or should you wait?
When is the right time to get married? Does the length of time you've been with the person matter, or are there other factors?
2007-06-22 08:33:07 · 38 answers · asked by chrisamethyst 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no preset relationship time frame. There is not rule book. No one can tell you the right time to get married. What you can do is look at your relationship as objectively as you can. Since we seem to be more critical of our friend's or sibling's relationships think of it this way. If you guy was going to marry your best friend or sister, would you want him to after looking at your entire relationship?
2007-06-30 06:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by chele2382 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years is a long time for a relationship with no permenant commitment.
There are too many factors involved to give an absolute yes/no: like where you are finacially, if your in high school but dating since Jr High, the 5 years doesn't mean your ready to live together and support yourselves, so you wouldn't be ready (not saying your in high school, just using it as an example)
another major factor is how often you see each other, if you have been "dating" for 5 years but he's been away in the military for 4 &1/2 of those years, maybe your not ready.
It all depends on the situation but typically after 5 years of serious relationship there should be some commitment.
In today's society there are many people who refuse to make commitment. Someone I know just broke up with a g/f of several years because she insisted they get married and have kids, and he is determined never to get married and never to havd kids. These are issues you need to discuss with your b/f and find out why he's putting it off, it won't get better if you just string it out.
2007-06-22 08:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time to get married.
Besides, who says that you even have to get married? If you love each other, and you're happy, why do you feel the need to start making changes? Marriage is just a piece of paper, and more than that, a legal contract. What is particularly romantic about that? If you're having a good time, why not just keep going like you're going, and not try to upset the apple cart. There's nothing that you can get from being married that you can't get right this minute.
2007-06-22 08:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long you've been with a person doesnt really matter. I know a couple that only dated for only a week before the got married and they have been married for years, and I know several couples that have been together for atleast ten years and are not married and don't plan on marrying. If you feel like you are with the person that you want to be with FOREVER and he feels the same way then you should go ahead and tie the knot.
2007-06-22 08:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Icebery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Length of time doesn't matter. You should never get married just because it seems like the next step in a long relationship. You should get married because you love each other and want to build a life together.
2007-06-22 08:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the length of time you have been together be the deciding factor. Chances are if your asking this question your not sure if this is the person you want to marry or your just not ready to get married.
2007-06-30 07:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by machestik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to get married? Do you two have the same future in mind? have you discussed your opinions on what marraige could mean? Can you trust this person with your social security number? If you're ready, than any time is a good time but I would think that after five years....you should be sure of whether or not this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-06-22 08:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by Cathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. One or both of you are afraid of losing your "out" Right now, you are free to leave if you so chose to. Not so easy when you have the ring and the sheepskin. So you may like the ideal of having that level of commitment that a marriage has, but not at the expense of loosing the "out". Why? There has to be a deep seeded doubt. If you were sold on him, and he to you. Nothing could STOP you from getting hitched. Think about it? Would you work on probation at a job for 5 years while they decided if you were a right fit or not? You'd think they should know before that. Ask yourself, "is there any reason I should not marry him?" "Why would he not want to marry me?" If it is you who want to marry and he don't, the longer you wait, the more time he will think he has to wait. Create a ticking clock. If you want to get married, as had as it may seem, set a date for him to either piss or get off the pot. Or just cohabit as you have been and be happy.
2007-06-30 08:21:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is not a factor! If you love someone and you 'just know' they are what you want for the rest of your life then go for it!!
On the other hand, some people never get married! Like my aunt and uncle, together 17 years and not married! But, very much in love..... Its all in how you perceive it! There is no time limit on love....
2007-06-22 08:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what marriage means to you. Personally, I was married once and don't plan to do it again, though I'm in a committed, long-term relationship. Some people marry for religious reasons, some marry for financial reasons, some do because society expects it of them, and some marry because marriage has a deep personal meaning as a symbol of committment. Whether you are ready to get married depends totally on the meaning it has for you and whether you feel it is right.
2007-06-22 08:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋