I work in a screenprinting shop. It is HOT in there, but NO one else dresses like this. There are 15 employees, of that only two others are females . I have complanined many times but nothing is done. Then today she comes to work in a BRA AND VERY SHORT SHORTS. When I said something about this , the boss SCREMED at me in front of all employees, "YOU ARE F------ CRAZY, YOU ARE F------ INSAIN. I then told them I was sick and left work. Now I am scared when I go in Monday, I will get fired. ( I have worked there 5 yrs. she has been there 4 months). PLEASE HELP!!!
2007-06-22 10:12:43 · 28 answers · asked by inkme 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Talk to somebody else in the company - higher up - about all this. There are two issues here:
1) Dress code - and possibly sexual discrimination
2) Improper and unprofessional treatment (of you) by your boss.
If you get fired over something like this, then you could easily sue for both wrongful dismissal as well as verbal assault!
2007-06-22 10:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I fail to see where another employee's clothing should bother you. It seems to me that you should concentrate on dressing the way you like to look and leave other people's clothing out of the equation.
I don't know if you saw the movie, Erin Brochovich, but it concerned a similar situation. Despite her revealing clothing, she was proven to be far more valuable as an employee than the other women in the office. Perhaps your boss values some quality in this fancy dresser that he has not discussed with you.
Frankly, I think you may be being a bit catty, even though I don't think your boss should have been rude to you. Sometimes women pretend to be Oh, So Shocked at the dress of other women, when the truth is, they would give their eyeteeth to look that good in revealing clothes.
Do your work. Forget what anyone is wearing besides yourself. Don't criticize the dress or behavior of others unless they spit in your eye or something worse. It is the responsibility of your boss to correct any office misbehavior and, if he doesn't mind the revealing clothing, why should you care?
2007-06-27 19:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Me, Too 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The clothing you have described is inappropriate in any work setting. The woman is setting herself up as a model and thinks she - or rather - KNOWS she is getting away with it because the boss really LIKES to see her that way. You are not crazy, the boss is a very sexually oriented thinking man and it would be good to take the problem up with HIS boss. It is just sexual harassment that is all. Go in to work and if you get fired for the way you feel, go to a social services and find out what you can do to change the situation - with four years of work there, you should have some consideration and compensation for the years of service you have put in.
2007-06-30 16:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all. Don't be scared. Your boss is a bully and it is time to stand up to him. You have a right to air your views and opinions and complaints and he has a right to respond to them. Whatever you do, do not let this experience deter you from speaking your mind, not even if you get fired. And if you do get fired, it's ok, you'll find another job and no you will not die of hungar b/w this job and the next. Thirdly, do not let anyone make you feel ashamed of your views. That's what this guy tried to do by yelling at you in front of everyone. So it may be scary if this is the first time you have had to stand up to a bully like this. but it is a growth process and as with every growth process, the more you grow the more you are able to take advantage of the better offers that you get in life and benefit from them.
So let's go through this again: No fears, no shame. You spoke your mind and there is nothing wrong with that
No fears: If you get fired, trust me you will get a better job
Continue to speak up: Don't give up who you are for some bully
Last and most importantly this is a fear that you have a conquer. Don't just slink away from it, face it and it will no longer have any power over you
2007-06-22 17:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by uz 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
This is abuse you are experiencing at work. You should see an attorney and file for Hostile Work Environment. You shouldn't have to deal with a boss who screams and curses at you, whether it be in front of other employees or not.
As for the girl in the skimpy clothes, if it's not against the dress code then I don't think there's much you can do. I guess if you feel it's sexual harrassment, then maybe you have a case. You're saying it "affects your work" so there must be something about the dress that troubles you.
I'd focus more on the abusive boss though. It sounds like he's the bigger issue.
2007-06-22 17:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by Luc 3 · 8⤊ 1⤋
It's completely unclear how this affects your work.
What to do depends.
Is the boss the owner, or a middle person?
Is there an employee manual?
Does it mention any standard of dress?
Is there an HR department?
If the boss is the owner, there's probably nothing you can do.
Either get used to it, or find another job.
You don't say what or how you "said something about this" -- if you ranted, then that explains the bosses explosion.
If there are higher ups, talk to them.
If there are standards of dress, bring them up with HR or the higher ups.
Or stop being bothered by it.
2007-06-22 22:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would go in on Monday and quit. it is obviously a bad work environment and no boss should ever talk to an employee like that. If you do not want to leave, then I would either talk to your bosses supervisor OR an equal to him. IF that is not possible, go into work on Monday and ask to speak with him. Claim that if you are ever treated like that in front of co-workers or in private that you will seek legal consult (just a threat) AND that you would like the company to write up a dress policy in writing. It should then be posted and enforced!
2007-06-22 18:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kimrific 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definitely check with Human Resources about proper dress code then approach his supervisor about the issue. Be sure you have your facts and if necessary, repeat the dress code policy as stated in black and white. That way, his supervisor understands that you are aware of the policy, therefore, he will have no choice but to look into it and resolve the issue. You may also want to talk to a lawyer about where you stand if nothing is done or you should end up fired.
2007-06-27 00:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by LadyTech 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Contact your states dept of labor, your boss is completely inappropriate and could probably be held up on either harrassment or sexual harrassment as you are uncomfortable with this person's dress and have attempted to discuss it with your boss. The only issue is that no matter what you probably will end up feeling uncomfortable working for this loser after, but why would you want to continue working for him, unless he is just a manager not the owner.
Good luck.
2007-06-27 20:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't let her trashiness get under your skin. You will lose your job and she will still be there dressing like a tramp. If her mom did not teach her how to dress like a lady than that is her problem. Of course the man in the office is going to like it they are man what do you expect. Just worry about yourself and your work. If your boss is still there then call him and tell him you had stomach virus or something and you will be there on Monday with bells on.
2007-06-29 16:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by jwilliamsinvestments 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋