I was with a guy for a year and a half. I was willing to give him everything, he wasnt a christian, and I am a strong one, but I loved him so much for that to get in the way. He broke up with me 6 months ago. We agreed to wait for eachotehr until uni is over, or if we did find sombody else, tell eachother. He has found somebody.... he didnt tell me... I found out which is why it hurts so much. Can you please give me advice, and/or passages from the Bible to help me. I know God will help me... but how do I let him? I feel so lost and alone.
2007-06-22 12:15:22 · 18 answers · asked by Smiley 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What your experiencing is grief. When we are disappointed or hurt it's the normal reaction. I suggest looking into the 5 stages of grief and asking God to help you work through them. Also, remember, it may not feel like it right now but when we are disappointed we find, later, God had something better for us down the road. Had we settled we would miss out on the best God has for us. In times like this I (literally) have clung to Romans 8:28 and Jeremiah 29:11.
2007-06-22 12:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't fallen from grace just because you are in love with someone who doesn't have the same faith as you. You can still be a Christian and marry this guy, however, the Bible does say it is wrong to be unequally yoked. It is a sin, and Christians do sin. I would advise against marrying this man, but if you already have, or if you feel there is no way you can get out of it, then so be it. The Bible doesn't say that if you sin you are going to Hell, it says that if you don't have faith in Jesus then you are not a Christian. I don't think you should get married unless you feel it is okay somehow, but I think your parents have it a bit wrong and need to get their Bibles out. A crowd was about to stone a woman in the Bible for committing adultery and Jesus said to the crowd, "let he who hasn't sinned cast the first stone". No one threw a stone because they all had sinned. I think you need to decide what God wants you to do. Don't listen to your parents or the people on here or anyone else, not even your boyfriend. Study the Bible and decide what God is telling you to do. That is the best advice I can give. I don't think you or your parents are bad people, but there is no reason to be ashamed of being a Christian, and Christians should not condemn other people like they have some higher power, God is the judge over all, and he wants Christians to be loving people who show how great God is by acting like Christians and living by faith, not by sight. No Christian is perfect, but we should always be reaching for God's plan in our lives and trying to do his will for us. I hope that helps, God bless.
2016-05-17 23:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with a lover is never easy for anyone [except perhaps serial Lothareo's] and the pain that you are feeling now is part of what makes us human. Unfortunately, as humans we seem to have an unlimited ability to hurt each other physically and emotionally.
Can I suggest that you read Paul's First Letter to the Corinthians Chapter 13 in which you may find some comfort. As a Christian, you must know that we are to forgive those who hurt us and this is sometimes the hardest thing to do. Take your feelings - your real feelings - to Jesus and he will do the rest. [Gospel of Matthew Chapter 11 Verse 28]
2007-06-22 12:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Gerry W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moment you agreed to wait until uni is over or you "found" somebody else, the whole thing was pretty bad. What "finding" someone, like finding a piece of meat at the butcher. My, does that guy stink. How could you put up with that? Sorry, but you deserve better, and pray for his sad soul.
Jesus loves you and will put in your path a man worth of that name.
Dry your eyes and consider that experience a good one for it was only relatively short.
2007-06-22 13:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about. You want God to tell you what to do NOW after you all have broken up. If you had a good relationship with God than he should have told you he was not the right one.
"Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all things shall be added onto you" (the book of mathew)
Build a strong relationship with God b4 you look for a soul mate.
2007-06-22 12:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by African Sista_4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful. God is protecting you from a lifetime of misery with an unbeliever. Your boyfriend probably didn't tell you about the new girlfriend in hopes that he could string you along in case it didn't work out with them. Next time make sure the guy is a good Christian. I'll pray for you. Proverbs 3:5,6
2007-06-22 12:37:22 · answer #6 · answered by Cee T 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know your pain. My fiance dumped me 3 day before the wedding. The pain i felt was horrible, i just wanted to crawl up and die. But i prayed and remembered that in philippians 4:13, I can do all thing through Christ that strengthens me. You will get past this, and my prayers are with you.
2007-06-22 13:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better now than after marriage! When you least expect it, the right one will come around for you. If you stayed with that guy, how could you meet the love of your life to come yet?! Give it some time and you'll feel better!
2007-06-22 12:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by Shari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sad..... It's gonna take time first and foremost. There just won't be any quick fixes. Spend as much time as possible in God's presence would be my advice. Listen to a bunch of praise music, have lots of prayer time and try to bring yourself to even enter into worship. The closer you are to him as you go through this, the less painful it will be.
2007-06-22 12:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear what you have been through BUT.....If you love something...let it fly free...if it comes back it is yours...if it doesn't it never was!.....Time to move on and remember Proverbs 3 v's 5-6.......................
Look to your future in the Lord and he will provide for all your NEEDS.......pray for what you want....if you want a guy then pray for one but be specific in what kind of person you are looking for...Believe me God will answer prayer...not always in the way we expect but He does answer.
Best wishes, Mike.
2007-06-22 12:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by georgiansilver 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋