My girlfriends wants me to sleep with another girl?

Question

We recently got onto the subject of threesomes and my girl told me she would love to see me with another women. At first i never said anything as i thought it was some sort of test.
Since then we have disscused it furthur and i have told her i would do it if that is what she wanted. I love my girlfriend so much we have been together for 7 yrs. I have thought about this a lot and would also love to do this (what man would'nt), i know it would not split us up and know we could both handle this.
Has anyone got any advice, tips info? Has anyone done this and what did they/g/f think? How do you arrange this?
She has said i need to arrange this but have no idea!

Answer 1

its a trap i can tell you that right now. You do it your relationship will end guaranteed. oh well go live out your fantasy just make sure it's worth it.

Answer 2

I actually find it very odd that you G/F is more than happy for you to sleep with another woman and seems to be the one who is pushing for this to happen!
Your g/f sounds like she's used to getting things pretty much her own way, and you dont sound to sure of the idea as you say you'd do it for her because you love her so much, where do your feelings fit into this?
I have been with my partner for 10 years and love him and respect him enough not to push him into something he didn't really want to do and he'd never do the same to me!
You might think your both strong enough to handle this, but women are very protective where their men are concerned, she may go with the flow at the time, but afterwards when the reality of whats happened kicks in, the accusations and insecurities will surface, did you enjoy it, is she better than me?
The reason she wants you to arrange it is simple, when it all falls out of bed, she can say it was you that set it all up and you can take the flack.
If you think you can handle it, go for it, just remember when a third party gets involved somebody always ends up getting hurt!

Answer 3

My gf wants to do the same, but she wants me to find the girl also. I told her, if she wants to see me do it, she needs to find me the girl. She has yet to do so. Granted, I think she would let me, but its not something we talk about all the time, usually when we are in the course of sexual relations.
My advice, if she is wanting you to do it, let her find the girl. That way, she can pick someone that isn't as pretty as she is, and she won't think you are going to leave her for the prettier girl.

If you still want to arrange it, you need to find a girl that is willing to do so first of all, and second, she can't be as attractive as your gf. Also, your girl needs to approve of her, if she doesn't, you are looking at disaster. Also, make sure you do it someplace neutral. Your girl will never want to sleep in a bed or do anything in a bed that you and another girl did stuff in.
If your girl is wanting to watch, then a hotel would be perfect.

There is the possibility that it will break you up. I would suggest let it be for a while. If she still persues it, then you need to test the waters, like talking to a girl online or in person. If your girls is ok with it, then ok, go on from there. The thing is, you would have to tell the second girl that you are wanting her for sex only, because the second girl might think she is doing things for her boyfriend, which you wouldn't be since you are already taken.

Good luck

Answer 4

It sounds like your gf is into girls and wants to try it out and what would be a better and more comfortable way for her to try it out than with you? I have also had threesomes with my boyfriend and you have to let her pick the girl. I pick her out and I think if my boyfriend chose it wouldn't be as good for me. I have picked out a girl and let him go talk to her first and then bring her over and I talk to her and am friendly and inviting and then we go on from there, another time it was actually with one of my friends and has not damaged how I feel for her or damaged how I feel when we all hang out together. I know he would never cheat on me and only gets to do anything with other women when I am around so it all depends on your trust level and willingness to keep the relationship going and if it's worth it to both of you if problems arise from this experiance. But, you only live once and so I say give it a whirl and see what happens! Good luck!

Answer 5

sounds like the SEVEN YEAR ITCH on both sides . but after such an event if your relationship is as genuine as you say the trust you have for each other will go and your partnership will deteriorate and fall apart. basically if you want to be together in 7 years time and you really do have a loving relationship don't do it .then again if you have an open relationship where you both have sexual relationships with others whilst maintaining your own loving relationship go for it as you say you KNOW you can handle it. i.m not going to suggest how to arrange it as i think from the sound of your letter you have no idea of the possible outcome of such a proposal

Answer 6

In your question you was organising WHEN, WHERE and WHO WITH but never thought about what would happen after the big occasion. I did what your thinking of and the only problem is going back to normal sex. For a few weeks after the threesome you have great sex thinking of what happened previously but then its hard to better it. I'm not saying Yes or No to your question but just to think about how it may effect your future sex life. If it helps i was confused when i was asked the same question but i can only say slow down and think hard, only you know what you are as a couple etc

Answer 7

I used to do this all the time with my ex (note we split up for other reasons, not threesomes). We would go out to a bar and she would pick out the girl she would like to see me with, invite her over, and fill her in on what she wanted. All I had to do was stand there and be charming. =)

When you go to do it, have plenty of wine on hand, and flirt/touch only your girlfriend. She will bring the other girl into it when she is ready. If you start flirting or touching the new girl then your g/f will freak out. Don't ask me why but you need to let her be in control.

Answer 8

I got into threesomes/ foursomes with (a now ex) boyfriend who'd done it before and I did it because I wanted to please him.

My advice is as long as your relationship is ROCK SOLID as far as trust goes( on both sides) and neither of you get jealous seeing the other with somebody else you should be fine, its greatfun if you treat it that way , not too seriously, Also its better not to arrange to meet the other person again keep it to one time only as I find if you or she get too chummy with the other person it can start problems in your relationship. If you want to try it again try it with a different person

Answer 9

I have been in a relatonship and had a threesome. It never works! there is always the feeling that the other persons better or they wanted them more!

If you both feel you can handle seeing each other with some one else go for it.

But if there are any issues then I really wouldn't.
In my experience its always better to threesomes with close friends, or drunk at a party!! lol

Answer 10

I would suggest to let her arrange it, that way she feels more secure with it knowing that it was someone she picked and not someone YOU may have the hots for...If you have been together this long I wouldnt see any problems coming up since she is the one to bring it up, except for what I mentioned above...and also talk about any limitations before and also if she wants to be involved also.

Answer 11

I guess that would be a good idea if there weren't any feelings between you two, but if you love her and she loves you, she's gonna be jealous bout the other girl, just think bout this, would u like to see her with another guy? i'm sure you don't. Maybe she´s bored with her sexlife and wants to do something different, you can try another kindda things.