I have a 12 yearold daughter that has been having some issues that I don't know where to go next. She is very tall, and developed for her age, she looks more like 16 - 5'5" 130lbs. She started her period when she was 10. She has continually wet the bed and we have had some success with the nasal spray DDVHP I think. At night she wears pullups to catch the wetness - and she is supposed to clean herself up. We have struggled with her to manage her hygiene issues, even had her on the Depo shot to stop her period because she would leave blood everywhere, leave used pads out on floor, etc. Very unhealthy behavior. She just doesn't seem to "get" it. She does not clean up after herself unless I am continually on her and that is difficult to do. She will leave her soiled pullups, clothes, blankets in the floor, put them in her dresser of clean clothes and worse. The latest is that she has wet herself in the car while waiting for me to run into the post office (5 minutes!) because she really had to go, she said. So she folded up her sweater and wet herself. I was not aware as she had the windows down- it was a warm day and was listening to music. So we get home and she is wearing the sweater and I was speechless when I found out. I cannot fathom this behavior, I have 6 other children and never had these issues to deal with and don't know where to turn.
She is also failing in school. Mainly because she doesn't do it or turn in her work. The teachers all encourage her, can see that she may need help so lessen her load, but she is in junior high and does not qualify by the state standards for help. I have tried to help her with her work but she doesn't seem to understand it.
2007-06-22 09:51:38 · 7 answers · asked by Natasha O. 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
This is a really complex issue that should be discussed with her pediatrician. In my opinion some of this sounds more like physchological problems, but she could seriously have a bladder control problem. Please have her evaluated asap.
2007-06-22 10:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by rec girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some kids who biologically develop slower in some areas slower than others. I use to have major bed wetting issues until I was about 13 but didn't have problems during the day. Found out my bladder was taking it's sweet time to grow so no matter what I just couldn't hold it very long. There might also be issues with the tissues not being strong enough to hold it when they feel the sensation to go. My best guess is there's more going on than just physical. Often children who struggle and show signs physically as well as academically have trouble coping with stress and may have learning issues you aren't aware of. Check around and find out who's the best developmental pediatrician in your area. These doctors specialize in not only pediatrics but also all developmental disabilities. They can also provide a diagnosis if there is something more you aren't aware of which can be used to acquire special ed services for your child.
2007-06-22 10:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by Orion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly she is rebeling because she hates having these issues. Sounds like she may be depressed. She is at an age where she will rebel, but I think you and her need to go talk to someone, counceling. Also a doctor, have them explain the hazards of leaving this stuff around. You need to make conciquences for her if she leaves stuff like that around. She has some issues, but you can't baby her and sugar coat things or be passive, but it sounds like there are deeper issues. I'm sure at school she probubly is capable, but whith her issues, and kids being so mean, you can only imagine how that would effect ones willingness to work hard. You need to get her in to talk to someone, and don't neglect that, she sounds like she is rebeling out of being angery about her conditions. Her development isn't unusual, a lot of girls develope sooner, you need to make sure she knows that you think she is beautiful and smart no matter if she wets the bed. Maybe her bladder just hasn't developed enough or at the same speed as the rest of her body. You need to be supportive, patient, and willing to help with the issues, not get frusterated etc..
2007-06-22 10:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
something very serious is probably occupying her mind. wetting the bed is something some teens do, thats not a prob. its not going into the post office and using the bathroom thats weird. i think that maybe she doesnt have a lot of attention because of 6 kids or she doesnt feel that pee and blood everywhere is gross. she needs to learn that it is. i think that you should find out what is occupying her thoughts. if that isnt the answer then shell need a psychologist.
2007-06-22 16:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ pandaheart ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow. It sounds like she has some sort of mental issues going on. So sorry that you're going through this. I would definitely look into getting her some sort of psychiatric help.
2007-06-22 11:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by phxchik07 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call you local mental health association and ask for help
2007-06-25 12:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this child is begging for help. please seek therapy for her.
2007-06-23 00:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋