My mom has 3 kids including me. She is also pregnant with her fourth. I love my mom more than anything and I know she works hard to support us, and she has alot of things going on, but I just want to be able to hang out with her and talk to her. I've tried to talk to her about it but she always gets mad and says that shes too busy. I did have a counselor to talk to, but I felt uncomfortable talking to my counselor about my problems. It just wasn't the same as talking to my mom.
2007-06-22 08:39:39 · 7 answers · asked by Chrystine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
An idea to try
Try writing down what you want to say to her. Maybe tell her about your day, whatever you'd like to say, and leave it for her. Let her know that you know she's busy, but this way, she can read it in her time. Offer to help around the house so she has a few minutes to herself. Pregnancy is not an easy task, nor is mothering three children. Give her time, realize her hormones are outta whack right now, and see if a letter to her helps.
2007-06-22 08:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Krista S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is under alot of pressure but she still has a responsibility to you. I would try two different things. First I would put into a letter what you said here. Tell her that you know she has lots of burdens but that she is the one you want to talk to, cause she is your mom. The other way to get to talk to someone is to help them do a job and just start talking. Offer to dry the dishes or help with dinner or fold clothes or any time you see her doing something. Don't just ask what you can do to help, but see what needs to be done and ask if you can do that specific thing. Then when you are working together, you can start talking. Good luck.
2007-06-22 15:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help her with whatever chores she is doing. This is a perfect opportunity for you to talk to her and have her full attention. Doing dishes together, folding laundry and grocery shopping are just some ideas of how you can spend more time with her. The talking will just come naturally. She is really going to need your help when the baby comes. Your mom loves you even though she says she is too busy. Help her in any way you can.
2007-06-22 16:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by CARM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it sounds like your mom is busy, the best time to talk to her is by helping her out with the dishes, or the laundry, or when shes doing another non-focus job. (do NOT try talking when shes doing bills.) Start out by saying, can i help you with dishes, or whatever job shes doing at the time. dont ask before she starts, or else she'll probly make you do it by yourself. Then ask her how her day is going, and after shes done with that,(whether good day or bad) tell her about your day. Unless, of course, shes been home all day. If she hasnt, ask her about the baby, like what her/his name is going to be, what color hair you want them to have, or about the babys future. (Exmple, I think the babys gonna be a firefighter, or a doctor, or a singer, or all the great feats they might do). you can also ask her about a hobby of hers. another good time to talk is when in the car. But you should act mature, talk about her, not you. Try to wait for the right time to express your feelings to her.
2007-06-22 15:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by mydogisontop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan ahead, plan a day that you and your mother to have time to talk and hang out with each other. Help your mother out around the house and ask if she needs help, that will lighten up her load to make more time for you to build a relationship with her.
2007-06-22 15:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Shorty 140 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try this. When she is sitting down give her a shoulder massage she will love it and while you are you can talk and get to know her and spend time with her
2007-06-22 15:43:26 · answer #6 · answered by humble servant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and write her a letter saying how you feel. She'll read it. Then let her come to you when she has free time.
2007-06-22 15:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋