This may be the most disturbing thing I will read all weekend.
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Story?id=3305652&page=1
If you were her parents, would you have signed the consent form for her to marry, claiming that you had no other choice?
I don't have any children, but I just find it hard to imagine being so detached and isolated with my daughter's personal life that I feel helpless to talk to her about a relationship that apparently began when she was 14 and he was 38.
Seriously, what would it take for you to sign those consent forms as a parent?
2007-06-22 09:05:16 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Isn't that why consent forms exist in the first place? So **** like this doesn't happen?
2007-06-22 09:09:05 · update #1
I understand the silent treatment game. I played it with my parents and so did my brother. We didn't need our parents' permission to stay out late or the like. And we fought with them when they disagreed with our decisions.
But they would never have signed a consent form giving us legal permission to do it, and they would never have put up with us pouting or whining to get what we want.
This **** is why some people should not be parents.
2007-06-22 09:31:07 · update #2
As the parent of a female child, currently 8 years of age, I would say absolutely not! There is nothing on this earth that would cause me to agree to sign a consent form for her to marry a 40 year old man, if she was 16! I have a feeling that this girl is going to have some serious regrets as she gets older and realizes that her childhood is gone! I married at 19 and regret not having a "normal" college experience and marrying so young. I cannot imagine marrying at 16! That is just crazy. I would have put up with the silent treatment - that would have passed eventually. These parents gave up too easily!!! I don't think that shows love - I think it shows a weak set of parents, who obviously didn't have any kind of discipline in place for their daughter. I feel sorry for the girl - she has no idea what she is getting herself into.
2007-06-22 09:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by Christy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that happened with my daughter, I would take the information straight to the school and the authorities. I would then not let my daughter out of my sight until the whole thing was COMPLETELY taken care of and the CHILD MOLESTER in jail. If the situation were not handled locally, I would call Chris Hansen in to do a full story on it, and I would tell the police and the school system that they had blown their chance to remain anonymous. I would then show my daughter all the love I possibly could even through her rage and tears, and I would move if I had to. Someday that girl is going to resent the hell out of her parents. I know--I come from a North Carolina town where the same behavior ran rampant in the schools. The coaches prey on the girls who admire them instead of being flattered but protective over them. It's a circus there. I've witnessed it more times than you can imagine. When you ask what the world's coming to, you've got to understand that in the '80's when I was in high school there, no one did ANYTHING about it, and it didn't make the news. TWO girls in my town married the coaches, and no one did a thing. Now, they married them when they were around 20, but they had been sleeping with them since they were 16. It just makes me sick, but it's actually progress that it made the news.
2016-05-17 22:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by elizbeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another case of "Luz Clarita" and the old man.Maybe the coach has money and the parents looked at him as a ticket to "easy street." I grew up with a few girls who dropped out of high school in the 10th grade and got married,of course by the time they turned 25,the marriage was over.One,found her man in bed with another man (lol),one found out her man was sleeping with his own cousin,and the others,and the others,I haven't a clue because we lost touch.Just look at the Trevi/Andrade case for example.All these teenagers going crazy wanting to sue,while in all reality their parents are to blame.I only have a son,but if I had a daughter I would NEVER sign papers for her to get married to some old buzzard.
2007-06-22 10:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is easy for people to say that the parents could have done more - and yes we all say that! However, there are instances where the parents lose control over their children and this is one such example.
It's disturbing that a grown man sees a child as attractive and as a person he wants a relationship with - there has got to be some mental disorder with him. The girl, who as a teenager thinks she knows what is best for her, has opted to be with him. It's a matter of time before things fall apart and she goes back home to mom and dad.
what a shame....
2007-06-22 09:19:24 · answer #4 · answered by jazzviolin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the mother of two grown daughters. When my hubby and I were raising them we worked very hard to stay in control. Parenting is very, very difficult and very challenging. Great parents make it their #1 priority. I don't understand "losing control" of a child, I cannot comprehend that. The only way to lose control is that it is given up by the parents because it's easier than standing your ground and letting your kids get mad at you. My girls were angry with me a lot but they stayed safe and I know they knew they were loved. You have to stay on top of things, involved in their lives and love, love, love them by being a caring, mature role model and parent.
So, no way in hell would I have signed that paper! Over my dead body!!
2007-06-22 19:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a way, I can't tell if it was to teach her a lesson that in a few years she'll be filing for divorce or if they just didn't know what else to do since they couldn't just move. Personally, I would have filed statutory rape charges. This is one case where I am absolutely fine wtih someone pressing charges!
Most times, if she spreads her legs, I say whatever, but that is just.....such a huge gap and starting at 14?
2007-06-22 09:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by Harley 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I would be signing would be the restraining order and the admission papers for boarding school!!!!
Not sure who needs mental help more, the 40 year old teacher or the parents!
2007-06-22 09:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by Proud Mommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's ridiculous. I know that had I been in her shoes and was that young, my dad would be in jail now and the teacher in the hospital if he was still alive.
If I were in the parents shoes, I would never have signed those papers. Give me the silent treatment all you want, yell at me, do whatever, but it would not change my mind.
2007-06-22 12:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I had been her parents, I would have moved the whole family across the country as soon as I had the hunch that a teacher was a predator at her school and was targeting her. It would have even gotten to that point!
2007-06-23 03:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree and I wouldn't have signed either. The daughter most likely told her parents that she was going to see him regardless and they couldn't stop her. You know one of those brats. She still had 2yrs till she was 18. Within those years she could have gotten over that sicko. Who knows. It seems to me they didn't want to put the extra effort into watching out for their daughter. It was easier to let her get here way.
2007-06-22 09:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by Erica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋