I am several weeks pregnant from a person I had a short relationship with. I was going to have an abortion but could not follow through with it. I pondered the idea of never telling him I decided to have the child. Last night I left a message for him, telling him the truth. We ended up having a brief conversation about the situation. I made it clear I have no expectations of him but I thought he deserved to know the truth. He asked me if I would consider allowing him to raise the child (We live 1100 miles apart) I said I would doubt that. Our conversation ended with him stating he needed to consult with his lawyer. Our relationship did not end because of the pregnancy. He claims on his end it is because of how I deal with my ex and my children. Little does he know, I saw how the mouse plays when the cats away. Any advise from anyone is greatly appreciated.
2007-06-22 09:32:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all well done for been brave and asking for advice. Im a single mum and love my kids but they do not see their dad. The best thing to do that I can think of is to carry on with the pregnancy and prove you can be the best mummy ever. Write to your ex and tell him you are more than happy for him to have access to the child with your supervision. Because of the distance you could not just let him take the child out for the day as they will not know him. I don't know what he means about contacting his lawyers but it seems he is going to try and make this difficult for you. Don't shallow to this. Make him know that you are in charge of this situation, you willl be the main carer for this baby and he is more than welcome to see his child but he plays by your rules. Hope all goes well and prove him wrong and love the children you have. Kids son't need two parents if they have one that loves them xx
2007-06-22 09:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Gem Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why you shouldn't have premarital sex. At the very least you will have to deal with this person for the next 18 years. You should see an attorney too. Because you need to know what the laws are about a baby crossing state lines. since you are so far away he may only get visitation. In some states they don't allow the child to leave. You have your self in a real jam. I hope the best for you and your baby. Also don't forget just because he was a bad boyfriend doesn't mean he will be a bad father. It might be OK in the end.
2007-06-22 16:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by NANCY J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to keep the baby and just focus on taking care of yourself and your baby. Let him know that he is welcome to be a part of the babies life. I truly believe fathers have just as much rights as mothers do. File for child support it will only benefit your child in the future. You have to remember that child support is for the baby and it is meant to give your child a better quality of life. I know being a single mother isn't easy, but it can be done and it can be done well.
2007-06-22 16:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by CARM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do; don't get an abortion! you have a live creature growning inside of you... get a phsycologist or a lawer, other then that..I don't know what to say... sorry
2007-06-22 17:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to get a lawyer.
2007-06-22 16:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pension leave the person
2007-06-22 16:42:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋