Strip Clubs?

Question

For the women: Did your fiance go to a strip club for his bachelor party? If yes, how did you feel about it?

For the men: Did you go to a strip club for your bachelor party or for a friends bachelor party? If yes what goes on there?

Answer 1

Someday, if Im ever stupid enough to get married , my fiance will know that I do not approve, and well see what happens from there...

To all that knocked her.... I dont understand why women have to look like they are "insecure" or "untrustworthy" just because they dont want thier men going to strip clubs. If someone really loves and respects you, they will understand and respect how you feel.. BOTTOM LINE!! Dont feel bad sweety I understand.. Dont listen to people who try to tell you different... Its not good or bad about strip clubs.. it depends on the relationship, trust levels, and how both partners feel. I hate this MEN WILL BE MEN attitude crap. Either someone respects you or they don't.. Good luck hun.

Answer 2

My bf hasn't had a stag but actually he and I were talking about this today. I don't mind the idea of him actually going to the strip club... sure, I'd rather him not want to go! That would be a lot easier! But since I know he would want to go, I guess I just have to be okay with it! I don't really mind - it's not like he's going home with any of those girls.

The thing I have a harder time with is lap dances. My bf is cheap and would never pay for one himself, but I don't doubt that his friends would buy him one. I go back and forth between saying "no big deal, it's innocent and he's not having sex with the girls" to "I really don't want other girls gyrating on my bf!!"

Being a girl, I think if a male stripper gave me a lap dance, I would be thinking, "okay, get away from me now." It just seems cheap and it's not like the person really likes you and wants to be giving you a lap dance! They're being paid to do it! So why would that make you want it? But I guess guys just don't see it that way.

I assume your bf is going to a strip club for his stag. I think the most you can do is be up-front and tell him what you don't want happening (there are a lot of strip clubs where I live where BJs and other sexual acts are common with the strippers at stag parties - I would be VERY against that). Other than that, he has to make his own choices. Also, remember that he'll likely be drunk and at a stag, the bachelor isn't the one who makes the choices, it's his friends! So it's most likely going to happen. I'd want to know afterwards but the stag my bf is planning this weekend, the bride has a "don't tell me" policy so she doesn't get upset about what may or may not happen.

Answer 3

I've always had a lot of guy friends in my life and when we'd hang out we'd go to strip clubs a lot. Since none of them were my man I really didn't care what they did. However I saw how men acted and it wasn't pretty. Seriously they went crazy! A lot more than just stripping happens!

If I knew my man was going to a strip club as his bachelor party I wouldn't be happy about it. It's like putting a piece of fresh meat in front of a dog.

Vocal Democrat:
What kind of strip clubs have you been too? Ugly women?! The majority of the ones i've been to the chicks look like slutty barbie dolls.

Answer 4

For my bachelor party (when I do expect to be married), I just prefer not to go to a strip club because I fear to be at risk of having my fiancee call off the wedding a few hours before it is to begin and I do not want that to happen and so does she where we both as well as both of our parents put a lot of money into it and that would be a waste if called off. So for my bachelor party, I prefer not to go to a strip club. Instead, I would have a guy's night out like go out to a concert, pizza, a movie, or to a sporting event (baseball, hockey, etc.) the night before my wedding.

Answer 5

So I guess your fiance does want to go to a strip club, huh?

Listen, if you are really concerned, just go to one. I'm getting the idea that most of the women not wanting their man to ever go to a club has no idea what goes on inside. You pay a lot to get in, drink super expensive drinks and watch girls take off their clothes. No man seriously wants to sleep with a stripper and no stripper wants to hook up with your man. They're just regular women trying to get paid (a close friend of mine was a stripper).

Go, and it will give you a piece of mind. If you're flat out against and no one can convince you otherwise, celebrate your parties together and do something fun.

We're getting married in November so we're all going to the Halloween parade as a big group, and he'll probably go to a strip club after that because his best man (who wasn't allowed to go to a strip club when he got married) really wants to go.

Answer 6

Yeah, my fiance did go to a strip club for his bachelor party. I'm not going to lie, I was not thrilled about it, but then again I couldn't be a hypocrite, my girlfriends hired a stripper for my party (even though I said I didn't really want one). My brother was at the bachelor party and I asked him to keep an eye on my drunk-*** husband, so that made me feel a little better. We can't keep men from wanting to look, I suppose so long as they don't touch it's ok. But I still don't like the idea.

Answer 7

I went to a friend's bachelor party at a strip club twice. There was a lot of people, a lot of drinking, and a lot of naked women. The only thing that made it any different than when I'd been before, was my friend who was getting married got pulled up on stage and given an intense lap dance. That only happened at one of the two bachelor parties though. On both separate occasions, we mostly just used it as an excuse to get way to drunk.

Answer 8

Some people can be mean when answering can't they. I'm not into strip clubs and I made that clear when my fiance and I first started dating. He used to go a lot but said that it wasn't necessary for him and he could care less if he ever went again. So he made his choice. We are getting married in Las Vegas in September and I'm starting to wonder if this is going to be brought up again. I'm not really sure how I'm going to handle it, I don't want to be a prude but I am uncomfortable with it. I guess I'll see what happens when we get there. lol

Answer 9

I am getting married in a year and quite honestly I do not like the idea of him going to a strip club for his bachelor party. If he does, I would quite frankly prefer him to make up a story so that I am not worried all night about what kind of crap he is getting into. Not that I don't trust him, but come on, it's like putting cheese fries in front of a person on a diet. It's hard to resist temptation to do something irresponsible and hurtful when you are in that scenario, especially with a bunch of guys that would probably encourage behavior like that.. anyway, I wouldn't want to go to a male strip club without my fiance.. I couldn't care less about something like that.. I don't even know if we feel it is necessary to have bachelor/bachelorette parties. We really haven't discussed it... but I just don't see the point... I can go somewhere without him anytime I want.. why make a POINT of excluding him?

Answer 10

My husband did not go to a strip club for his bachelor party, and I had no strippers for my bachelorette party. I am not a fan of this 1950s "boys will be boys" bull crap.

Answer 11

The men may not give you the truth, but I will. It depends on the state (different rules) and the strip club; the more expensive they are, the less things happen. In cheap places, the girls need to work harder for their money, so they will do almost anything, including sex. In the expensive places, the most you will get is a girl putting her hand in his lap and giving it a rub.

The biggest reason men cheat is because their wives become stiff, unrealistic prudes. Let your men be men, let them have some harmless, natural fun, join in if you can, or someone else will. And you just might enjoy it yourself.