it just always seems like he is no where near the mood and always has an excuse like he is too tired or not feeling good or too sore from a long day or too stressed . its not like he is making it up but its every day that something like that is wrong and he cant have sex "right now" . well im getting really sick that it is never "right now" and i dont know what to do. i have tried to tell him how i feel multiple times and i just dont know what else to do. i would think that he would want to have sex to rejuvenate or whatever and feel better buy thats not the case for him. I AM SO FRUSTRATED what do i do?
2007-06-22 09:11:35 · 20 answers · asked by kRISTIN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get him in the mood, if you do it right he'll forget al about those aches and pains.
2007-06-22 09:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is definately wrong. I wish I had a girl with a higher sex drive than me, if that's possible. Maybe he's insecure about his body? Can't really analyze the situation to it's fullest without all the details of the relationship. The best thing to do is confront him and let him know how you feel. If he still avoids sex after that then you should search for another man because sex is a big part of any serious relationship. Good luck.
2007-06-22 16:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is your test: No healthy man on the planet will not happily accept an effortless, slow BJ, no matter how tired he is or what mood he is in, unless he is cheating or gay. You may prefer a style of sex that requires him to work hard, so he may have some excuse sometime, but this test will let you know the truth.
2007-06-22 16:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kristen,
I know how you feel somewhat. That happened to me but I was in your BF place. Sometimes people arent just in the mood and asking for it wont do it.
My BF got mad at me because I was the same way. But after a month of complaining, I respected what he said and tried more.
You have already talked to him, I suggest you just dont do anything now. Believe me, when you stop asking and stop intitating, he will notice and then he will be all over you. Just play the role as he did you to teach him a lesson and I gurantee youll have sex more.
My BF did it to me and now we are on the same level.
If he is feeling tired to move, why dont you do something on your own to get him in the mood, sometimes you have to take one for the team, but when he arouses, youll get the same respect..
Hope his helps:)
2007-06-22 16:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your guy is stressed out about something. love is not SEX , love means being there for someone. ive been in your shoes before and my boyfriend would always say stuff like im not a amchine and stuff like that but he made me realize that even if sex is part of a relationship, its not all about a relationship.i wanted it everynight but we cut down to every other night,try compromising..hope ive helped
2007-06-22 16:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the two of you are not compatable. This is not a good omen for a long term relationship.
Maybe it is time to break off the relationship and go elsewhere.
2007-06-22 16:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by GTB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch out ... guys are born to have sex and by his attitude to you, I think this is an alarming bell so your relationship is on the verge of brodom or wreckage!
Dont be pushy but help that with constructive discussion.
2007-06-22 16:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sara007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-22 16:17:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is having the same problem ,she just has a higher sex drive than her man.
2007-06-22 16:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by barbara c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's life...really just tell him...and he'll try ....sounds like you're marriage and you're the husband....it's not that he doesn't love you or find you attractive...trust me...i have the same problem with my husband...i just don't have a big sex drive...maybe he's bored...try some new fun things...like role play...or sexy lingerie...maybe a few drinks....good luck...
2007-06-22 16:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by ericka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋