Relationship ?

Question

Ive been with someone for about 2 months now. And we are really close and stuff but most of the time he only calls me one time a day..and its always at night. But when i ask him about it he just says its cuz hes busy during the day and he only has time to call me at night. I trsut him and stuff cuz i know hes different from most guys. Im the type of person too who always kind of thinks negative about things cuz of past relationships..So right now im thinking that the reason he only calls me at night is so that i will get sick of him not calling and then ill eventually break it off with me. But hes always saying cute things like what would i do if i would have never met you and he says some REALLY cute things..but sometimes i think he just says those things cuz hes just being nice but not because he really means it. I dunno if im being paranoid but thats the reason i think he doesnt call me as much during the day cuz maybe he doesnt really like me..
help??

Answer 1

If you want to unload some of that burden you carry on your shoulders... then try to talk to him about this. Be open and honest. Let him know that it's been tough in the past for you, and that you want to see if this will work, but you have these insecurities that, in order to rid yourself of, need his help as your partner. Ask him if he can give you a bit more..gradually, not instantly (it'll shake him off his saddle if you ask for the whole package at once) ..at least, if he wants this to work out. Tell him you're telling him all this because you really care, and you don't want to wait for something awful to happen before you tell him this. If he cares enough for you, he'll see what you mean.. if he doesn't, then he might ask you to help him understand. You'll be lucky if he's willing to go the distance and put extra effort into this relationhip. If he decides that it's too much for him and he can't handle such an intense relationship right now, then you'll be hurt (should you split up) but at least you'd know that he may not be the one for you.. at least, not now (not that i'm trying to keep your hopes up) and then you can move on..and look for someone who can help you rid yourself of that burden you have to carry in relationships. :) Ball's in your court.

Answer 2

This is somewhat odd. You would think that he could make day calls as well. My radar screen would begin to scan the real deal with this guy. Don't be too quick to dismiss what may be an instinctual gut feeling inside of you. I don't necessarily think you have been negative about past relationships but those that were bad have a tendency to make you more aware for your future relations and to keep your guard up from being hurt again. I would probe a little further with this gentleman and make sure he is not hiding something he doesn't want you to know. Best wishes to you!

Answer 3

The key to a successful relationship is communication and trust. I know you said you ask him why he only calls you once but you didn't tell him how that makes you feel. Im mean don't tell him all about past relationships and stuff but just let him know that you really like him and the things he says are sweet but his actions are not showing it. Let him know it would be nice to hear from him a little more even if it's only a minute or two but that makes you feel secure that he is in fact interested and into you..

Bottom line... Just let him know how you feel. If he really likes you and is considerate of your feelings, then he will make a change.. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

You are clearly over-analyzing the situation. You're acting like a help-less puppy. Which you are neither. If you are dire straights and need to talk with him call him. Do you not know how to use a phone? How you related him calling you only once a day to him wanting you to break up with him for it, is probably one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. (I can assure you no guy thinks like that.) If he wanted to break up with you he wouldn't be doing passive aggressive things like that. He would either have the balls to tell you straight up or say some of the one-liners "we should be friends, etc" Stop being so needy or you'll push him right out of the relationship.

Answer 5

Honestly, it sounds like you're being paranoid. Why don't you talk to him about it and find out? Ask him some questions. If he says he is busy, what is he doing that is keeping him so busy? If it makes sense, then unless he does or says something to make you think he is lying, then he probably is telling the truth. If he says he likes you, then he probably does. You really need to ask yourself an important question: why don't you believe him? If there is a good reason, then fine. Otherwise, you need to work on your self-esteem a little.

Answer 6

Relax, if he calls you everyday that's a lot for people only going out two months. Some people want to be able to talk on the phone without being distracted by what else they are doing during the day. I would take it to mean that when he can talk he wants to be doing only that so he can focus totally on your conversation with him.

Answer 7

When he calls ask him how his day went, maybe slip in a "what all you do today" not in a nosey way but just to see if he really is all that busy,

try calling him during middle of the day and see if he has time to talk...

Answer 8

Maybe he really is busy during the day. When the wife and I were dating, we only called each other at night.

Answer 9

sounds like hes being genuine - but maybe you should suggest going out one day or meeting up at night. The answer shold tell you the truth.

Answer 10

Tat used to happen to me.. but the i think you should call him too.. dont let him take all the effort u try too u know.. u call him during day to see whatz he doin