What do you think of people who drop by your place uninvited?

Question

This happened to me last night. A cousin of a friend dropped by to "just to see how I was doing". We chat on occasion when she's someplace that I am but generally we don't associate with each other. I was annoyed because I was watching pirate master eating velveeta shells and cheese and all of sudden she knocks on my door. I can't stand that. What about you.

Answer 1

It's rude. They're assuming that your time isn't valuable.. that you are at their service. Unless I'm on their payroll and have agreed to be at their beck and call, I'm annoyed by drop ins.

I'm the mother of six adult children and I expect my own kids to call and ask if it's okay to come by! I give them the same courtesy.

I've had a few casual friends who tried dropping in on me. If I really wasn't in the mood to see anyone, I basically told them that. I said, "I"d love to see you another time, but I'm under the weather today and not feeling up to company. Please call me and we'll get together another time."

Friends that I know well enough to joke with, I've told that they MUST call because my lover, Jean-Claude, could be there with me and we wouldn't want to be disturbed. I'm an old lady, a widow, and live in an area where there are no Jean-Claude's.

Answer 2

For me, depending on who it is, I don't mind at all. Even if they're someone I don't talk with often and they're someone I would like to talk to more often then I would be ok with it. If it's someone I don't want to talk to and I've made that clear, I would mind. If it were a close friend I hang out w/ all the time it's no problem at all they drop by unannounced- more fun! I have no problem telling someone I'm busy. Just becuase someone drops by doesn't mean I have to accomodate them if I am doing something else. Even if it's a close friend I'll chat for a couple minutes and tell them I'm doing something or if it's really not important I'll just stop doing what I'm doing and have them stay. It's appreciated if they call first and is preferred becuase what if I'm in the middle of something or not there and they stop by? That would suck for them. But it's ok if they don't.

Answer 3

Maybe she's interested in you, romantically. Now that I'm married with a child, drop-ins can be intrusive, but when I was single, I would quite enjoy it. It's spontaneous, and I never did like talking on the phone much. I wouldn't want just some casual acquaintance dropping in though.

Answer 4

Well, you could have been civilized and invited her to share your feast of velveeta shells and given her 20 minutes of your precious time. And, of a sudden, remember a previous obligation that wanted your immediate attention, perhaps a visit by your charm-school instructor.

Answer 5

Depends on the friend old friends usually are always welcome, but most would call beforehand. Personally, I do not think a mere acquantince should stop by unannounced; however, in the case of a female I may let etiquette slide a bit. That also depends on how they look too. Sorry, just being honest about that part.

Answer 6

Two of my friends drop by uninvited almost every day. My moms always lets them into the house. They often wake me up in the morning, it really pisses me off.

Answer 7

I don't like it when they come in to chat and stay awhile. I don't mind if they literally just stop by for a minute to get something or drop something off.

Answer 8

I hate it with a passion will look out the peephole if its my mom I will open it if not I will sit right back down and my car is parkedout front and they know I am home but I dont care

Answer 9

shame on your cousin's friend. I never just drop by people's houses. I always call first. Even if it's a close family member, I still call.

Answer 10

Your good I wouldn't have opened the door. If I'm comfortable and in a ME mood then it will only be me,myself and I. I pay the rent, I have the keys, I chose who comes in.