I am planning my wedding but I don't have a wedding ring yet. It's already picked out, we just haven't brought it home yet. I never made an official, "I am engaged" announcement. My mom just suggested I start planning the wedding and I went along with it. Does being engaged mean having an engagement ring specifically? I am engaged or just getting married?
2007-06-22 10:23:28 · 30 answers · asked by LA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not having an engagement ring does not mean that you are not engaged! The fact that you are planning a wedding must mean that your "fiance" has asked you to be his wife. That alone means that you are engaged, with or without a ring.
Maybe the fact that you have not officially announced an engagement somehow makes you feel "less engaged." Make an announcement. Share it with friends and family, even if you don't have a ring. They will join in your enthusiasm & you will feel special. Celebrate the engagement... it's such a high!
If you feel like you are not engaged because you don't have the ring, just wear any old ring on that finger! A big rock does not always mean a happy couple!!!
2007-06-22 10:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have my engagement ring on my finger until 3 months before my wedding. If you and your fiance are planning your wedding and you guys have said to each other that you are engaged, then you are engaged. Really in the end, what you two think is most important.
2007-06-22 11:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The engagement ring means absolutely nothing, really. The wedding ring is the important one. The engagement ring is more of the status symbol that shows you're "taken" until the wedding ring is on.
Go on and tell people you're engaged. The fact you're not waiting on a ring to do it just shows you're not a shallow and materialistic person. People you tell will be happy for you, with or without a rock.
2007-06-22 10:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are engaged.
The ring is neither here nor there. Plenty of people don't have an engagement ring. Most men, for instance, don't wear one, and it doesn't change their status as engaged.
For that matter, my husband doesn't have a wedding ring. He didn't want one. That doesn't change the fact he's been married now for fourteen years.
The engagement is the period between the time you agree to marry someone and the time you actually have the wedding ceremony. What jewelry you do or do not have is of no matter to that fact.
2007-06-22 10:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not need a ring to be engaged any more than you need a peice of paper from the government stating you are married. You are what you know is for real in your heart. Soon come on the ring sweety. Maybe he is trying to find a cleaver way to surprise you. SInce you picked out the ring with him.
2007-06-22 13:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you need a ring. It's all up to the person. A ring is not going to make a marriage any more or any less. My husband at the time didn't have much money and he got me an inexpensive ring that I loved. I never replaced it for a more flashy expensive one. I think some women get carried away w/ how much the ring has to cost. You dont need a ring to be engaged, it's just what people are used to seeing. Be a rebel, you dont have to copy everyone else.
2007-06-22 10:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Erica 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you're planning a wedding then you're engaged. ;o) But, I was always told growing up that you need a ring and a date to really say you're engaged - technically that's not exactly true but I wouldn't make any announcements myself until I had at least a ring, if not both the ring and date (sounds like you have the date already).
My friend's bf proposed 2 years before buying her the ring - she told him they weren't to tell a soul until they had a ring! So for two years nobody knew he'd proposed. Hehe.
2007-06-22 10:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are engaged when a man proposes to you (asks to marry you). You don't have to have a ring, but you do have to have a man who has asked you to be his wife. If you went wedding ring shopping, I'm guessing he at least considered asking, possibly already did ask, but you didn't make that clear. If he hasn't, you might want to stop planning and talk to him b/c he might have other plans.
Many cultures don't even do rings...I have a friend who married a man from a small tribe in Africa...he gave her a wild boar he had killed as a proposal. :)
2007-06-22 10:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by its about time 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to be asked to be married and accept is engaged
i never had an engagement ring but was married for 31 years
2007-06-22 10:28:04 · answer #9 · answered by ann s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your mom should suggest anything. The man you plan to marry and you should talk about planning the wedding, if you are indeed engaged.
2007-06-22 10:26:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋