I have a brother with ADHD and problems with controlling his temper. He is currently on a homeopathic treatment and seeing a cousellor.
My brother often has blow-ups over small things, like having to stop watching television (he has an unusual attraction to electronics of any kind). These blow-ups last hours, in which my parents are occupied with attempting control him, leaving me unnoticed. I'm having a difficult time coping with the constant strain and shouting. I see no improvement from medicine or counselor.
I feel very lonely, especially in summertime when I don't have school to distract me. I feel like I am constantly in my room with the music blasting. Does anyone have a similar situation, or any ways to help me cope with this lifestyle? Any suggestions would be appreciated.
I also want those reading this to realize that my brother's problems are complex and it isn't his fault that he behaves this way. I would really appreciate it if no one would say anything rude.
2007-06-22 09:10:13 · 6 answers · asked by katy_maj 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your problems are what happens whenever there is a family member with an illness. If your brother had an accident or cancer, and your folks were occupied with his care all the time, you would have the same feelings. Your folks have got to be overwhelmed. I'm sure they have looked into what else this might be, it sounds a bit more than just ADHD.
Well you have to tell them how you feel. You need to acknowledge how overwhelmed they are but since you are their child too, they need to know how this effecting you. Perhaps they can each give you some alone time with them, suggest a walk in the evening, a shopping trip with mom, an ice cream with dad. Be sure to tell them(don't whine or demand), that you understand that they don't have alot of time for you, but 15 minutes every day would be ok. Be sure to let them know you don't want "things" you just want them. While you are at it, offer the same 15mins with your brother, so that they can take a walk, take a shower or just have a cup of coffee in peace. This is a family thing, and the family must present a united front or the family will shatter under the weight. Good luck to you, be gentle with your folks but stand up for yourself.
2007-06-22 09:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey im sorry about your brother i really am. but i guess life has its trials and this is yours! try hanging out with your friends more often and try to get closer with your brother. maybe he'll eventually open up 2 u. do activities together and tlk 2 ur parents about how u feel. and maybe plan something 4 all of u 2 keep ur self occupied with this summer! hope that helps!
2007-06-22 09:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son has ADD and it is difficult. Try talking to your parents, that is what our daughter did. They don't mean to ignore you but your brother is hard to handle.
Good luck remember your parents love you with all their hearts.
2007-06-22 09:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by bluebird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U ARE VERY MATURE. MAYBE U CAN TALK TO YOUR PARENTS AND GET THEM TO UNDERSTAND THAT MAYBE THE MEDS ARE NOT WORKING. THEN MAYBE THEY CAN TRY SOMETHING ELSE. OF COURSE TELL THEM HOW U ARE FEELING ALSO. ALWAYS TELL YOUR PARENTS HOW U FEEL. THE TRUTH IS ALWAYS THE BEST COURSE.
2007-06-22 09:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by PEBBLES 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayer and believe in God, I already have health problem. But when I believe, His cured me.
On faith.
See you.
2007-06-22 09:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Adílio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your parents read this posting.
2007-06-22 09:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetkat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋