im 13 and my "bf" is 16 he wants to have sex with me and i feel like im ready but i dont know..he try's to kiss me in other parts of my body(creepy) but then talks so sexy and it's really gets to me i mean he's cool and all and is really sweet ..and my heart says DO IT..but my brain says no..and as ppl say follow your heart..but i know it's wrong..and my "bf" wont take no as a answer and im afraid if i dont give my virginity up to him he might do some things to me that i dont want..help me please..im thankfull for your answers thank you..much love
2007-06-22 07:03:38 · 61 answers · asked by ♥blacktina beuty♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
13 is too young to do that... I'm older than you, and I'm still a virgin. There's nothing wrong with saying no. Even though your boyfriend might be sweet, to be honest, guys around that age will do anything to get in a girl's pants. Instead of being too adult at a young age and giving in, be adult enough to refuse. A few years down the road when both of you have broken up, you'll be glad you didn't do that. And you're supposed to save that for your special someone in life, not just some boyfriend.
2007-06-22 08:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by këlly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart is wrong. Your head is wrong. You do that and you are entering into the world of "big people" and I don't mean fat. You are too young to be handling all the emotional and physical things that come along with sex. Seriously. He shouldn't be pressuring you to do a damn thing other than your homework and possibly holding hands at the local mall. You don't even realize how ridiculous you sound. You're barely out of grade school. You have plenty of time for all the other stuff. Enjoy your youth and don't complicate your life and compromise what you legitamately know is not right for you. If you didn't have that doubt - you wouldn't even ask the question... so you know you are not ready for that. Be smart. If you start this young, you're in for a life of trouble. You still have a lot of growing up to do - despite what you think.
And do not do anything out of fear. It will only bring bad consequences. If you are afraid he will dump you - I have bad news. He's probably going to dump you anyway after you do it.
2007-06-22 07:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is really young to have sex, i know i probably sound really old fashioned but think of the consequences - you could get preganant! that would ruin future, everything - 13 is way to young to become a mum and all the money you'll have to pay! wooh .. you said if you say no to him, he might to things to you that you dont want, to be honest, he doesn't sound like a too great boyfriend. if he really loved he wait until you were okay about having sex and he wouldn't force you or do stuff to you if you don't. do you really want to have sex with somebody like that? also, becuase he is older than you, he may have had sex before meaning he could have a sex disease such HIV and by having sex with him you could catch it! you should only have sex with someone because you love them, not because you they're cool or anything .. anyway it's competly up to you but if i was in your shoes, i'd tell him no, if he doesn't accept that, then he obviously doesn't love you and why would you wanna go out with somebody who doesnt love you? you're only 13, they're gonna be so many other boys who maybe really do love you, also if you get caught having 'underage sex' it will be classed as 'rape' becuase he is having 'overage sex' and you underage .. at the end of that day its your choice, i just hope you make the right one ..x
2007-06-22 07:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh do not do this!!!! u r way 2 young, 13! listen 2 ur brain. this may seem all great and stuff, but most chances u r going 2 regret it later. this is 1 of the worst decisions u can make in ur life. save ur virginity 4 someone special that u love and trust...later. if he cant take no as an answer, then this is probably a guy u dont want, a desperate guy trying 2 take advantage of u. u r at horrible risk of disease and what not if u do this. u usually shuld listen 2 ur heart, but now make it shut up!! dont do this!!!!!♥
2007-06-22 07:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Victor C. Strasburger, MD University of New Mexico School of Medicine
Fact: One million teens in the USA will become pregnant over the next twelve months. Ninety-five percent of those pregnancies are unintended. About one third will end in abortion; one third will end in spontaneous miscarriage; and one third will continue their pregnancy to term and keep their baby.
More than half of them are 17 years old or younger when they have their first pregnancy.
Approximately 40 percent of young women become pregnant before they reach 20 years old.
The United States of America has double the adolescent pregnancy and birth rates of any other industrialized country.
The poorer the young woman, the more likely she will become a mother.
Less than one-third of teens who have babies before the age of 18 finish high school.
Almost half of all teen mothers end up on welfare.
Less than 25 percent of births to teens occur within wedlock.
The birth rate for teens has been declining in recent years.
I SAY WAIT PLEASE WAIT my friends daughter had sex 7 and a half months ago for the first time the guy was 16 and she is 14 and guess what her first and only time and now she has to deal with that choice for the rest of her life do you want that think tell him if he really likes you he will wait or jsut make sure you aren't alone with him so then nothng can happen
2007-06-22 07:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by latisha_davis69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything until ur completely ready...trust me...ifu lose ur virginity and u guys break up and u finally find mr. right it might make u feel bad cuz u didnt save ur self for him....plus if ur boyfriend keeps presuring u into it he is just using u for sex and he will leave u after he gets what he wants but if u tell him that ur not ready yet and he loves u and stuff then he will wait...but dont do it cuz he wants u to do it...if u do have sex with him make sure u use a condom or something....i just turned 20 and i just found the guy i am going to married and i lost my virginity when i was ur age and i regret it cuz i cant give it to the man i love...i hope u make the right decison...giving up the one thing that means alot to a girl can be real real hard..good luck
2007-06-22 07:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dude is 16. 16 year olds just want to have sex. Period. He would have sex with a post at this moment. You are not an important part of the equation. You definitely want to wait for someone who actually has your feelings as the most important thing, and boys generally can't do that until they are a lot older.
2007-06-22 07:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by dana_osmundson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT DO IT...you are too young and not ready for the possible repercussions. It's YOU that can get pregnant, not him...remember??? You're too young to be dating anyway sugar, and this is a good reason why.
Sex not occur before:
1. You are ready to deal with a pregnancy, should it occur
2. You are ready to deal with an STD, should it occur
3. When you know how a woman can become pregnant (all the ways it can occur)
4. When you know what the various STDs are and how they are transmitted and how to help protect against them
5. When you are ready to insist your partner wear a condom (female) or insist that you wear one (male)
6. When you are on a reliable form of birth control and using it properly (female) or ensure that she is (male)
7. When you are ready to deal with any emotional issues that may come from being intimate with another person
Until you've got those things covered, you should not have sex.
2007-06-22 07:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Well, 13 is realllly not old enough to be thinking of these types of matters.. when you find a man when you are older and both your brain and heart say yes that is when you should be considering having sex... if you feel pressured that is a clear sign that you shouldn't be having sex with him! You wouldn't want to regret your decision later down the line so weigh out your options and just think about what your are losing.. not just your virginity but your dignity!
2007-06-22 07:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Cali girl 06! 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
do not do it too early, you are not that experienced yet and you do not know this guy that well and how many girls he has been with. He doesn't love you for you, he loves you for your body, do not make these choices ahead of time otherwise you'll regret it. If he doesn't accept no then he does not love you. In life, there are certain choices that should be made with a lot of thought and it shows that you are very smart and you did the right thing of getting other peoples opinions.
PLEASE THINK VERY CAREFULLY BECAUSE THIS CHOICE CAN AFFECT YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
my sister said to tell you mom but i believe that you are smart enough to make the correct decision
2007-06-22 07:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋