(Adult) Men - Do you feel bad?

Question

When you break up, what's usually going through your mind, especially in situations where both you and your girlfriend probably had both considered that it was bound to happen?

If you are the person who is broken up with, how do you tend to deal with it? And if you don't talk to her anymore, for instance, if the breakup wasn't done face-to-face, why not? Does how you act have a lot to do with how much you care (e.g., trying to be friends, or trying to fix things), or do you find yourself acting in ways that aren't in line with how you actually feel about the person because you're upset?

Also - assuming it was a moderate-length relationship that was basically limited to dating -- e.g., no moving in with each other, nothing incredibly serious in terms of your investment with each other.

Answer 1

Of course. You're always going to feel bad when a relationship ends. I usually deal with it by taking time off from dating and just doing things I like to do. I enjoy being single and free.

I would never consider having contact with the other person after a breakup. Not out of anger or anything like that but just because it serves no purpose. People are seldom friends after they break up and frankly what would be the value in it? I wouldn't be nasty to them but I wouldn't want them as a friend either.

I think everyone acts differently and I don't think it's related to how much you cared.

Answer 2

I'm only 17, but I still can answer such a question. It feels so bad when you don't know where your relationship went(not talking). Trust me it feels so good to care. Doesn't matter how you show it, just believing is enough. So you may not show it, just let him know and he'll believe. Oh and about your question. I never had a girlfriend, but I don't doubt I broke a girls heart. I don't feel bad, the best thing to do is make it right and find peace within yourself and her!

Answer 3

i was in a lengthy relationship with a woman that was very attractive and equally hatefull as well toward anything i did without her being involved. i cooked for her, messaged her entire body, bathed her, sang and wrote poetry for her everytime she came over which was three to four times a week. she broke up with me for something so silly and minor it was rediculous and that was that. i didnt feel bad because i was committed to the relationship as much as i could b so i know i did my best and didnt cheat myself.

Answer 4

When they break up with me. I ll be like "cool".
Then I go out and look for someone else.
Yo its that simple man. Plenty of other girls
out there man. stop whining and get to work yo.

Answer 5

It's heartbreaking for men, just like it is for women.