HELP LOOSING IT SON Leaving & I do not know why?

Question

My Ex & I split up last year. My son is 16 and decided to stay with him. he was supposed to come here and stay with me until July 1, but suddenly he wants to go home. (His half-brother moved in while he was here) I asked him if that was the reson he said no. he will not give me a good reason and i do not undertand. I am putting him on the bus in the Morning. I am not even over the heartbreak of losing him & his Dad and now this. Even My mother says she is sick of me crying, but I have not cried but once in the 10 days he has been here. What do I do? I am trying to not let it bother me but it is so hard to go on.

ADD ON: You know SUKKK my ASSS it is people like you who make me want to blow my brains out Right NOW.

Answer 1

Your son is moving back in with his dad, he is not leaving you like your husband did. First get that straight. A 16yr old boy may have alot of reasons to want to live with his dad and his step brother. Maybe he's concerned that his step brother will take his place or bother his stuff.

This is your kid, and he doesn't owe you anything, not even an explanation. You choose to have him and when they get this age, sometimes they want stuff they can't explain because they simply don't know. Stop thinking it has something to do with you, it probably doesn't.

Don't listen to your mother, cry about your divorce until you are done grieving. However do it in private, its your business not anyone else's. Or get yourself into counseling.

Tell your son that you love him and he is always welcome to come back, just to call and you will make the arrangements. Don't question him any more and give him some space. He will grow up in the next 5 years and things will be different.

Do what you can to move on, get busy and keep busy. Good luck.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you are feeling so bad. Unfortunately we can not control how our children feel. My grandson went to see his dad for a week and called his mom after three days and wanted to come home. He gave no reason. He was 13 at the time. You have to let him go but make sure you don't put a guilt trip on him. Let him know that when ever he wants to come back, anytime, for as long as he wants, he is welcome. I wouldn't even tell my mom about anything if she acts like that. Keep your chin up. He stills loves you, he is just a 16 years old boy. He will grow up and be able to appreciate the fact that he has a loving and wonderful mom. I will be praying for you,

Answer 3

I am so sorry to hear of your terrible situation. I have a son who is only 9yrs old and I don't know what I would do if he ever left me. I probably would cry just like you are doing. Your son is going thru a difficult time just like you, just be there for him, pray for him and never ever stop telling him how much you love him. I know it will be hard but try to be strong, don't hold your son back, let him go back home, and tell him if he ever changes his mind, you will be here for him to come back home to you. Let time heal the pain, I know that everything will turn out good for all of you.

Answer 4

Understandable. I never had sons, but grew up with four brothers and one thing I know about boys is that it is very difficult, if not damn near impossible to get them to tell you what they really feel. Try not to worry about him too much. He will be with his dad, it's not like he's running away. Family splits are always difficult for everyone involved, and each handles the situation in their own way. Of course you will and your husband will, want to keep an eye on your son for signs of depression. While your son is spending time with his dad, you should focus on your own recovery, this way the next time you see your son, you can be supportive to his needs. Good luck to you all!!

Answer 5

The sad part is you have to let him go and spread his wings.You can call him every other day and send him Cards or letter to let him know you thinking of him..Remebr when the kids are little they step on your toes and then they grow up and step on stomp on your Heart.I had my Son at 15 and he just got married this Sept.I thought I was going to loose it when he got Married because he was no longer my Little man,When we danced to our song,your gonna be by Reba macintire,I was in Tears as we was dancing and I was telling him How Special he was and that he is and will always be my whole world.They have a picture of that.Please Love him always and Forever and let him Know that you are always there for him no matter how far away he is.Good Luck

Answer 6

you have over a week with your son....tell him you had a surprise planned and just the 2 of you go somewhere. Spend time together and try to make a bond....hes 16 he will understand more than you think about what happened. See if he is alright with that and if he isnt then tell him you will drive him home and talk then!

Answer 7

i'm a Christian and that i've got confidence which you relatively pick some help. initially, get some sleep and then i could recommend which you're making the time to talk with a Christian counselor to attempt and get to the backside of a few of your ideals. God is a God of affection, compassion, mercy and desire. you have committed your son to God and He has heard your cries. I recommend you examine some books or hear to a guy named Neil T. Anderson who supply you some help. actually, your son has his very own option to make. I understand which you like him. My husband isn't a Christian, yet he's in charge for his very own judgements in terms of accepting or rejecting God. Philippians 4:6-7 "don't be stricken approximately something, yet in each thing, by utilizing prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, recent your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all expertise, will shield your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

Answer 8

You'll just have to let him go. Teenagers (especially boys) don't want to tell their feelings. Don't blame yourself. His stuff is at his dads and his friends are there among other things. If you take it personally then you'll only bother yourself. He's going home and he'll be fine. You mother doesn't sound very nice though! Just let it be. He knows that you love him and you know he loves you!

Answer 9

Even though he's not saying so, seeing his step brother move in was probably really hard for him, and he might see it as you are trying to replace him. Take him out alone and try and talk to him about what he's feeling. Good luck!!

Answer 10

Awww im sorry, it sounds like your going through a hard time. All you can do is be a good mom and support his decision. Make sure you keep full contact and show him your still his mom and still there for him. Good luck.