Have you ever judged someone based on their looks, clothing, sexuality, or actions?

Question

Be honest. If you have, name the time.

Answer 1

yes but i dont say it to the person, i keep it for myself.

Answer 2

I peeked at a few answers and was kind of surprised.
When I was Xtian I judged people on their sexuality and looks way too often. I am horribly ashamed of that now. And since leaving organized religion I have found that I have a lot in common with most people who are not "straight" I will never judge anyone by their clothing as I was "poor white trash" growing up and always got picked on about my clothes. That stays with you for life, so don't let your kids do it.
Today I am proud to say that a person's actions and the way they treat others is how I judge a person's character.
I am also a much happier person for this

Answer 3

Of course, it would be extremely inefficient not to, and I doubt a human could manage not to under any reasonable circumstances. It goes against what our brains are built for, pattern recognition, we learn what we like, and see certain traits of action, clothing, and looks of those people we like, and then make judgments based upon our perceptions of these patterns whether or not people are worthwhile to be around, whether a date is good, etc. I can name no instance, because I do it every few seconds any interaction with another human being occurs. We can of course weight our judgments upon these things differently, but vague judgments will always be made by any reasonable person, I can't imagine finding a significant other without considering what they look like or how they act and judging the viability of a relationship based upon that.

On the contrary though, I've never hated someone based upon those criteria...

Answer 4

I will admit it, yes, everyone does whether they realize it or not. By looks only when I was hiring people who had to interact with high profile clients (vice presidents of 2 hotel chains and a major airline). I am sorry, but eyebrow, lip and nose rings don't make a good professional impression, nor do spandex pants on obese people! In my personal life? No, looks do not matter.
Actions, most certainly when abuse is involved, especially animal or child abuse, and I am not afraid to speak up for either! As far a spousal abuse goes, they are adults and they can get the hell out of a bad situation! I did. Can't name the exact time, because it does not happen very often, thank goodness, because I really blow my top!

Answer 5

Yes. I have fleeting "mental" moments of judgment.

1. I saw this woman in Baskin-Robbins eating an ice cream cone and something just did not seem right about her. I was trying not to stare. Then I realized that "she" use to be a "he." A trans-gender person. I went ahead an order my ice cream and left.

2. We had a girl in the office with not so attractive legs or body who wore a low cut (very heavy chested) blouse and very short skirt. She looked awful. I didn't say a thing.

3. If you meet a person and they have a rather large nose, you can't help but notice. You just don't comment.

Now mind you, these were mental judgments if you will. I did not say anything to the person. I prefer to call it observation.

Answer 6

We all do to some extent. We dont have the cognitive capacities to take the time to think about everyone we come across in great detail because it would be very time consuming.
We are programmed to make quick judgments. We use these judgements to quickly decide who we like, who we are safe with, relatives, enemies, and so on.
If we are aware of this we may be able to make better judgements but this will alwys happen and we shouldn't be ashamed of it.
Evolutionarily, unattractive or deformed people were unhealthy and may pose a risk to us, same with people who have scowls or frowns on their faces.. our instint tells us it may be unsafe to apporach them... we jusdge them as being unfriendly or whatever.
Just remember people judge you to and you'd like them to judge you positivly so you can try to do the same.

You can try a test online for this though Im not currently aware of any sites. Try searching "bias testing" or "am I a racist" .. something like that.

Answer 7

Of course, we all have.

One incident comes to mind that still effects me. A girlfriend of mine who would go to bed with everyone, stated that if she liked a boyfriend of a girlfriend, he was not off her hit list. She questioned "What if he is the one?" My reply was that, since she used men like underwear, maybe she shouldn't borrow her friends. She said I was being judgmental. I am not sure if I was but I do think that one shouldn't try a take advantage of those around you that love you. Our friendship ended. She said I was being judgmental and I still believe that I shouldn't have to worry how a friend behaves in front of my mate. I wasn't judging I was setting boundaries. I still love her though she doesn't know it, but I do hope she has learned that not every man is there for her pleasure, no matter how good in bed she claims to be. She did jump from one bed to another. Think she was trying to find something she hadn't found yet?

Answer 8

i cannot count that high.

i do not judge on sexuality, or race, or religion.

i do judge on looks, clothing (or rather the condition of) and actions.

if you look like you are trying to be intimidating, i am not likely to stop and offer you a ride. if you are wearing cloths that make it look like you are concealing a weapon, then i am not likely to offer you assistence. if i know that you have been convicted of child sexual offences, and i see you hanging around a school buss stop..i am going to call the police.

everyone does it. does not make it right. but it happens.

one too many times i refused to let my first impressions cause me to decide against helping someone. and ended up getting robbed/ or attacked.

so for me if you want me to treat you like a respectable person, then dress and act like one.

Answer 9

Asolutely. You can tell a lot about a person by their clothing, how they display their sexuality and especially by their actions. All of these things are indicators of who the person is on the inside. But by the way they look, as in bodily characteristics, never.

Answer 10

Yes. The other day I was at the grocery store and this man walked across the floor towards me. He was white, about 20 and in a suit & tie. I felt uncomfortable and tried to get away from him, thinking he would try and lift my purse or harass me about my food choices. Turns out he was attempting to get people to sign up for a store card. Which was almost as bad.

Answer 11

I hate to admit it but....yes I have. When I was younger I was terrible about it. I did it quite often.
I would the way people dressed determined whether or not if they were poor or rich. I would determine if they were decent or not by this too.

I remember thinking some hippy kids I knew were poor so they must have been potheads. Well I became friends with a few of them and now one of them are my best friends.