I am honored to be in a wedding. Between the flight, hotel, tux etc... I am putting out about $2500. Do I still get a present or is my standing up for him enough?
2007-06-22 11:16:56 · 14 answers · asked by MARK 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would say you are doing quite a bit of giving of yourself already. If you can afford a small something with a nice note thanking them for letting you be a part of their special day and so forth that would be fine. A nice card that says the same thing would be fine as well.
Forget etiquette. Do what you can with a good heart, that is what matters.
2007-06-22 11:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by Moose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others - a gift is appropriate, whatever you can afford.
The good news is that as a groomsman, etiquette also says you only have to get one gift - regardless of the number of showers, etc. The bad news - etiquette offers 100-ish for the amount to spend on a close friend's wedding gift.
Enjoy the champagne!
2007-06-22 18:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by FlyGirl24 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no such thing as an "obligation" for a present. Giving a gift is ALWAYS optional.
Standing up for him is all the gift he should want! It's a really important thing, and in truth, you should expect to get a thank you gift from him!
2007-06-22 18:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is required to give a gift for a wedding whether they can go or not.
Since you are putting out that much money you could get them a nice card if your finances are kind of stuck because of the expenses.
Or you could get a very pretty picture frame for their wedding picture.
2007-06-22 20:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a lot of money to be in a wedding, but by using the word obligation, that makes me feel that you assume you are doing enough. do not give presents out of obligation, but because you want them to have something nice
2007-06-22 18:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whew.... that is quite a wad of money to lay out!! I am surprised the groom's family is not paying for the hotel rooms for the groom's attendants.
Unfortunate, etiquette says you need a gift, but I'd go for something on the light side.... very light.
2007-06-22 23:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really should get him a gift. He didn't hold a gun to your head when he asked you to be in the wedding party. Get what you can afford, and for the love of God, follow their gift registry.
2007-06-23 17:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by Quiet Rebel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can afford it I would. Otherwise no. There are no obligations on presents. Gifts are optional regardless of what people seem to think.
2007-06-22 18:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A gift has nothing to do with the rest of what you are doing
2007-06-24 22:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. You have to give him a wedding gift.
2007-06-23 13:58:08 · answer #10 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋