My uncle has a terminal form of cancer that has settled in and around his heart. He was admitted to the hospital on Monday, administered fluids, and then sent home. His oncologist has told him that he can expect to live for a few more days, maybe a week, and that basically the cancer will cause a heart attack. Any advice on making him comfortable, things to say, how to help his family, anything to expect... Thanks...
2007-06-22 09:27:51 · 12 answers · asked by Mack T 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
This type of situation can prove difficult i can tell you now please dont distance yourself for him during this time. Be there for him 24/7 he many become cranky and silent and doesnt want anyone around him but deep deep inside he is hurting and he is scared. Sit with him tell stories of the good times reminde him of great memories from the past. Ask him about his life what he did when he was young anything to take his mind off the situation at hand, try not to cry in front of him as it will make him feel worse. Just be there for him sweety. Theres nothing more comforting than someone being there for you to listen even if he doesnt talk back he is listening trust me.
2007-06-22 14:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by bella g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey
My grandad has cancer of the pancreas basically the worst you can get and the doctor has said that basically he's got about a month.
Try and ask him if there is anywhre he wanted to go or see.
Try and invite a preist over to offer support just basically take his mind off things but be strong for him and think positivly for him
x
2007-06-22 16:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by rozzywozzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry for your situation.
My father has terminal cancer also. I have had experience with hospice and they are excellent. Hospicae care is designed for people with terminal illnesses. They can provide anesthesia in most states and will help your uncle and your family through the tough times.
I am sorry for you situation and your uncle. I wish you, your uncle and your family the best.
2007-06-22 17:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by heartman1122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as the family is concerned, it may be nice to make sure they have their basic needs taken care of. Mainly food, or a chance to have a shower. Or they may be behind on sleep, if they are sitting at his bedside for fear of leaving him just in case... If you are comfortable, you may want to offer staying with him while they get some rest, or wash. As far as your uncle is concerned, this is the time for you to listen. If he is too short of breath, then don't make him speak. Offer to help re-position him if he needs, or get things for him. If he can still write, ask him if he'd like a pen and paper for last minute thoughts. Don't forget, these are his final moments, so let them be his. Ask him if he'd like you to read to him. If you feel the need to say your good-byes, then do so, but, try not to be selfish, don't lose yourself in your own grief and emotion, it won't help him. Remain gentle, and calm. If he is angry, or snappy. Bite your tongue, and remember this is the end of his life, and it is not a time for judgement. He's probably drugged, in pain, and his chemistry could be all out of sorts. I'm not sure of your age, or how much of this will apply to you, but I hope it helps you. Good luck. Take care.
2007-06-22 16:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sara 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it was me I would want to make sure my loved one was saved and going to Heaven. I know most people think that everyone will go to Heaven, that's not true. And I know that there will be some people on here that will disagree with me since there are 100's of religions out there, but I truly believe in the Bible and John 3:16. So, I would have to say led him to the Lord if he doesn't know him already. My prayers are with you and your family.
2007-06-23 00:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Diane T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a Hospice in your area???If so contact them and they will be able to help you and your uncle and family....Be there for him, and listen to what he has to say, or just sit quietly with him, just knowing that you are there even without talking if a great comfort....You sound like a very thoughtful person, your uncle is very blessed to have a niece like you.
2007-06-22 17:55:12 · answer #6 · answered by lorac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, I am SO SORRY. I'm facing this right now with my mom. She has only a few weeks, and is in a great deal of pain.
There's really nothing you can say except that you love them and that you are there for them. I think it's awkward for people around the family because you want to say something, but really - what can you say. My prayers are with you and your family.
Gentle hugs, Lynn
2007-06-22 16:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well-pain management would be the top priority after spiritual help. Make sure a pastor comes to see him and that he is getting adequate pain killers.
2007-06-26 03:23:32 · answer #8 · answered by moondrop000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your uncle he should proof his doctor wrong. Make sure that he is not in any kind of pain and do something nice with him every day. In other words, make every day count.
2007-06-22 16:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say comforting words to the family and share all the happy memories you have had together and remember that its ok to cry
good luck x
2007-06-22 16:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋