I am staying with him/her and he/she asked me to marry him/her. I said yes. Does that make me lesbian, straight, or bi? NO THIS IS NOT A JOKE!
2007-06-22 09:30:09 · 67 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lesbian.
2007-06-22 09:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him that you cannot give him an answer until after the opperation because you don't know what the future holds. Tell him you will be supportive of him and that you love him, but things will definately be different. You might deside you want children, or any of a million different reasons that you cannot continue a relationship with this person. In fact it would be selfish of him to expect you to stay in love with him after he has such a big change. I wish you both well, but remember things will be different and you don't have to comit. And You will still be straight because technically he will always be a man just a man who had plastic surgery to make him feel more like who he thought he should have been.
2007-06-22 09:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by NANCY J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. This is interesting. Im confused by your question and will try to answer it to the best of my abilities. I would think this would make you a lesbian, seeing as he will now be a she. If you are uncomfortable you should tell him/her this and ask to be good friends. IF you are comfortable with changing your sexuality go for it. I have nothing against gays and think that if you truely love this person then you should stay with him/her. As long as you can make that commitment. Hope this helps.
2007-06-22 09:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, labels are for groceries, not people. You are you, and she is her, and you love each other; that's all that matters, surely?
I'm on the opposite side of the same dilemma; My wife, and the mother of my daughter, stayed with me, and regards herself (when pushed for a definite answer) as straight; most other people regard her as lesbian, but it doesn't matter to either of us.
Other people WILL label you, or course; most people will perceive you as lesbian, and your partner will have to put up with some very unpleasant labels; just look at the number of answers here that call her 'it', and they haven't even met her.
I hope you'll be very happy together.
2007-06-22 14:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it means that you're really a man in a woman's body, and you're relieved that he's doing the change rather than you. NO, all kidding aside, it means to me that you are in love with the person, not the genitals.
On the lighter side, I'm a gal, but believe I am a gay man trapped in a woman's body, ie I still love men. haha.
You love this guy, not matter what his exterior, and I admire you for that.
2007-06-22 09:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Guinness 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you r any of those. You are you and it doesn't even matter if you are those things. If you feel umcomfortable about marrying what people will see as a girl then tell him. He will always be the person who you fell in love with. SO it doesn't matter how he looks or who he want's to be hes still the guy you love and accepted maraggie
2007-06-22 09:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by Squid Taylor 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you break up with "IT" A.S.A.P.
It sounds like an emotional disaster waiting to happen. If you think you can handle all this change cause you love someone. You need to dig deeper. The desisions your boyfriend makes not only affect him but you as well.
Dont let him put you in such a difficult spot. Why should you question your sexuality and change your lifestyle.
I dont know how old you are or how long you have been in the relationship. But love doesnt work that way. You need to part ways and do whats right for you and no one else.
Good Luck!
2007-06-22 09:35:39 · answer #7 · answered by lafresa cremosa 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
hey it don't matter if you're going to marry a girl or a boy, it's the love on the inside that counts. not the outside. you shouldn't be considered gey bi or lesbian, cuz that doesn't really matter. i'm bi and if i married a woman it wouldn't matter to me. if you really love him/her then i would just say go with your heart. who cares what people think? if they say it's gross or whatever, then they don't know what true love is.
2007-06-22 11:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by Das_Jennster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter what others think..Its what you think you are and what you believe you are...And you shouldn't let what others think about you effect your relationship with your significant other..You are an amazing person and you truely love this person just by showing you are willing to continue with the relationship even after the operation and transformation. I wish you luck and happiness in the future years to come.
2007-06-22 09:34:29 · answer #9 · answered by okie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's at the point where he's getting a sex change operation, he mentally has always been a woman. You've been a lesbian all along!
2007-06-22 09:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋