably has friends who've already gotten there's. So I would start by asking her what she knows and if she has any questions. She'll probably be embarrassed so stick to the basics, show her what a pad looks like and tell her that she needs to put it on her underwear and check it every hour or two. Explain that she'll probably bleed for 3-7 days and that she'll probably get cramps/sore lower belly. Tell her that she can ask you for some pain medication if she feels she needs it.
2007-06-22 12:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was pretty cute how you told your first daughter. I don't want to tell you how to exactly tell you how to tell her b/c that should be up to you. Give her the facts about what a period is, why we have them and what is used when you have one. Yes they are telling/teaching her at school but, it would better if mom told her too. A pad is simply used so that you do not leak and stain your clothing. I was really young when I started mine also and my mother was nervous/uneasy about telling me but she told me the basics. I got the idea.
2007-06-24 09:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by Erica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls start younger and younger these days as nutrition gets better, so it's not a stretch to assume that some 8 y/o's are already having them (and are so I've heard).
Just tell your daughter why it happens (if she's the kind of person), or say it in layman's terms if she's not.
2007-06-25 16:43:19 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her in real terms. Don't use kiddie terms, she is growing up and you should treat her that way.
However to be honest I don't really remember what my mother told me(I was 11), but I do remember talking to my older sister(2 years old), I think it was easier to talk to my sister, she was straight forward with the basic facts, and it wasn't as akward as talking to my mother.
2007-06-22 18:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by Prodigy556 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋